I think people should tell others their concerns. However if it has to do with the person's race or nationality or anything along those lines, I say stay out of it. People should be able to date whoever they want no matter what color they are or where they come from.
I've never had to tell someone I don't like who they are dating, but my best friend told one of our friends and it was the right decision. If your friend actually feels the need to tell you that your partner is an asshole, he probably is.
I feel that it's fine to tell someone how you feel, it's not like they have to listen. Like my mom tells me about he person I'm dating, I don't listen because it's my decision but I don't mind the input as long as they don't really insult the person in with or something like that.
If they are in love, leave it alone. If it is something that will hurt the person, tread softly. But if the person don't like your children, that is not a relationship you want to be in. Sometimes it is not what you say but how you say it.
Sometimes letting someone know how you feel about their choice helps. If they don't like your advice, they'll just do what they want anyway. Sometimes you have to live and learn.
Being negative about a future in-law can only cause hard feelings, however if their choice is a drug dealer and they have children....... get them out of the relationship at any costs.
I think you need to approach any negative feelings in a way that is supportive to the other person. You should examine if your feelings have more to do with a problem that is solely your own, or if it is a problem borne out of true concern. Otherwise, you are going to find your criticisms are a catalyst for a resentful and hostile relationship with that person. That being said, it is important to tell others how you feel if there is something that really bothers you about the person they have chosen to be with. I was engaged to a man who turned out to be a dangerous sociopath, but was drawn in so slowly that I didn't even know what hit me. Others in my life noticed small things early on, and their concerns grew but were either not expressed or expressed in a very unhelpful manner. If your feelings are well-founded and honest, you should express them. Not saying anything and failing taking action in the face of what you honestly know to be red flags going up everywhere reveals a fundamental character flaw. It's hard to do these things and express how you feel, but some situations require you to move beyond your own comfort level and take action. If done in a way that is supportive to the other person, you may find that they take it quite well and are actually relieved.
When it comes to teenagers, if you want to ensure that your child remains with the disliked date they have chosen, all a parent needs to do is demand that they stop seeing them and find fault with everything they say or do. We all like to think that breaking up was our own idea - and this really does not change all that much as we grow older, but we may be more inclined to listen if we feel that the person is not bullying us into making a decision that is ultimately ours to make.
My parents did not like who I was dating and they told me loud and long about how he was not good enough for me. I ended up breaking up with him because of their opinion of him, even though I did not want to.
I think people should tell others their concerns. However if it has to do with the person's race or nationality or anything along those lines, I say stay out of it. People should be able to date whoever they want no matter what color they are or where they come from.
about 1 month
It help me all the time
2 months
Only if it is a life or death thing. If their partner is a drug addict or is abusing them. Other wise no.
3 months
Honesty is always the best even if brings on some static.
3 months
I've never had to tell someone I don't like who they are dating, but my best friend told one of our friends and it was the right decision. If your friend actually feels the need to tell you that your partner is an asshole, he probably is.
3 months
Opinions are valuable, but ultimately you are the one that has to live with your decisions in life!!!
4 months
I feel that it's fine to tell someone how you feel, it's not like they have to listen. Like my mom tells me about he person I'm dating, I don't listen because it's my decision but I don't mind the input as long as they don't really insult the person in with or something like that.
4 months
If they are in love, leave it alone. If it is something that will hurt the person, tread softly. But if the person don't like your children, that is not a relationship you want to be in. Sometimes it is not what you say but how you say it.
4 months
Sometimes letting someone know how you feel about their choice helps. If they don't like your advice, they'll just do what they want anyway. Sometimes you have to live and learn.
4 months
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4 months
My son gave me his opinion about someone I was dating, and I regret the fact that I ignored it.
4 months
It's the of the individual to make decisions if they are not comfortable to their self;;;;
4 months
they can always reason but finally the choice is the individuals and so is the life.
5 months
Being negative about a future in-law can only cause hard feelings, however if their choice is a drug dealer and they have children....... get them out of the relationship at any costs.
5 months
I think you need to approach any negative feelings in a way that is supportive to the other person. You should examine if your feelings have more to do with a problem that is solely your own, or if it is a problem borne out of true concern. Otherwise, you are going to find your criticisms are a catalyst for a resentful and hostile relationship with that person. That being said, it is important to tell others how you feel if there is something that really bothers you about the person they have chosen to be with. I was engaged to a man who turned out to be a dangerous sociopath, but was drawn in so slowly that I didn't even know what hit me. Others in my life noticed small things early on, and their concerns grew but were either not expressed or expressed in a very unhelpful manner. If your feelings are well-founded and honest, you should express them. Not saying anything and failing taking action in the face of what you honestly know to be red flags going up everywhere reveals a fundamental character flaw. It's hard to do these things and express how you feel, but some situations require you to move beyond your own comfort level and take action. If done in a way that is supportive to the other person, you may find that they take it quite well and are actually relieved.
5 months
i speak my mind and don't take a persons feelings into consideration..maybe some look at it as a downfall..but I say what I feel
5 months
When it comes to teenagers, if you want to ensure that your child remains with the disliked date they have chosen, all a parent needs to do is demand that they stop seeing them and find fault with everything they say or do. We all like to think that breaking up was our own idea - and this really does not change all that much as we grow older, but we may be more inclined to listen if we feel that the person is not bullying us into making a decision that is ultimately ours to make.
5 months
My parents did not like who I was dating and they told me loud and long about how he was not good enough for me. I ended up breaking up with him because of their opinion of him, even though I did not want to.
5 months
It pays to be honest
6 months
I feel that you should always be open and honest with family members and friends, but you should do so in a kind, non-judgmental way.
6 months