Results: Regarding disowning children
Published on 10/01/2014
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1.
I notice surveys about disowning children. Now there is a difference between a child and an adult child would you agree. Yes
67%
1316 votes
No
12%
234 votes
Undecided
11%
214 votes
Not Applicable
10%
203 votes
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If your child is 21 or older and you met someone and got married and your child did not accept him or her would you still marry the person or let your child control your life ? Marry the person no matter what my child feels
57%
1127 votes
Not marry the guy because my child said she does not like them
14%
272 votes
live with the person but not marry him because that is what your child wants
12%
243 votes
Other (please specify)
18%
359 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| n/a | 3.20% | 64 |
| na | 3.05% | 61 |
| 1.75% | 35 | |
| not sure | 0.75% | 15 |
| undecided | 0.60% | 12 |
| depends | 0.40% | 8 |
| depends on the situation | 0.30% | 6 |
| don't know | 0.25% | 5 |
| i don't know | 0.15% | 3 |
| i dont know | 0.15% | 3 |
| no kids | 0.15% | 3 |
| unsure | 0.15% | 3 |
| none | 0.15% | 3 |
| work it out | 0.10% | 2 |
| not applicable | 0.10% | 2 |
| depends on situation | 0.10% | 2 |
| no children | 0.10% | 2 |
| undecided. | 0.05% | 1 |
| unsure, it depends? | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would be so curious as why kid doesn't like the person, often kids can pick up on things | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on the situation. my child always comes first no matter what age | 0.05% | 1 |
| i don't know what i would do | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would find out what the issue is | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on situation in many ways. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would check out the child's concerns about this person before i would decide what to do. | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on how the guy is | 0.05% | 1 |
| idk | 0.05% | 1 |
| ask the child what is there that you don't like about this person and find out if is true and break relation with that person. | 0.05% | 1 |
| rien | 0.05% | 1 |
| there would be so many factors that play in to this. it would depend on the reason they don't like him, how the so feels about it, etc. i would probably want to try and work through things before going through with a wedding. | 0.05% | 1 |
| kids come first | 0.05% | 1 |
| it depends on why they didn't like them | 0.05% | 1 |
| not sure' | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends why they don't like him | 0.05% | 1 |
| give the relationship between them time to develop | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would meet with my child and my fiance and try to iron things out. | 0.05% | 1 |
| it depends how long i was into the relationship. | 0.05% | 1 |
| it would depend on the reason my child didn't like the person. | 0.05% | 1 |
| na---get a life | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would weigh it all out in time | 0.05% | 1 |
| pray that it all works out | 0.05% | 1 |
| couldnt say | 0.05% | 1 |
| find out why | 0.05% | 1 |
| dunno | 0.05% | 1 |
| hard to say | 0.05% | 1 |
| fuckoff | 0.05% | 1 |
| na- no kids and no desire to marry | 0.05% | 1 |
| would depend on situation and reason "child" did not accept them. | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to find out what the issue is | 0.05% | 1 |
| don't have children | 0.05% | 1 |
| not applicable because i do not have a child, let alone one over the age of 21. i prefer that for now because i am 21. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i don't believe in marraige. | 0.05% | 1 |
| discuss the issue | 0.05% | 1 |
| i think the child's opinion should be considered, and if there is a legitimate reason the child doesn't like the person, then it should be considered more heavily. sometimes children, even adult children, can pick up on things that a parent might not | 0.05% | 1 |
| this is a very grey area and you want a black or white answer. | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on the person and situation | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on reason child does not like them | 0.05% | 1 |
| it is wise to listen to the reactions of family members about those you date. however, it is up to you to evaluate their concerns and decide what is best for you. no children of any age should be allowed to dictate their parents' lives. | 0.05% | 1 |
| marry god's will | 0.05% | 1 |
| i don't have children. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i don't have a child | 0.05% | 1 |
| it would depend on circumstances | 0.05% | 1 |
| take more time before marriage | 0.05% | 1 |
| it depends if the child doesn't like any relationship i've been in besides their other parent | 0.05% | 1 |
| listen to what the child says and make decsion after | 0.05% | 1 |
| dont know any facts | 0.05% | 1 |
| would depend on reasons | 0.05% | 1 |
| take in to consideration my childs concerns | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would think that the situation and reason would play a role in my decision, so none of these answers work for me. | 0.05% | 1 |
| compromise | 0.05% | 1 |
| have no kids | 0.05% | 1 |
| it depends on each situation | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on why my child won't accept him...is it valid or not | 0.05% | 1 |
| too many unknown variables here. would have to know the exact situation | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends who the child doesn't like them | 0.05% | 1 |
| doesn't apply | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would try to assess the reason they don't like him, there might be something there | 0.05% | 1 |
| it depends if child is just being selfish or has a valid reason to diskike this person. discuss this with an open mind | 0.05% | 1 |
| it would depend on the reason my child didn't approve. if the reason wasn't valid, it wouldn't hold any weight on my decision | 0.05% | 1 |
| it depends on the reason why. would typically lean towards trusting my child if they gave a valid reason for not liking them. | 0.05% | 1 |
| dont know | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends entirely on each situation | 0.05% | 1 |
| too many variables to make a random decision. | 0.05% | 1 |
| it would depend on why my child didn't like the person. | 0.05% | 1 |
| not sure..would have to allow time to amke a decision | 0.05% | 1 |
| would marry the person and keep my relationship with the child seperate if needed | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to get my child and spouse to find a happy medium. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would do what i feel was necessary for myself. if i'm happy and the person i'm marrying doesn't treat my child horribly then yes, i would marry them but if they treated them like garbage, i would not be with them | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to work out with both parties before marrying the person | 0.05% | 1 |
| na will never re marry.. unless drew barrymore is available | 0.05% | 1 |
| no | 0.05% | 1 |
| just depends on the situation. if they cant accept my kids and dont like them no i would not be with them qt all. but if its just my xhild does not like them and has no reason why then yea i would marry them. | 0.05% | 1 |
| if my child still lived with me and was contributing and not just being a bum...i would not get married. | 0.05% | 1 |
| will never marry again | 0.05% | 1 |
| get to the bottom of the problem | 0.05% | 1 |
| need more research on this issue | 0.05% | 1 |
| a lot depends on the situation. my kids know me well, so if they thought somebody was horrible for me i would really have to think about why they thought that... | 0.05% | 1 |
| work out all differences. | 0.05% | 1 |
| bad survey, worded really bad | 0.05% | 1 |
| wait and try again later | 0.05% | 1 |
| other factors to consider | 0.05% | 1 |
| n/a no kids | 0.05% | 1 |
| have no children | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would carefully weigh the consequences either way | 0.05% | 1 |
| sounds liike counseling time is needed then | 0.05% | 1 |
| undecided. depends on situation | 0.05% | 1 |
| obviously not a black and white issue, but once you've raised your children, you should be able to do what makes you happy, but the kids may make your life miserable if you 'defy' them | 0.05% | 1 |
| find out reasons why my child does not like the person i'm with.this has happened to me and the differences were worked out through communication. | 0.05% | 1 |
| it really depends on why my child doesn't like this person but if it was nothing i would get married | 0.05% | 1 |
| i'd look very hard at why my child didn't like my spouse | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to find a middle | 0.05% | 1 |
| i don't have children, so can't say. | 0.05% | 1 |
| depend on the situation | 0.05% | 1 |
| not something i can relate to so cannot answer | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on the reason for the objection (abuse, con-man, etc.) | 0.05% | 1 |
| i think it depends on how long you have known this person before you marry the person and disown your child. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would talk with my child, and listen to his/her reasons, and this totally depends on the 'other' person, and the child, and you. | 0.05% | 1 |
| vote quimby! | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on why children didnt like the person | 0.05% | 1 |
| take everything into consideration. | 0.05% | 1 |
| never had that happen. | 0.05% | 1 |
| not a marrying type. | 0.05% | 1 |
| too many 'it depends' factors | 0.05% | 1 |
| there has to be a happy medium, sometimes kids know something you may not, don't be desperate. | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on situation and why they weren't liked | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on why the child doesn't like them | 0.05% | 1 |
| need to find out why the child does not like the person. | 0.05% | 1 |
| find out why my son doesn't like him and then decide | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on the reasoning | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on the reason child doesn't like the guy | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would judge by my childs reasons | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to come to a compromise | 0.05% | 1 |
| maybe look deeper into the relationship before marrying | 0.05% | 1 |
| zzzzzzzzzz | 0.05% | 1 |
| i don't know. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would tell my adult child that i would listen to what they have to say but all in all i would be making this decission on my own. | 0.05% | 1 |
| this is hard to say without being in the situation. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would try to make things work and wait for the approval from my child | 0.05% | 1 |
| i'd respect my child's input and inquire about their feelings (though i'm a guy and wouldn't consider marrying a guy) | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would ask my child to explain their concerns before taking any action. | 0.05% | 1 |
| discuss | 0.05% | 1 |
| pray and make sure the person is for me | 0.05% | 1 |
| dont have kids | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would need to know/understand what their problem is with my significant other. if it was abuse-related (physical/emotional), i'd change my tune about my significant other. | 0.05% | 1 |
| it would really depend on the reasons | 0.05% | 1 |
| i trust my adult child so if they didn't like the person there would be a good reason why | 0.05% | 1 |
| i have no idea. | 0.05% | 1 |
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Do you feel once your child is old enough to be on there own it gives them no right to dictate your life Yes
53%
1035 votes
No
25%
498 votes
Undecided
22%
434 votes
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4.
Now if you got married and your child decided they will not be part of your life with the person you married but still want you to be in there life how would you handle it Tell your child the person I married is part of my life so either you accept both of us or neither
38%
745 votes
Tell the child I will visit you when ever I can but you will not be allowed in our homes since you do not accept that person and it is his home also
28%
550 votes
Or just say well then I guess we need to go our seperate ways
13%
257 votes
Other (please specify)
24%
471 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| na | 3.95% | 80 |
| n/a | 3.26% | 66 |
| 2.13% | 43 | |
| not sure | 1.04% | 21 |
| undecided | 0.64% | 13 |
| depends | 0.40% | 8 |
| idk | 0.25% | 5 |
| don't know | 0.25% | 5 |
| unsure | 0.20% | 4 |
| depends on the situation | 0.20% | 4 |
| not applicable | 0.15% | 3 |
| work it out! | 0.10% | 2 |
| i don't know | 0.10% | 2 |
| deal with it | 0.10% | 2 |
| accept it | 0.10% | 2 |
| it depends | 0.10% | 2 |
| i don't have children. | 0.10% | 2 |
| i dont know | 0.10% | 2 |
| my kids come first | 0.10% | 2 |
| work it out | 0.10% | 2 |
| no children | 0.10% | 2 |
| woulnt marry | 0.05% | 1 |
| n.a | 0.05% | 1 |
| i'd maintain a close relationship to my child | 0.05% | 1 |
| not giving up my child for anyone | 0.05% | 1 |
| none of the above, i would still let my child visit me | 0.05% | 1 |
| whatever. | 0.05% | 1 |
| why does my only option require estrangement from my child? | 0.05% | 1 |
| my child is always welcome in my home. but he has to be polite to every member of the household. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would have to be in the situation | 0.05% | 1 |
| punctuation, please. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would just continue both relationships as usual and it would be up to my adult child to decide if they would still be involved with situations that also included my new husband | 0.05% | 1 |
| find a solution to solve a problem, sometimes not listening to others and being arrogant can lead you to death. | 0.05% | 1 |
| rien | 0.05% | 1 |
| i can't imagine i would ever be in this situation. i watched my husband's father practically disown him because he chose his now wife over his own son. i would hope if i ever remarried again that i would consider my child's feelings and hold off. | 0.05% | 1 |
| terrible choices | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would always see my child | 0.05% | 1 |
| n | 0.05% | 1 |
| tell him/her that i love them both, and i want them both, please don't be that way | 0.05% | 1 |
| your children come first. i don't care how old they are. pull your head out of your butt. | 0.05% | 1 |
| respect your child's feelings and try to come to an agreement | 0.05% | 1 |
| crazy | 0.05% | 1 |
| be part of their life any way i can | 0.05% | 1 |
| my child will always be my child, men come and go....so i would never in be in a similiar situation | 0.05% | 1 |
| *their | 0.05% | 1 |
| live with my child. | 0.05% | 1 |
| too difficult a situation to answer with multiple choice. | 0.05% | 1 |
| none of the above | 0.05% | 1 |
| dont know | 0.05% | 1 |
| argh--na!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | 0.05% | 1 |
| tell my child that i will visit them, and continue to invite the child over, hoping that someday they'd learn to love my spouse | 0.05% | 1 |
| visit child whenever possible, but be welcoming of child in their home | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to find out why my child doesn't like my new spouse. | 0.05% | 1 |
| visit them when the other person was not around | 0.05% | 1 |
| talk to your child | 0.05% | 1 |
| couldnt say | 0.05% | 1 |
| dunno | 0.05% | 1 |
| tell the child that you will see them outside the home but you are still married to the man and that's the way it's going to stay | 0.05% | 1 |
| fuckoff | 0.05% | 1 |
| "there" in this case is spelled "their" | 0.05% | 1 |
| spend time together without my partner | 0.05% | 1 |
| no child | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to work it out | 0.05% | 1 |
| unsure of reaction unless i'm in situation | 0.05% | 1 |
| my daughter would always be accepting of whatever i do | 0.05% | 1 |
| i wouldn't marry them | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to come to a compromise | 0.05% | 1 |
| there are other solutions that can be made. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i think i would have a long discussion with my child and hopefully come to an agreement that it is my life and who i marry should be up to me and that i still want my child in my life. | 0.05% | 1 |
| just keep hoping the child warms up to them. | 0.05% | 1 |
| none | 0.05% | 1 |
| if this happened to me, since it has not, i will allow the child and spouse to do whatever they wish with whatever of which they have a right. | 0.05% | 1 |
| agree to disagree, still welcome in my home. no ultimatums. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would take my time with my child and hope that eventually they would accept my spouse | 0.05% | 1 |
| talk more | 0.05% | 1 |
| i don't believe in marraige. | 0.05% | 1 |
| it depends on the circumstance | 0.05% | 1 |
| will visit you and you are always welcome in our home | 0.05% | 1 |
| allow the child to visit if they wish and see them on your own when you can. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would try to make them get a long the child is your flesh and blood after all. | 0.05% | 1 |
| wow, this would just be such a sad sad thing to have happen, | 0.05% | 1 |
| the child needs to not be so childish, the parent should have talked this over before getting married. | 0.05% | 1 |
| abandoning your child, adult or otherwise is never the answer. agree to disagree and continue to be a parent. | 0.05% | 1 |
| no clue this is a tough one! | 0.05% | 1 |
| my child is welcome at home any time she or he wants | 0.05% | 1 |
| you don't have to accept them and i still love you and you will always be apart of my life | 0.05% | 1 |
| meet one on one | 0.05% | 1 |
| simply leave the person. my child means more then any one | 0.05% | 1 |
| no good answer here | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would accept it, but work on improving their relationship | 0.05% | 1 |
| their would have to be compromise | 0.05% | 1 |
| i don't know what i'd do | 0.05% | 1 |
| do nothing | 0.05% | 1 |
| absolutely still c them - they were my children first.. | 0.05% | 1 |
| what | 0.05% | 1 |
| unfair answers to choose from | 0.05% | 1 |
| say nothing. they'll get over it. | 0.05% | 1 |
| other | 0.05% | 1 |
| unconditional acceptance | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would never tell me child to go our seperate ways, if it came to be like that i would not be with that person. she does not have to like them but if it is that bad i probably wouldn't be with that person in the first place. | 0.05% | 1 |
| this is ridiculous. won't happen with my family. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i'll visit with you and you can come to our home if you treat my spouse with respect even if you don't like him/her. | 0.05% | 1 |
| talk it out | 0.05% | 1 |
| i have no kids | 0.05% | 1 |
| have no kids | 0.05% | 1 |
| be nice | 0.05% | 1 |
| compromise is the way to go | 0.05% | 1 |
| i will be welcoming whenever the opportunity is presented | 0.05% | 1 |
| again, it depends | 0.05% | 1 |
| discuss the matter further and try to find a god compromise | 0.05% | 1 |
| doesn't apply | 0.05% | 1 |
| family councelling | 0.05% | 1 |
| visit them and allow them over whenever they want | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would tell them i'll always be there if you need me, the ball is in your court now. having said that, i think there should be one on one time with your child occasionally, regardless of the relationship with your partner. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would always welcome my child in my home. | 0.05% | 1 |
| never would happen i put my child first | 0.05% | 1 |
| no kids | 0.05% | 1 |
| i'd still be in their life as much as possile. | 0.05% | 1 |
| visit child and have them come to my house. my kids no matter the age come first | 0.05% | 1 |
| i'd like to think i wouldn't let something like that come between my child(ren) and i | 0.05% | 1 |
| tell teh child that you are an adult and do not need their approval or dictator-like control in your life, you will do as you please and the child best show you the respect you deserve, no matter who you are with. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would have to see. i would not cut off my child | 0.05% | 1 |
| agree to keep a relationship with the child regardless if they like my new partner or not | 0.05% | 1 |
| i can't imagine this kind of insecurity. | 0.05% | 1 |
| tell my child they're both adults they need to find a middle ground | 0.05% | 1 |
| my child knows better than to put me in that position. | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on the stuation | 0.05% | 1 |
| no idea | 0.05% | 1 |
| now n/a | 0.05% | 1 |
| listen to my children - i was burned before by not listening to their instincts | 0.05% | 1 |
| my child comes first | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would visit my child alone | 0.05% | 1 |
| no one is worth me throwing away my blood for!! | 0.05% | 1 |
| meet somewhere other than your home, but maintain a contact/relationship with your child | 0.05% | 1 |
| none of these | 0.05% | 1 |
| you made the decision to have the child. your children always come first, even before yourself (definitely before your new significant other). | 0.05% | 1 |
| work it out with the both of them. | 0.05% | 1 |
| if the child feels that strongly, there's probably a reason. talk to the child about it. maybe the person you married it's who you think they are. | 0.05% | 1 |
| other factors to consider | 0.05% | 1 |
| not sure, no children | 0.05% | 1 |
| none of those options | 0.05% | 1 |
| i wouldn't put my children adult or otherwise in that postion | 0.05% | 1 |
| come to an agreement | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would never choose a partner over my child...period. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i will never be in this situation | 0.05% | 1 |
| tell them they don't have | 0.05% | 1 |
| child is always welcome to come home. i don't know for what reason, maybe the child has a good reason for not liking the guy? maybe he's a bad guy of some sort? | 0.05% | 1 |
| nothing stops a parent being a parent | 0.05% | 1 |
| tell child we are family now and the must be cordial to each other and my child will always be welcomed in my home | 0.05% | 1 |
| my child would come first | 0.05% | 1 |
| i am not sure what i would do | 0.05% | 1 |
| see the child separately | 0.05% | 1 |
| i can't say. i don't have any children and have never been married, though was engaged. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would see my child whenever i could an allow them into my home. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would never marry someone my child wasn't comfortable with | 0.05% | 1 |
| i'm in this situation right now except instead of my child, its my brother who i have always been really close with. he refuses to have anything to do with my husband. | 0.05% | 1 |
| grow the fuck up and handle it like an adult. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i will always loved my child and some how they accept this | 0.05% | 1 |
| see your child without your spouse | 0.05% | 1 |
| not sure. going through it right now. | 0.05% | 1 |
| find a happy medium. love comes and goes, don't lose your child. | 0.05% | 1 |
| there is not much in this world that would make me disown or stop speaking to my children!! | 0.05% | 1 |
| discuss things with the child | 0.05% | 1 |
| make them work it out, | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to find a middle | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to work out the relation. | 0.05% | 1 |
| other person is a part of my life so deal with it | 0.05% | 1 |
| ?? | 0.05% | 1 |
| spend time with my child | 0.05% | 1 |
| none of the above - you are still a mother and need to continue the relationship with your adult child (really, lady grow up) | 0.05% | 1 |
| see someone if that would help before you marry - depending on how close you are with the chlid | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would say i will send you holiday and birthday presents and please call or visit me when you can | 0.05% | 1 |
| vote quimby! | 0.05% | 1 |
| tell them to get over it | 0.05% | 1 |
| tell the child they have to make their own choices. and i'm not changing the way i live because of their choices. | 0.05% | 1 |
| too mant variables as to why | 0.05% | 1 |
| never had that happen | 0.05% | 1 |
| if you raised your child correctly and to have similar morals, ideas and values as you, the partner should fit right in, no?! | 0.05% | 1 |
| give it time. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would try to make amends | 0.05% | 1 |
| never let my man before my child | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would not allow the situation to get that far and as to the question above....my child has never dictated my life | 0.05% | 1 |
| tell them to "grow up" | 0.05% | 1 |
| can't imagine my children having that attitude unless the person i married was beating me or something and then they would be right | 0.05% | 1 |
| my kid would alway be welcomed but if they have a problem with it then they have to come to terms with it themselves | 0.05% | 1 |
| it depends on why the child does not like the new spouse | 0.05% | 1 |
| my kids would not do that | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would not marry the person | 0.05% | 1 |
| not sure. | 0.05% | 1 |
| be active in my child's life with the stipulations | 0.05% | 1 |
| love my child and visit him when i can | 0.05% | 1 |
| tell him we're family--get over it! | 0.05% | 1 |
| visit the child whenever possible, but don't ban them from my house | 0.05% | 1 |
| i do not know | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would never disregard my children they come first | 0.05% | 1 |
| tell child you love them, if they married someone you didn't like, you would still want them to be in your life and expect the same from them | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on situation | 0.05% | 1 |
| dumb | 0.05% | 1 |
| not sure .... get to the bottom of the reason the child doesn't like parents mate | 0.05% | 1 |
| love them but accept their decision | 0.05% | 1 |
| tell them phoning and emails will have to do until they understand your choice. make sure you tell them how much you love them. | 0.05% | 1 |
| if your child's old enough he should respect your decision...but also you making that partner a step parent...i think there should be more bonding | 0.05% | 1 |
| work it out, for pity's sake | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would nevervallow myself to be in this position so my answer is na | 0.05% | 1 |
| stupid | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would not let anyone come between me and my child | 0.05% | 1 |
| just give it time | 0.05% | 1 |
| figure it out | 0.05% | 1 |
| . | 0.05% | 1 |
| my child would come first regardless | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would spend time with my child somewhere besides my home | 0.05% | 1 |
| tell adult child you love them and let them make decision to visit or not | 0.05% | 1 |
| wait and see how things pan out. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would never marry someone my child hated | 0.05% | 1 |
| i dont have kids | 0.05% | 1 |
| compromise | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would try to find a compromise. | 0.05% | 1 |
| tell them this is something you are gonna have to deal with cuz i am gonna be with this person a long time so you know where we are when you wanna do that | 0.05% | 1 |
| visit at there house | 0.05% | 1 |
| just be reasonable. | 0.05% | 1 |
5.
5.
Now if grandchildren are involved should your child have the right to stop you from seeing them because you married this person they are so against Yes
15%
296 votes
No
45%
877 votes
Undecided
22%
429 votes
Not Applicable
19%
365 votes
6.
6.
If your child did stop you from having time with your grandchildren what would you do. Leave well enough alone
33%
656 votes
bring them to court for visitation rights
17%
330 votes
leave the person you married which caused all this just to see your grandchildren
9%
172 votes
tell the person how selfish they are and walk away from all of there life
23%
447 votes
Other (please specify)
22%
433 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| na | 4.22% | 86 |
| n/a | 3.73% | 76 |
| 2.11% | 43 | |
| not sure | 1.08% | 22 |
| undecided | 0.79% | 16 |
| don't know | 0.44% | 9 |
| depends | 0.29% | 6 |
| i don't know | 0.25% | 5 |
| unsure | 0.20% | 4 |
| idk | 0.15% | 3 |
| . | 0.15% | 3 |
| depends on the situation | 0.15% | 3 |
| work it out | 0.10% | 2 |
| none of the above | 0.10% | 2 |
| dunno | 0.10% | 2 |
| dont know | 0.10% | 2 |
| wait it out | 0.10% | 2 |
| not applicable | 0.10% | 2 |
| i dont know | 0.10% | 2 |
| i'm not sure | 0.10% | 2 |
| wouldnt marry | 0.05% | 1 |
| pray about it. | 0.05% | 1 |
| my family does not do this so i don't know how to answer | 0.05% | 1 |
| pray they will change their ways, give space for a bit | 0.05% | 1 |
| their - pronoun; there - location | 0.05% | 1 |
| my child comes first. they will always be there. mates not so much | 0.05% | 1 |
| win the game. | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to reconcile. | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to find a middle ground and work it out. if that does not happen i would leave well enough alone. | 0.05% | 1 |
| n/a? | 0.05% | 1 |
| continue discussing why they feel so strongly and try to make arrangements to be with grandkids separate from my husband | 0.05% | 1 |
| rien | 0.05% | 1 |
| whoever wrote this survey, i'm sorry you went/are going through whatever it is that gave you the idea to write this! no matter what side you are on. | 0.05% | 1 |
| terrible choices | 0.05% | 1 |
| talk to your child explain that you want to be part of your grandchild life. because when they get older they might think that you never cared about them and you dont want that god bless | 0.05% | 1 |
| it's my understanding that grandparents really don't have the right to see their grandchildren if the parents refuse. | 0.05% | 1 |
| ,m | 0.05% | 1 |
| they are only hurting the child | 0.05% | 1 |
| unknown | 0.05% | 1 |
| deal with it | 0.05% | 1 |
| o | 0.05% | 1 |
| ugh-na!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11 | 0.05% | 1 |
| talk it out | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would not choose a man over family | 0.05% | 1 |
| fuckoff | 0.05% | 1 |
| no child | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to work it out | 0.05% | 1 |
| i wouldn't be in this position. | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to come to a compromise | 0.05% | 1 |
| let them know using the children as a weapon is only hurting the children and try to come to some sort of compromise. | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to work something out | 0.05% | 1 |
| again, i would have to talk with my child and hopefully we would be able to settle our differences. | 0.05% | 1 |
| still call and write to the grandkids. | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to make amends | 0.05% | 1 |
| leave the situation as is. if the child decided to change their mind at any given time, so be it. | 0.05% | 1 |
| continue to communicate with adult child in hopes of resolution. | 0.05% | 1 |
| same as above | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to find out why your child dislikes your choice! | 0.05% | 1 |
| compromise.....if they insist on not bringing their children around your spouse, then just visit them without your spouse. it's unfortunate, but it's at least something. | 0.05% | 1 |
| continue to try to have a relationship with grandchildren | 0.05% | 1 |
| so so many things would factor into this, i have never experienced anything like this and hope i never will, so so sad | 0.05% | 1 |
| the reasoning needs to be addressed, if the new person was unsafe for the grands to be around or was a bad influence, then that is a legit argument. otherwise, it seems petty. | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to reason with my child and make them understand that the grandchildren will resent them later for not letting us have a healthy relationship | 0.05% | 1 |
| ther tone in these questions is very bitter, there is obviously a lot going on here that we aren't privvy to. you should get some counselling from someone who can learn more of your truth | 0.05% | 1 |
| attempt to work out an acceptable arrangement | 0.05% | 1 |
| no clue | 0.05% | 1 |
| it wont happen | 0.05% | 1 |
| i don't have children. | 0.05% | 1 |
| im not sure what i would | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on why they dont like this person | 0.05% | 1 |
| grow up and start acting like adults, this is stupid, why bring them to court and wasting their time. stop acting like children and start acting like responsible adults. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i really don't know, but not court,definitely not. | 0.05% | 1 |
| openly discuss why they feel the way they do. there might be a valid reason. | 0.05% | 1 |
| continue to show them love | 0.05% | 1 |
| again, not applicable | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to talk to my child to see why they are so against the person i married try to still get to see my grandchild even if i need to do it w/o my new spouse | 0.05% | 1 |
| stupid choices again! | 0.05% | 1 |
| unconditional love | 0.05% | 1 |
| this is nuts | 0.05% | 1 |
| talk | 0.05% | 1 |
| i have no kids | 0.05% | 1 |
| have no kids | 0.05% | 1 |
| tell them l was disapointed with them | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would work it out with my spouse and children | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would see my grandchildren as often as i could | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to reason with them | 0.05% | 1 |
| ask to visit without the other person whom you married that they have a problem with | 0.05% | 1 |
| these options are ridiculous | 0.05% | 1 |
| doesn't apply | 0.05% | 1 |
| determine what conditions would allow me to see the grandkids. | 0.05% | 1 |
| family counciling | 0.05% | 1 |
| fined out why and see if it can be worked out if not choice 2 | 0.05% | 1 |
| again, i would tell them, i'll always be here, so give me a call when you change your mind. you have no "rights" to your grandchildren. you had influence when you raised their parent, now it is up to them. | 0.05% | 1 |
| no kids | 0.05% | 1 |
| i'd try to work it out so that i could visit with the grandchildren without the spouse. | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on how the person i married treats my grandchilcren | 0.05% | 1 |
| n a | 0.05% | 1 |
| do my best to work things out | 0.05% | 1 |
| express my interst in seeing the grandkids and make it without the new partner if need be | 0.05% | 1 |
| will you stop this and grow up? | 0.05% | 1 |
| ca depend de ;la situation | 0.05% | 1 |
| he never would | 0.05% | 1 |
| once again every situation is different so would depend | 0.05% | 1 |
| would have decide depending on the actual situation | 0.05% | 1 |
| no clue what i would do | 0.05% | 1 |
| no | 0.05% | 1 |
| now. n/a | 0.05% | 1 |
| the child should not be deprived of their grandparent unless the person in question is a pervert - i would reason with my child | 0.05% | 1 |
| just unsure what i would do | 0.05% | 1 |
| this is a stupid question | 0.05% | 1 |
| you need to respect your adult child and grandchildren. they should not have to suffer for your decisions. leave them alone. | 0.05% | 1 |
| other factors to consider | 0.05% | 1 |
| go to their home without the partner | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to come to an agreement | 0.05% | 1 |
| give it time, it may work out later | 0.05% | 1 |
| this is insane | 0.05% | 1 |
| visit my grandchildren any way i can | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on the person; this is why i have cats and no kids | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to find arrangement that works | 0.05% | 1 |
| i have no idea. i don't have children or grandchildren, so i can't imagine the situation very well. | 0.05% | 1 |
| work it out with my child so that i could see my grandchildren and still stay married to the person i love | 0.05% | 1 |
| it wouldn't be a problem because my child is part of me and i would either wait until he/she was accepting of the person or i wouldn't marry them. | 0.05% | 1 |
| work out a compromise. | 0.05% | 1 |
| ask if you could see the grandchildren without your spouse | 0.05% | 1 |
| not sure what i would do. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i'd really need to know why this is happening | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on situatio | 0.05% | 1 |
| again depends | 0.05% | 1 |
| ask what the grandchild wants | 0.05% | 1 |
| ? | 0.05% | 1 |
| not something that will ever happen | 0.05% | 1 |
| arrange visits and keep the door of relationship/communication open | 0.05% | 1 |
| vote quimby! | 0.05% | 1 |
| again why dont they like my spouse... | 0.05% | 1 |
| no g kids yet, hate the hypothetical query. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i was in one where he was selfish enough to do this. he was abusive mentally. | 0.05% | 1 |
| find out why they do not want your spouse around their children. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i raised my child to reflect my beliefs and ideals....if they feel that strongly about the situation, i would reevaluate it myself | 0.05% | 1 |
| i have no idea | 0.05% | 1 |
| can't imagine that | 0.05% | 1 |
| find a mutual spot where you your child and you can meet. in a sense though, maybe its the fault that you remarried | 0.05% | 1 |
| no children | 0.05% | 1 |
| this would never happen, life is too short for such nonsense | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to find out why you cant see them and work out a plan | 0.05% | 1 |
| i'm not sure, did i marry a petifiel? | 0.05% | 1 |
| zzzzzzzzzzzz | 0.05% | 1 |
| visit without that person | 0.05% | 1 |
| pray for them to have more wisdom in their actions, and mend their thoughts | 0.05% | 1 |
| have an adult discussion with them. | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on situation | 0.05% | 1 |
| try to negotiate | 0.05% | 1 |
| have a good talk with my child, but my child isnt a selfish child | 0.05% | 1 |
| this survey breaks my heart | 0.05% | 1 |
| talk it out like an adult | 0.05% | 1 |
| none | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would not take any of the actions listed so mt answer is na | 0.05% | 1 |
| i | 0.05% | 1 |
| talk to them about it | 0.05% | 1 |
| the child can decide when he/she is older. | 0.05% | 1 |
| dont have kids | 0.05% | 1 |
| i'd have to find a way to figure out why my child was so angry with my significant other. my mom was in an abusive relationship and i needed to get out of the house asap. if i had a child, i would not want that man to be near my children alone. | 0.05% | 1 |
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