Should you tell family members how you feel about their choice of partner?

Should a parent tell their kids how they feel if they don't like who their children are dating?
Should a parent tell their kids how they feel if they don't like who their children are dating?
Should kids tell their parent how they feel about who their parent is dating?
As a sibling are you comfortable sharing negative feelings with your sibling regarding who they are dating?
As a friend, are you comfortable sharing negative feeling about who your friend is dating?
What was the outcome of sharing your feelings?
01/10/2012 Love & Relationships 10 points 135

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  • geenaroses profile photo
    I have been successful in letting my feelings be known to my teen and family members by the approach I have taken. We respect each others' outside observations & know that sometimes we can be blinded by our feelings not to see things and are open-minded to listen to one another. I sit them down and let them know that I have a certain feeling, suspicion or gut feeling...whatever it is and the reason that I am sharing it with them is because I love them. I know they need to make their own decisions and observations, but at least whatever it is has been put out there for them to consider and not be blind to and I will continue to keep an eye out too.
    29 days
  • flitesoft58 profile photo
    Sometimes it's best to let your family member do what they feel instead of cutting down their choice of loved one. People need to live their own lives and unless they are young children, they have a right to learn by their mistakes.
    30 days
  • jamleyinternational profile photo
    it seems simple enough
    about 1 month
  • spoling83 profile photo
    The problem I have with telling my daughters I don't like who they are dating, when the time comes (they are 11, 9, and 2) is that my parents made it a point to hate every person I dated and the rebellious teen in me made it a point to keep dating that person just because my parents told me I couldn't. Of course, they never gave me a reason except they didn't like the family he came from, which my mother dated his Uncle in high school, so that was not a good enough reason for me. Anyways I felt that if they just left it alone and let me figure it out on my own I wouldn't have dated him as long as I did, 5 years, and I would have just moved on, but since they would not allow me to talk to him, I used the situation as a way to get back with them for refusing to get to know him and give him a chance. As I have gotten older I realized they were right, and he has spent his life after we broke up in and out of prison for stupid things like drugs, but I just felt that if they would have sit me down and talked to me about the reasons they didn't like him instead of just saying you aren't allowed to see him I would have realized everything sooner and not wasted my 4 years of high school with him and missed out on so much
    about 1 month
  • Zuska profile photo
    Personally I think it is the job of a parent or friend to let people know if they find a problem with someone that friend or child is dating. Of course, if that person decides to continue to the relationship that is up to him or her. I would hate to think or know something that I kept to myself that later resulted in heartbreak for another person. As for children, again, I think it is good to let people know where you stand, not okay to demand someone act a certain way.
    2 months
  • crabcake profile photo
    This is a subject of many ?'s and answers. Family and friends are very important to me as is what is going on in their lives. I do not believe in butting in unless I see danger of some sort. If I am asked my opinion on family or friends lives then I will give my opinion whether they like it or not, as I can speak from experience.
    3 months
  • chettabugluv profile photo
    Honesty is always important as far as I'm concerned. If you can't be honest with family and friends then who?
    3 months
  • MsElisha profile photo
    It has been said that experience is the best teacher, but at what cost? I usually try not to be judgemental, but do believe in being tactful & honest with others who ask for my opinion with personal matters. Regardless of the outcome, people are going to do what they want to do.
    4 months
  • Kitykatinlv profile photo
    Love is blind. And most people don't listen to advise. Even when true life examples are shown to prove the point, they have to learn their lessons the hard way.
    4 months
  • loisann profile photo
    What do you do when your daughter is dating a guy who lied to her and us about being in the marines ,and then when we confronted him he said no it was ROTC then we finally found out this was not true either,and this guy lied to her on the same day he first met her.He can lie and don't blink and eye,its like it comes so easy,what worries me is how can a person have a relationship if 1 person lies and lies, She just says he wanted to inpress us and her.Right now my husband cant stand him and hates him being at our house.Its really stressful and taking my heath down.iF ANYONE IS DATING THE BEST ADVICE I can give is be honest and trueful.
    4 months
  • neta2000 profile photo
    I think we have to be sincere when it comes of our close relatives and their relationship.
    5 months
  • lindseylagoy2 profile photo
    id lie to my parents and sneak out of my parents house to date some man i liked allot they never want me to date theyre too overprotective ugh
    5 months
  • mike.slesin profile photo
    honesty first.
    6 months
  • nicolef1369 profile photo
    Looking for all bad is not the way to go to get someone to hear your point of view. Come up with good and bad feedback and if you are really concerned say it---there are times when love hits us in the head and we can't see for ourselves that we are heading towards a hurricane.
    6 months
  • melmeljackson1 profile photo
    I will always tell my son how I feel about the one he is with.If I have bad vibes about her I would share in the way I feel and let him know to be aware but the choice would be his.
    7 months
  • ladybug1591 profile photo
    I am always truthful with my friends and loved ones.
    7 months
  • QueenIvina profile photo
    Yra, I tend to be honest about that too
    8 months
  • lahn profile photo
    I believe it is by far every human beings rights and responsibilities to protect the ones they love. (or unless you're told otherwise)...Although trials and tribulations are to be expected, wouldn't love conquer all? To my knowledge sincere love always prevails.
    8 months
  • poppopto5 profile photo
    if I have concerns, I will share my opinion in a nice way. No one has to listen and take your side, but I feel honesty is the best policy.
    8 months
  • Hanalei2018 profile photo
    Can be sensitive to vent your feelings to family member or a friend. I would if I hear they are in possible danger of being taken advantage of or possible abuse . Only then if Iam sure..gut feeling or told by a relieable source.
    8 months
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