Results for - How do you really feel? / How well do you think you know your friends?

1,591 voters participated in this survey
I used to work with a gal, we became friends, talked to each other on the phone, went to work events with each other, visited each others' houses, I babysat her kids, etc This went on for at least 3 years. Once I had my daughter we spent even more time with each other (she had 2 kids at time that were also young). We had a mutual 3rd friend and I started to notice that they did things together but I was never invited .. shopping, karaoke, dinners, etc. I finally asked her, why are you and E always doing things together, but I am not invited or you and I don't do those events together. She told me that I was only a friend to her for her to tell her affair details to. (Oh ya, the entire time she was having an affair). She went on to say, you are the only one who doesn't know my husband, family, in laws or neighbors. So I feel comfortable telling you about the affair, but I don't want to involve you in any other area of my life. Once she told me that I stopped returning her phone calls; basically I was just a sounding board. Have you ever been in this situation, where basically you were just a

1. I used to work with a gal, we became friends, talked to each other on the phone, went to work events with each other, visited each others' houses, I babysat her kids, etc This went on for at least 3 years. Once I had my daughter we spent even more time with each other (she had 2 kids at time that were also young). We had a mutual 3rd friend and I started to notice that they did things together but I was never invited .. shopping, karaoke, dinners, etc. I finally asked her, why are you and E always doing things together, but I am not invited or you and I don't do those events together. She told me that I was only a friend to her for her to tell her affair details to. (Oh ya, the entire time she was having an affair). She went on to say, you are the only one who doesn't know my husband, family, in laws or neighbors. So I feel comfortable telling you about the affair, but I don't want to involve you in any other area of my life. Once she told me that I stopped returning her phone calls; basically I was just a sounding board. Have you ever been in this situation, where basically you were just a "tool" in someone's life to use when it was convenient?

Yes
32%
514 votes
Maybe
15%
232 votes
Not sure
21%
331 votes
No
32%
514 votes

2. Unfortunately, I ran into this gal so many times at university, but managed to avoid any long conversations. Would you have talked to her?

Yes
12%
192 votes
No
45%
708 votes
Undecided
28%
444 votes
Not Applicable
16%
247 votes

3. I never did tell anyone that she was having an affair; I look back and regret that I didn't, as I feel she might've been neglecting her kids. She is still married, don't know about the affair part. Would you have told her husband?

Yes
15%
238 votes
No
38%
609 votes
Undecided
30%
482 votes
Not Applicable
16%
262 votes

4. Have you ever treated someone like this, just had them in your life to tell discrete information to, and wanted them for nothing else?

Yes
6%
94 votes
No
66%
1,052 votes
Undecided
10%
164 votes
Not Applicable
18%
281 votes

5. If she would've been more honest about her so-called friend intentions with me, do you think that what she did would've been considered ok?

Yes
11%
180 votes
No
42%
676 votes
Undecided
29%
458 votes
Not Applicable
17%
277 votes
09/19/2015 Love & Relationships 1591 43 By: ptajuggalette

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