Results: Modern Day Etiquette
Published on 07/27/2016
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Times have changed and some things that were common place and accepted, are not quite correct any more. When you go visit someone in the hospital (not a new mother) , what is appropriate to take for them? Flowers or a potted plant -- some hospitals do not allow them in patient's rooms
30%
533 votes
Candy or chocolates -- lots of diet restrictions and allergies
14%
258 votes
Fruit or some baked goods -- same as above
16%
279 votes
Magazines or books -- if you know what they like to read
36%
652 votes
Coffee or another beverage -- if allowed
13%
228 votes
Ask them or their family first
34%
609 votes
Nothing
10%
183 votes
N/A
17%
302 votes
Other (please specify)
2%
38 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 0.26% | 8 | |
| Stuffed animal | 0.03% | 1 |
| Good manners are never outdated | 0.03% | 1 |
| yourself and your time | 0.03% | 1 |
| Latex balloons. They are not allowed in our hospitals here | 0.03% | 1 |
| a decent meal | 0.03% | 1 |
| Balloons and stuffed animals | 0.03% | 1 |
| anything that makes them happy | 0.03% | 1 |
| I usually take hospital appropriate attire such as a robe | 0.03% | 1 |
| A funny card, or collage of funny photos. | 0.03% | 1 |
| it depends on the person and what they are hospitalized for | 0.03% | 1 |
| Something healthy to eat you mentioned fruit and then you also said baked goods | 0.03% | 1 |
| Best gift I got was a dry erase board when I was having issues talking | 0.03% | 1 |
| a card and/or small gift,something inspirational or uplifting | 0.03% | 1 |
| My caring and concern | 0.03% | 1 |
| love | 0.03% | 1 |
| cards or balloons | 0.03% | 1 |
| crossword or word search puzzle books | 0.03% | 1 |
| Get well card, stuffed animal | 0.03% | 1 |
| balloons or coffee mug, something from the gift shop | 0.03% | 1 |
| cash | 0.03% | 1 |
| gum--grooming aids--kleenex - lottery scratch and win--rent a tv for them--pictures of family and pets and happier times if they are in for a long time | 0.03% | 1 |
| An appropriate greeting card | 0.03% | 1 |
| Loteries | 0.03% | 1 |
| card | 0.03% | 1 |
| teddy bear or blanket for the baby | 0.03% | 1 |
| How about a balloon? | 0.03% | 1 |
| real food | 0.03% | 1 |
| cards | 0.03% | 1 |
| Ask there nurse what you can bring them, then ask the patient if they would like and pick something that is allowed. | 0.03% | 1 |
| Take-out | 0.03% | 1 |
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2.
What is common place to do when someone dies? Send flowers to the funeral home, funeral or family home
47%
842 votes
Send a donation to a charity or hospital
31%
561 votes
Bring over food, dessert or something of that nature before or after funeral
38%
679 votes
Send a card with condolences only
37%
656 votes
Send a gift that would be significant to the person grieving, like a figurine or photo album
12%
219 votes
Nothing
4%
77 votes
N/A
16%
285 votes
Other (please specify)
2%
39 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 0.21% | 7 | |
| Mass card | 0.09% | 3 |
| consult family wishes | 0.03% | 1 |
| depends what the family wants | 0.03% | 1 |
| depends on the relationship. See if the family requests you do something special | 0.03% | 1 |
| it depends on how close you are to the people involved | 0.03% | 1 |
| food to the family | 0.03% | 1 |
| mass card ( a spiritual bouquet) | 0.03% | 1 |
| follow family or deceased request in will | 0.03% | 1 |
| Any of the above; not acknowledging is bad manners. | 0.03% | 1 |
| whatever the family wants | 0.03% | 1 |
| whatever makes you feel good | 0.03% | 1 |
| It depends on how close the person/family is. | 0.03% | 1 |
| depends on their requests | 0.03% | 1 |
| depends on the person | 0.03% | 1 |
| depends on whether the family has specified a preference | 0.03% | 1 |
| flowers or condolence message, unless otherwise requested | 0.03% | 1 |
| Go over there | 0.03% | 1 |
| Depends on relationship with deceased. | 0.03% | 1 |
| Pay your respect n give condolences | 0.03% | 1 |
| depends on the relationship | 0.03% | 1 |
| Some people gift money in lieu of flowers, especially if the family needs money | 0.03% | 1 |
| some families specify if flowers or donations | 0.03% | 1 |
| depend on how well I know the person | 0.03% | 1 |
| personal choice and should not be common place but personally appropriate | 0.03% | 1 |
| go to funeral and leave a donation | 0.03% | 1 |
| cash if family | 0.03% | 1 |
| It all depends on who it was and how close you are to them and there family. Make it from your heart. | 0.03% | 1 |
| it depends on how well I knew the person/family | 0.03% | 1 |
| money for the family | 0.03% | 1 |
| I send a card with condolences and . . . . but that's a cultural thing; most do not. | 0.03% | 1 |
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3.
What would be an appropriate gift for a couple getting married, after living together, raising children and already own their own home? This couple in question have been together for 12 years--living together for 10. The wedding is being held at their home, and sounds like a cocktail party (invitation says to arrive at 9 pm). Just buy a small gift, a token
31%
558 votes
Buy a gift just like you would any wedding
34%
615 votes
Bring a bottle of wine or spirits
27%
489 votes
Nothing
7%
132 votes
N/A
18%
323 votes
Other (please specify)
4%
65 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 0.41% | 9 | |
| money | 0.27% | 6 |
| gift card | 0.18% | 4 |
| Cash | 0.14% | 3 |
| ask them what they would like | 0.09% | 2 |
| Small gift/token, bottle of wine or just a card. | 0.05% | 1 |
| Ask them if they even want anything.Could just want people to show up. | 0.05% | 1 |
| Donate to a charity they support. | 0.05% | 1 |
| Something they could use | 0.05% | 1 |
| don't know | 0.05% | 1 |
| $ | 0.05% | 1 |
| ask them what they want or need, maybe even money toward something | 0.05% | 1 |
| buy something off the weddimg registry | 0.05% | 1 |
| Gift card for dining out | 0.05% | 1 |
| giftcards would be good or a gift basket of some sort | 0.05% | 1 |
| GIFT CARD! | 0.05% | 1 |
| ask if they are saving for a trip, etc | 0.05% | 1 |
| your attendance | 0.05% | 1 |
| A gift card for a restaurant date night | 0.05% | 1 |
| $$$ | 0.05% | 1 |
| Ask them | 0.05% | 1 |
| give a gift card | 0.05% | 1 |
| giftcard to a restaurant for a date night. | 0.05% | 1 |
| money or gift card to dine out | 0.05% | 1 |
| kindly decline | 0.05% | 1 |
| who gives a crap | 0.05% | 1 |
| ask them for ideas/things needed | 0.05% | 1 |
| Maybe a Gift card. | 0.05% | 1 |
| give money | 0.05% | 1 |
| well wishes | 0.05% | 1 |
| If you really know them get something they both would love, because you love them. | 0.05% | 1 |
| Gift card to a restaurant | 0.05% | 1 |
| Send a card | 0.05% | 1 |
| give gift card so couple buy what they want/need instead of adding to the "not wanted gift closet". | 0.05% | 1 |
| If the couple indicates no gifts, we give a donation to the food bank in their name. | 0.05% | 1 |
| send them a card congratulating them | 0.05% | 1 |
| money, gift cards | 0.05% | 1 |
| should be personally chosen for the people involved | 0.05% | 1 |
| money is always welcome. | 0.05% | 1 |
| find out what others are giving based on the couples needs | 0.05% | 1 |
| money or gift card | 0.05% | 1 |
| gift card to a family fun place | 0.05% | 1 |
| buy a gift card from the store that they registered at | 0.05% | 1 |
| Or bring a cash gift, that's always nice and they can get what they want. | 0.05% | 1 |
| A card? | 0.05% | 1 |
| photo frame | 0.05% | 1 |
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