Results: Kids & Punishment: I'm wondering how parents are disciplining their lil' ones these days.
Published on 08/23/2020
How do you punish your children when they misbehave? I've been wondering about this for a bit especially after my friend was frustrated at her daughter's behaviour and venting that without grounding as an option, she thought she'd have to start spanking her kid and she did NOT want to do this. We discussed some options which I tried to put down below. Some are NOT options at all but we did find out that some people did them, like depriving their child of sleep for example. My pal ain't doing that. But what about the rest of the world?
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Kids & Punishment: I'm wondering how parents are disciplining their lil' ones these days. Spanking - to be clear, I mean like one to three swats on a clothed bottom. I do **NOT** mean whipping the kid with a belt or a hairbrush, or any type of implement. (Apparently the current statistics are that 35% of parents still spank their children from the journal JAMA Pediatrics)
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363 votes
Grounding - I imagine that during a lock-down when they are already grounded, this might be a weird punishment but.....
15%
342 votes
Time-outs (in room or in corner)
20%
470 votes
Take away allowance
13%
300 votes
Give additional chores
13%
301 votes
Push-ups/sit-ups/other physical demanding activity
2%
56 votes
(**This has been done but it should NOT be done**) Depriving the misbehaving child of sleep
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20 votes
(**This has been done but it should NOT be done**) Forcing the kid to drink hot sauce or eat something unpleasant
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24 votes
Weird option - paying the kid to behave better. (Apparently some parents do this.)
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33 votes
Take away something - favourite activity/movie/toy/book/outing/dessert
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452 votes
Other (please specify)
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26 votes
Not Applicable
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1385 votes
Diaper discipline? Apparently if your 8 year old (for example) is behaving like a brat, a punishment is to make him/her wear diapers and tell the child you'll take photos to show their friends....huh?? Judging by a google search, this is being done...?!
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- I HAVE NO CHILDREN
- My daughters are grown and moved out. They wwre good girls growing up and we never had to punish them.
- Its hard cause every child is different to what will work with them.My child was difficult growing up i tried to spank her one time but before i could actually spank her she pee on me and i could go through with it ,so i grounded her for two days.I figured she knew i was mad enough to try and spank her she knew i meant business and i knew she was so scared to pee on me grounding her was enough. In case your wondering what she did she sprayed her body spray in the eyes of a boy that was mentally not there.His grandma came up to me in a store to tell me and i didnt know her but she knew me cause my husband.I asked my daughter why she did it and all she could say was he was bothering me and instead of moving to a different seat or telling an adult she took it in her own hands and could have blinded him...She is a grown adult now and works real hard and has grown so much im proud of her.
- The diaper one is degradeing I would never do that.
- No discipline. She gets anything she wants. Age 10
- not sure did not really think about this.
- Taking away there cell phone.
- One of the reasons I vehemently believe in the Death Penalty is because, as a child, I KNEW the punishment I'd get for each and every "crime" (and yes--to my parents, transgressions were crimes). There has to be something so terrible as to be a deterrent. From what I've seen "these days," timeouts and lots of other "expert" suggestions just don't work. Spanking did...for some things and for some time.
- My youngest is 2. No I do not spank, or force feed terrible things, or deprive her of sleep. As of now she responds best firm speech and directing her in the appropriate direction.
- I am still a believer of a swats on the bottom until a child is about 6. After that a variety of punishments like taking special things away, allowances etc. By the time they are teens nothing is going to stop them unless you have developed a good relationship and then it can talked through.
- good ORIGINAL survey
- I take there phones if it’s bad
- While my children are adults now, I used to spank them, no tv or friends for a week and no treats. The odd times I would let them read a book or write 500 lines on what they shouldn't do
- "Spare the rod, spoil the child!" A spanking, and an explanation afterwards as to why it was given, and then a show of love for the child, will point the child on the road to righteousness, even as Our Heavenly Father does with us! God spanks us at times, in love, to point us in the right direction, so we don't walk off the cliff.....and that's what we are to do with our children....because we love them! Spanking is not and should not be done out of anger, but out of love and concern that the child may be headed in the wrong direction. We are to discipline them for their own safety, as God does us! That is a loving parent! A parent that doesn't truly care, will let their child away with everything, thinking that discipline through any method, is cruel, when in fact the cruelty is allowing them to grow up without morals and guidelines, so they end up wasting their lives!
- Now where did I leave my chain saw?
- If you make them mind when young with mom look that says stop they mind and you have well behaved kids always. Spanking NO BARBARIC CHORES NO they have life to work they are kids
- Have them do something good for someone in need. Maybe make them see being good can be fun
- some parents are not teaching respect or obey teachers and elders and police or we not be in this mess we are today its starts at home
- All of these imply that the parent has the power. How about granting the power to the family? Through democratic discussion the family can decide what is appropriate and what should be the result of deviating from what the rules might be. I suggest you read Children the Challenge by Driekers or any one of a series of books written on Adlerian Philosophy.
- IDK
- Depends on the offense. If my child did something that could be dangerous or that hurt someone else, I gave them 3 swats on the butt. Other wise we did time outs in the cornerr, took away allowance or gave additional chores. Easy peasy.
- positive reinforcement and education will often extinguish bad behaviors. Simple mistakes should be forgiven and education should be given instead of punishment.
- The world doesn't value our children
- Long lectures
- Our 2 children are both grown up and married with families of their own. Our daughter and her husband give their son 14 and their 11 year old daughter extra chores to do. Earlier bedtime.
- talk to the child
- Talking their problem out with them..children can learn to rationale if taught at a.young age
- you have to punish but physical is a no no
- I don't believe in hitting the botom. My belief is when you take away something that a child likes it hurts more.
- I used to ground them when they were young.
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- When my daughter was young, taking away privileges (of any kind) was an effective form of discipline.
- My children are now in their 40s When they were small I used tiime out and or a swat on the bottom. When they got older and could understand we used removal of privilages and followed through on the consequences no matter how much our girls complained. they grew up as responsible citizens and are educated and enjoying their lives. So Happy
- Please remember to only discipline your child with fairness
- time outs work for children up to the age of 6
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- A wack or two on a diapered bottom for very young kids (doesn't hurt anything, but their pride and that's good enough). Grounding, time out or loss of allowance for older kids.
- good luck
- No kids...thank God!
- We've found that taking away device time has a pretty good effect on behavior - most of the time.
- no
- no kids sorry
- So many parents seem so lenient with their children.....I see these kids growing up to be problem teens and adults.....get a grip parents.........those kids need boundaries.............pick a form of punishment fitting to the crime and be consistent and stick to it!
- i am a grandfather to all my familys children and its my job to spoil them !!!!
- This is tough because punishment has to fit the 'crime' and the age of the child. Grounding a 6 year old is ridiculous and spanking a 15 year old is demeaning. Also, are we looking at talking back, not cleaning bedroom, drinking, drugs, promiscuity?? Very vague scenario
- I put my kid in a chair and place it in a corner and we called that time out for misbehaving and let him or her sat there for about and hour then ask them are they going to stop misbehaving
- spanking and then talking what they done wrong and the rite way it should be done, and then taking away a favorite thing
- no kids
- None
- Talking to kids could make a difference.
- But if I had kid I’d take away something they love for a while.
- none
- pare the rod, spoil the child
- Punishment which is petty and vengeful will cause psychological harm. Reasoning with the child and temporarily removing a privilege is the best option.
- All of the above
- My kids dont misbehave enough to warrant discipline. 99% of the time, a look is all that's needed.
- Punishment is not an permanent solution instead find the route cause, understand that needs of your kinds, talk to them at regular intervals, lister to them, let them speak up freely, accepts their view first without interrupting then wait for the time to guide them on the best track with options, allow them to give their view points, scarify some time to drive then to success in any task, inspire them by actions and enhance the level of patience.
- Anyone who spanks their children has no idea what parenting is about. This is not even debatable. You don't give physical pain to a helpless child, Not only is this ignorant but this is what the child learns to do to others as a means to get their way.
- Rather than specific time outs, I tell them to remove themselves to their room until they can behave like reasonable human beings that way they have the power to choose
- I don't believe that physically hurting a child is a form of discipline .T hat is not the proper way.ALLOWANCE ,GROUNDED , NO GAMES, i believe that is a much better form of discipline. I speak to my children and explain to them why this or that is wrong and i it has proven to work.
- the best way is to be a good example of good behavior. if you spank or hit your kids you send a message that because you're bigger you can get what you want by harming others.
- Paying allowance is paying for good behavior.
- My parents occasionally spanked us when we were growing up and did something really naughty, and I don't think it did any major harm. Sometimes it makes a point that otherwise is ignored. I remember yelling at my father that I was too old to be spanked, and he replied that I was too old to do whatever it was I did! I had never thought of it that way before, but I did smarten up after that!
- Truthfully,due to mankind's fall from grace in the garden of Eden, we are all born carnally minded natural man brats.Discipline according to the Word of God works best.It takes time.Our whole lifetime.Basically first and foremost it's best if both parent are renewed mind Christian believers.It is written,"Raise up a Child in the Way that they should go ,and when they are old they will not depart from it."Anything else ends up in disappointing misery.
- If the rioters are any indication, they never were given boundaries at all!
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- I don't have kids
- I was whipped with a belt every time I stole something and got caught. Woppings stopped when I became a teenager and could defend myself, I was arrested on a whole variety of offenses, nothing violent. making over 45 arrests before I was 16, spent time in Juvy, YA at 18 and and Prison at 22, When I got out of Prison is what made me know I wouldn't break the law again. I am 52 now, but have not been in trouble with the law for 30 years. I made it into Sag/Aftra when I was 42.
- Everything is depriving.
- I have been seeing more with punishing their children in the public and I always wonder how they treat the children at home.
- My child is now an adult, but I wasn't past the swat on the bottom once in a while. Time outs don't really work, but taking away stuff that matters did and was usually most effective. I didn't give him an allowance, but would just buy stuff, so...
- I have always first off, taken away something they use everyday or love. That hurts more than giving them more chores. Spanking doesn't work, especially when they are older. NO PHONE is like a death Sentence!
- no kids by choice
- A very good topic to check into. Awesome
- I have no kids.
- I've tried many ways of discpline. It really depends on the child in my experience. What works for one might not the other. I don't like public humiliation as punishment. My child has ADHD & SPD so it's been a struggle for both.
- I would tell them to kneel in a corner like they did in schools.
- I don't have any small kids. My are all grown with kids of their own.
- Very dangerous punishments, never heardof
- Having never had children, I don't know how parents are disciplining (or not disciplining) their children.
- some are just outrageous
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- Spanking - to be clear, I mean like one to three swats on a clothed bottom, but mostly taking away privleges
- When spanking was not allowed by states the discipline of children started to degrade. Spanking a child I think is good only the child is extremely bad and not for all misconduct. Beating a child with a belt, switch or any other object is definitely child abuse. Discipline and religion are key factors in child upbringing in my humble opinion.
- No kids; no problems!
- All i can say parents now-days better get their brat kids under control. Even the little brats are, what a shame. Parents should not have kids if you don't know how to bring them up to have respect, good manners, and a lot more that goes with more. Better shut up before I GET IN TROUBLE I JUST TELL THE TRUTH.
- I highly recommend looking into 'positive discipline,' and or Montessori. (There are Excellent videos on YouTube and the channel Hapa Family can be helpful with both subjects) I have been putting some of these things into practice and while some of it might not work at just be more difficult for us it really has been worth doing. We have way too many negative disciplinary actions in the world. :/ I hope you guys find things that work.
- Those options are evil and cruel I never had to do any of them aside from sending them to their room. A stern voice works just as well. Don't yell at them that would be admitting defeat.
- Humiliation and physical abuse is wrong!
- my two that's still at home are only 10 and 6 . They are all boy for real. Both red head like their dad. We don't spank tho unless we just have no other choice.
- Je n’ai pas d’enfant
- I used to spank my boys, and they both have grown up to be responsible and patient men.
- stop feeding your kid fake refined "food", also sugar and you problems will disappear. Hint, if it comes in a box it's not food.
- i do not accept hitting them in any way that is violence , when my kids were young , i would take away their favorite toy or not allow them to watch Tv , Did not send them to their room , its not a good idea
- I think that parents should be allowed to spank their children if they misbehave, it's not abuse as long as they don't go over do it. I spanked my children when they were little, and it never hurt them at all except their feelings. Now they're grown and beautiful adults.
- no kids thank God
- There should be spanking as kids these days do not listen and are very rude. Out of control parents have to stop giving their kids everything and be a parent
- some people shouldn't have kids
- Nothing wrong with spanking.
- Some weird solutions up on there - try talking to them.
- Spanking with a belt (1 lick) once was enough for a lifetime.
- I don't have kids.
- It is interesting
- Depends on age, spanking for 3 and under, once I child learns that NO means No spankings are few and far between. Take away- yes find something important to the child, such as a favorite game or cell phone.
- If you hit a child you are teaching him/her to hit.
- I once told a young boy that if he continued to swing on a cupboard door one day it would fall and he would be hurt. Warning given, I turned to another child only to hear a 'crash' and a scream! I swear that boy thinks to this day that I rigged the door. (I did not.) Now THAT is a logical consequence!!!
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- There must be a reason why kids misbehave.
- Go back to spankings. The time-out kids are looting, burning buildings and attacking elderly people.
- Everything turned cow shit when spanking stopped. The parents who beat are beaters anyway,just like impaired drivers no rule matters
- Reasonable pain is a good teacher, regardless of what the "talking heads" say pain (or the threat thereof) is a good teacher. Do it once or twice and the child will know that the threat WILL be carried out if the problem continues. That is usually enough.
- Groundings and time outs help child to calm down, think of why they were punished and how to avoid it next time, silence is golden when it helps child to think about their behavior and changes/apologizes that behavior.
- spare the rod....and good luck!!!
- I discussed behavior that I didn't like with my children.
- Time outs, taking away privileges or groundings, and spankings.
- How about being nice to your kids?
- What my 40-plus-year-old children do is not my business.
- none
- My children are adults and dealing with children of their own. Mine did get spanked occasionally. They were far more likely to have to go to time out for awhile, followed by discussion between parent and child about what happened and why it better not happen again. Grounding never worked for me--I worked long hours and couldn't enforce it.
- Talking I think is the best we can do
- I few of your suggestions, maybe, would get you put in jail, where you would belong. You don't treat children in some methods described above above. would you like to be deprived d of sleep, eat hot sauce, wearing a diaper?
- Taking away the things the child likes like special toys or video games if they are older always seemed to work for me. But that was before cell phones. Now I would take away their cell phones. But I have been know to do a couple light smacks on the butt as well.
- My children - grown
- won't hit
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- I am so pleased I have not had any children and do not have to decide what to do.
- Spanking is not child abuse if done properly, take time to cool down go to the child tell them what they did and explain they will not act up when told not to do something 2-3 times and tell them you love them but they will respect not being disobedient,2-3 spanks on the butt will let them know they will get another spanking if a repeat action is repeated.This is not a beating or child abuse this is being a parent and not a friend.
- nothing works
- Don't have kids
- None
- I have no kids, but spanking is ok sometimes.
- Nope
- kid's are more difficult ever !
- My parents made me go outside when I misbehaved because I loved to stay inside and read.
- I no longer have children at home but I realized that different punishment woks on each child since they are individuals and so the parent needs to figure out what works the best, you may want to switch things around so its not the same punishment every time. The only thing in that list that I feel is appropriate is grounding them into their room without TV, video games and toys, otherwise, it would not be a punishment. The other one is if they receive an allowance, use the point system. Each points is worth so much and every time they misbehave, they loose so many points depending on what they did. The other one is taking away something like favourite activity, movie, toy, book, outing, dessert, their phone privileges including calling, receiving calls and texting. Take away their cell or video system if they have one and TV privileges. Never pay off a child to behave or take away basic necessities like sleep or nutrition and embarrassing the child to his peers would only make him angry which would make the child act out even more.
- The punishment should fit the crime. If it's a minor offense minor punishment, major offense , spanking
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
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| 0.25% | 6 | |
| I talk to my child. If you have to "punish" your child, instead of communicating, you're doing something wrong. | 0.04% | 1 |
| Try talk to your child... | 0.04% | 1 |
| talked with them | 0.04% | 1 |
| Just talk to them about the issue | 0.04% | 1 |
| Let the punishment, fit the event | 0.04% | 1 |
| Barring extreme circumstances I was always able to reason with my kids. And I LOVE logical consequences!!! | 0.04% | 1 |
| take away phones | 0.04% | 1 |
| Consequence behaviour appropriate to “crime but find out motivations first talk and listen then consequence | 0.04% | 1 |
| talking to the child, explain to them what they're doing | 0.04% | 1 |
| An additional outlet for their frustration needs to be encouraged or implemented as well, as a replacement for misbehavior. | 0.04% | 1 |
| limiting fun time with friends, etc. | 0.04% | 1 |
| talking to your children at their level always seemed to work best for me. positive reinforcement for good behaviour and letting them speak openly and honestly about their thoughts and feelings without reprocusion works wonders. | 0.04% | 1 |
| skip a meal | 0.04% | 1 |
| Talking about it | 0.04% | 1 |
| talk to them | 0.04% | 1 |
| Sit down And talk woth the child about his or her behaviors and ask them what they did wrong this creates it so the child knows and will likely not do it again after asking amd having the child answer be stern but not mean you then try and figure out | 0.04% | 1 |
| Conversation | 0.04% | 1 |
| Scared straight boot camp | 0.04% | 1 |
| positive reinforcement and education will often extinguish bad behaviors. Simple mistakes should be forgiven and education should be given instead of punishment. | 0.04% | 1 |
| Mother tone and look that means stop now when they are young good kid happen | 0.04% | 1 |
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