Results: Do you believe a midlife crisis is a real thing?
Published on 06/07/2016
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1.
1.
Do you believe a midlife crisis is a real? Yes
64%
1514 votes
No
15%
356 votes
Undecided
21%
492 votes
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My husband of 7 years recently told me that he didn't love me and wanted a divorce. I was devastated. I since learned the 46 year old love of my life has been having an affair with his 25 year old coworker.Has this ever happened to someone you know? Yes
40%
945 votes
No
43%
1010 votes
Undecided
7%
172 votes
Not Applicable
10%
235 votes
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This is completely out of character for him, and I am really having trouble coping. We also recently purchased a house 10 months ago, and I have that added stress. What would you do? Move on and say good riddance
48%
1122 votes
Have a breakdown
7%
171 votes
Wait and see
18%
417 votes
N/A
16%
374 votes
Sell the house
20%
470 votes
Keep the house
14%
335 votes
Other (please specify)
4%
97 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 0.33% | 10 | |
| 1 | 0.27% | 8 |
| counseling | 0.07% | 2 |
| not sure | 0.07% | 2 |
| If you can't afford to keep it your self, sell it and downsize, there's no shame in that | 0.03% | 1 |
| demand your half and sell | 0.03% | 1 |
| see an attorney and find out my options and then try to decide what is best at t | 0.03% | 1 |
| I don't know | 0.03% | 1 |
| Get an attorney and do what's right as he wronged you. | 0.03% | 1 |
| talk to jesus | 0.03% | 1 |
| COUNSELLING IF HE WILL DO IT. | 0.03% | 1 |
| talk to him, friend could be not physical attraction, just an ear without strings or close involvement to the situation only. | 0.03% | 1 |
| pray | 0.03% | 1 |
| confront, discuss, decide and execute. | 0.03% | 1 |
| Hire an attorney and take him for all he's got. | 0.03% | 1 |
| try to get him to go with you to counseling. If he won't go, go by yourself. | 0.03% | 1 |
| Don't know | 0.03% | 1 |
| Get a roommate | 0.03% | 1 |
| Hire the best attorney money can buy | 0.03% | 1 |
| hold your head up high, sell the house and live the life you deserve | 0.03% | 1 |
| I honestly don't know | 0.03% | 1 |
| Try counseling | 0.03% | 1 |
| get counseling | 0.03% | 1 |
| soooo terrible. i am so sorry. i do not know what i would do. | 0.03% | 1 |
| keep house but change locks | 0.03% | 1 |
| not sure-probably try to work through it | 0.03% | 1 |
| see a counselor | 0.03% | 1 |
| Do NOT make a major decision (like selling the house) for at least ONE full year. Do NOT do anything rash. Seek quality counseling. | 0.03% | 1 |
| marriage counselor helped us and we now have been married for 44 years | 0.03% | 1 |
| Wait and see. If it continues, selll the house. Sad ! | 0.03% | 1 |
| Seek counceling. | 0.03% | 1 |
| KEEP ON LOVING HIM, WITH HOPE FAITH & TRUST | 0.03% | 1 |
| Seek counseling. | 0.03% | 1 |
| Same happened to me menopause at 45 and andropause him 46 the storm will pass eventually if it's worth it hang on while he plays tell him he's worth fighting for he wants to be appreciated | 0.03% | 1 |
| talk to him and find out what the problem is | 0.03% | 1 |
| this is very personal. i wish you the best on what ever you decide. | 0.03% | 1 |
| During this difficult time I would find someone to talk to, such as a psychiatrist. I know this will help you cope. You hang in there. | 0.03% | 1 |
| What a jerk why would he purchased a house with you if he was going to ask for a divorce again what a blinking jerk . | 0.03% | 1 |
| Not there anymore! | 0.03% | 1 |
| file for divorce-seek legal counsel | 0.03% | 1 |
| seek some counselling. It is too important a decision to make via a survey over Tellwut | 0.03% | 1 |
| find a good divorce lawyer | 0.03% | 1 |
| offer a goodby blow job with a sharp knife | 0.03% | 1 |
| Take some time to yourslef to really think and pray. Don't make any quick or rash decissions. | 0.03% | 1 |
| Consult a therapist and an attorney. Also, find out if there is addiction involved. If there is, go to Alanon. But, mostly, don't blame yourself. His choices are 100% his own and he can't blame you for them. | 0.03% | 1 |
| Take that m*****f****r for all he's worth and then say bye bye. | 0.03% | 1 |
| Get all the alimony / financial support you can | 0.03% | 1 |
| Find a another 25yr also:) | 0.03% | 1 |
| have an affair yourself | 0.03% | 1 |
| make his life miserable! | 0.03% | 1 |
| try to get him to therapy | 0.03% | 1 |
| Work it out | 0.03% | 1 |
| have a cool off then talk it out go from there | 0.03% | 1 |
| Pray a lot | 0.03% | 1 |
| pray first? | 0.03% | 1 |
| Seek counseling from minister or counselor. | 0.03% | 1 |
| If you can afford to stay in your house, do so. Take him for all you can. If it is a midlife crisis, would you really want him back. No excuse for his behavior | 0.03% | 1 |
| Keep the house if you're financially able to do so and it's what you want. | 0.03% | 1 |
| Sell the house, get your share and move on | 0.03% | 1 |
| Move on | 0.03% | 1 |
| talk with husband for long time and decide what to do. | 0.03% | 1 |
| Take him to the cleaners!!!!!!! Make sure u get alimony. Don' t be nice | 0.03% | 1 |
| Problem known is half fixed | 0.03% | 1 |
| Put him out til he makes a decision. Go to counseling, with him, by yourself if necessary. Then wait and see, if you think you want him back. In answer to your final question, I would take him back if u love him & he's sorry. trust will take time | 0.03% | 1 |
| best not to make a big decision like this for a year | 0.03% | 1 |
| Seek out good counsel as soon as possible. | 0.03% | 1 |
| kill him.... | 0.03% | 1 |
| cant really say | 0.03% | 1 |
| get therapy | 0.03% | 1 |
| See a marriage councelor | 0.03% | 1 |
| Let him go if that is what he wants. | 0.03% | 1 |
| Divorce him, sell the house and keep the money | 0.03% | 1 |
| PRAY! | 0.03% | 1 |
| pray for guidance | 0.03% | 1 |
| take him for everything that he's got | 0.03% | 1 |
| If you can't afford the house you will have to sell, if he is still helping with it and you have kids see if you can afford and it will spend on if both your names are on it too. There is a lot to consider but if he did that I think you need to move | 0.03% | 1 |
| See or talk to a person who's experienced with this. | 0.03% | 1 |
| Persist in keeping the marriage together and trying to sort it out, if that's what you want. | 0.03% | 1 |
| go to counseling | 0.03% | 1 |
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4.
I am 43 years old, and this will be my second divorce. I feel like I can never be happy again. Do you think it is possible that I can get over this and find a decent man? Yes
65%
1529 votes
No
8%
189 votes
Undecided
17%
401 votes
Not Applicable
10%
243 votes
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5.
Finally, if after some soul searching and after his midlife crisis was over, would you ever consider taking him back? Yes
10%
246 votes
No
52%
1225 votes
Undecided
26%
610 votes
Not Applicable
12%
281 votes
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