Results: When you have a disagreement with your superior, what is the best way to handle it?
Published on 01/12/2015
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When you have a disagreement with your superior, what is the best way to handle it? Sit down with them for a one on one conversation.
58%
1110 votes
Ignore it.
15%
295 votes
Speak to their superior about the situation.
15%
282 votes
Get another coworker involved to mediate the situation.
4%
75 votes
Other (please specify)
8%
160 votes
- i did this recently, i spoke to my boss about her unprofessional attitude towards me and actually things are good, she is more respectful, i got it off my chest and no longer bitter, i have improved my work as well. best to do it one on one privately to start with.
- depends on the situation
- it is better to address a situation instead of letting it build up.
- depends on what the problem is. if it is a personality issue i would speak to another coworker and if i couldn't straighten it out i would speak to their manager. if it was an issue about work i would have it out with them.
- tough situation
- n/a
- i am not working but if it happened, it would depend on the severity of the matter
- none
- n
- none
- i never had this problem
- it depends what the situation is can it be ignored or do i have to sit down one on one conversation. if i have to ignore it i will but if it's important i will sit down one on one conversation because, my job is really important i have family to take care.
- best way is to talk about it
- communication is everything
- i think it's best to confront it so there isn't any bad feelings that one or both of you may stew about.
- nothing
- keep trying and persue
- sit down talk
- go to a higher up and speak to them. if necessary take a few coworkers along with you and go to a higher up and talk
- sit down and talk, after things 'chill out'. i miss my boss!
- retire
- none
- none
- try 1 on 1 first, if no go & you feel you are really right on the matter, then pursue it any way you can - even if it means changing jobs or relocating to another job location. depends on how much conviction you feel.
- find his wife and have a great time with her
- none
- na
- i've been my own boss for the last 20 years.
- n/a
- none
- nothing
- i lower my head and do what i'm told. no matter how stupid it is.
- you were right and they were wrong!
- don't know
- i have no thoughts on the matter.
- show respect and ask for guidance since your ideas may not reflect the experience or company knowledge the superior has.
- not sure
- n/a
- n/a
- n/a
- n/a
- i think that;s what should be done
- get it off your chest and discuss it
- im not working now.
- dealing calmly by talking it out shows maturity and respect for both parties.
- n/a
- n/a-i don't work
- n/a
- n/a
- most conflict can be resolved by rational discourse. opening a dialogue should easily clear up any misunderstandings.
- i alway sit down with them saying something to another co-worker usually gets back to the superior twisted or extra embellishments added to the problem.
- if it ever got to the point where i felt the situation was not being handled maturely or was contravening my rights, i would definitely bring it higher. no one should have to be abused by another, superior or not.
- none
- listen but say your side also
- none
- follow your company's policy.
- i would sit down for a one on one conversation. this communication would offer the opportunity to air the disagreement, listen and understand both perspectives, and find solutions that would ultimately benefit work goals and expectations.
- depends what it's about. if it's a serious situation/argument then going to a higher authority might be needed
- the importance of the circumstance the disagreement is about will determine the lengths i would go to handle it.
- na
- none
- trato de estar calmado a fin de resolver la situacion incomoda
- na
- n/a
- i dont work
- n/a
- get it out in the open so you both can move on
- not all of them agree to have a conversation..
- communication is the best way to go....
- most have been because of a misunderstanding. i have found that a one on one gives both a review of the subject. in many cases it has been cleared up to both parties satisfaction. in some cases it is a clear choice and i accept that final decisions at that of my supervisor. he is the boss
- if you don't talk it out it gets worse
- thank you.
- i would do all i could to first resolve with them
- na
- unless its something serious their your superior so that means they are the boss not you
- i am self employed so i am my superior.
- no superior
- it also depends on what the situation is.
- n/a
- be professsional
- best to remain calm and state your opinion
- none i am retired
- none
- n/a
- all the other options would just make matters worse
- in an assisted living where i worked in kansas not only the director and the head nurse corrupt but so was the headquarters. the director allowed alzheimer patients to live among non demented elderly. the alzheimer patients were attacking the other residents yet the director wouldn't remove them
- i only have one superior and that is our lord jesus christ. i never disagree with him.
- n/a
- sitting down with them would be the best way to solve anything or any argument in general.
- n/a
- na
- i have no superior but me.
- communication is key. if theh're your superior they should take the initiative but if not try to resolve it with them individually b/f going to their superior.
- to a variety of audiences by adapting their speech and register
- dont mind them
- na
- retired
- i don't work
- na
- this happens a lot where i work, i try having a one on one conversation, if that doesn't do anything, then i go to their supervisor to talk about it. then the three of us sit down to talk. usually helps.
- talking one on one is the best thing. getting others involved just stirs the pot
- it is always best to try and have a one on one conversation, but in doing so we should use respect and keep your focus on the situation and not stray from the subject at hand.
- it depends on the situation but for the most part, i believe it is best to speak to your superior privately and respectfully striving to resolve the issue in an attempt to not further any tension.
- though it's not happened yet, i would in fact give them a call or have a video conference, as he's in a different city than i and, i'd follow the chain of command if the situation wouldn't be resolved.
- none
- none...i'm retired...lol
- none
- n/a
- best to clear the air right away and talk it out.
- tell them what on your mine
- n/a
- i just think they should talk it out amongst themselves
- be open..be honest
- n/a
- it is always a good idea to be able to express your opinion especially if there is a disagreement about an issue that is a moral choice you have made. when your superior understands your position, he may change his stand on the issue. but if he does not you may have to look for another job.
- tes
- i would value my job and keep quiet
- about what? i think about a lot of things. you want to know them all? i think about killing all the stupid people in the world a lot, but that's not really practical because i'd have to kill about 6.9 billion people.
- if the disagreement is over something personal then maybe sitting down with them would be fine. but is the disagreement is over something like being cheated out of overtime or safety regulations than i would contact the proper authorities (state or federal).
- try to resolve it one on one
- it is hard to have these discussions but talking about it is the best way to avoid further confusion and bad feelings. i will admit i dread these situations/conversations.
- depends on the person
- it depends on the situation if it is a hostile situation i would talk to their superior.
- discus the issue, if the issue is work related there is not much you can do - the boss word is final, if it a legal issue, go to hr or superior.
- i would talk with them and hope we come up with some agreement
- deal with it immediately
- say there is a misunderstanding even if there isn't it will go a long way to diffusing the situation.
- na
- i got so tired of it i left company after 15years and 9months she would no longer give me days i would request a month in advance
- none
- na
- can't get your way go to their superior every time
- there really isn't any way to come out on top in a disagreement with your superior but you didn't offer an option for that. they are the superior; you are not going to get the best of any argument with them. they crack the whip and you make the trip.
- ok
- one on one is the best and should be tried first. if it doesn' work, then try something else.
- i feel the maturity needs to be present, in both parties, to further come to some understanding and rectify the problem!!
- na
- you should always try to be diplomatic. aggression and heated arguements get noone no where. your thought process does not funcion when you are angry.
- talking to them about your concerns is truly the only way to make sure they are being portrayed truthfully and not being misconstrued.
- its always better to talk about a problem.
- zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
- no thoughts
- have proof on your side and ask if they would consider this info based on results
- push through
- explain why you feel the way you do
- if you don't talk it out then it can't be resolved.
- nothing
- none
- sit down and talk it out.
- be honest
- tell them what you think and listen to there point of view too
- this is really the best way.
- it depends on the person, and on the corporate culture
- if you are right they usually take the credit so it's best just to keep your trap shut.
- retired
- would depend on the problem.
- if the situation can not be resolved between the two, then speak to the superior.
- this depends, deeply, on the depth of the situation. for me, i would ignore a minor skirmish. with several repeats of minor skirmishes, i would want to sit down with the person and talk about it. for one major skirmish (i will be the judge), i would want to sit down with the person and talk about
- none
- na
- na
- if it upset me that much id like to talk about it in a respectful way.
- i am retired
- one-on-one usually doesn't work if the superior feels they are "god." if bad enough, i'd call personnel (or human resources as it's often called now) for advice and to sit in on that conversation.
- must have a witness and video tape the interview and make a copy to protect yourself. if this doesn't work, find a better job.
- nothing right now
- i don't argue
- it's a no win situation
- have a conversation with your boss and iron out the issue respectfully.
- talking sometimes cures many problems.
- gotta get it out there and settled!
- none
- disagreements can always be worked out when people act like adults and have a civil conversation.
- ..........
- find a more subtle way to screw him.
- na
- if it is serous enough to interfer with working and i need to keep the job, we need to talk. i
- it really depends on the situation but i would try to come to a consensus.
- i ignore it, as i need a job. i will make a note of the incident for future reference incase it is needed.
- na
- you should be able to talk to your supervisor about work situations
- better not to make it a public thing..
- na
- every situation is different. i have had to keep my mouth shut for a past boss, even though she was out of line. it depends on how badly you need that job, or if you can switch jobs.
- taint
- none
- na
- depends on the severity of the issue.
- na
- none
- na
- always discuss it like adults..
- i have found only a short discussion can tell you if you are going to get anywhere. if not resolved go to superior and get it on paper!!!!!!
- depends on the type of disagreement...
- communicate.
- i explain everything.
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| n/a | 1.61% | 31 |
| na | 1.46% | 28 |
| 1.35% | 26 | |
| retired | 0.26% | 5 |
| don't work | 0.21% | 4 |
| not employed | 0.16% | 3 |
| undecided | 0.10% | 2 |
| depends on the situation | 0.10% | 2 |
| dont work | 0.10% | 2 |
| i have no superior | 0.10% | 2 |
| i am retired | 0.10% | 2 |
| depends on what it is | 0.05% | 1 |
| it depends on the situation and how much would be effected | 0.05% | 1 |
| go to your union or another manager/supervisor to mediate | 0.05% | 1 |
| ignore | 0.05% | 1 |
| zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on what the disagreement is over. | 0.05% | 1 |
| have no superior | 0.05% | 1 |
| how important is the issue? | 0.05% | 1 |
| i work for myself and avoid this | 0.05% | 1 |
| don't consider anyone my superior! so n/a | 0.05% | 1 |
| dont have a superior | 0.05% | 1 |
| do what the superior says and shut up--if things go wrong its on their head--not yours | 0.05% | 1 |
| i do not have a superior | 0.05% | 1 |
| unsure | 0.05% | 1 |
| i don't work | 0.05% | 1 |
| no boss | 0.05% | 1 |
| it really depends how severe the disagreement is. | 0.05% | 1 |
| does not apply | 0.05% | 1 |
| nothing worked. he was a dick and we would just get into a fight. | 0.05% | 1 |
| it depends on how serious the disagreement. | 0.05% | 1 |
| suck it up | 0.05% | 1 |
| nan | 0.05% | 1 |
| my boss is a jerk and screams so there is no conversation over anything | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on the reason for disagreement | 0.05% | 1 |
| tell them off | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends if the supervisor is someone you can discuss problems, and not hold it against you | 0.05% | 1 |
| n/a- not employed | 0.05% | 1 |
| don't have a superior | 0.05% | 1 |
| dunno | 0.05% | 1 |
| talk again with a mediator | 0.05% | 1 |
| don't work at present. | 0.05% | 1 |
| i am y own boss, and i do yell at myself sometimes. | 0.05% | 1 |
| does not apply go me | 0.05% | 1 |
| not applicable | 0.05% | 1 |
| vent to another coworker. | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on the issue | 0.05% | 1 |
| discuss it | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on what happened..may contact their manager | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on what kind of a supervisor he/ she is | 0.05% | 1 |
| if it gets that bad it is time to leave | 0.05% | 1 |
| depends on complete circumstance | 0.05% | 1 |
| it would depends how important the disagreement was about to me. i would ether chose to ignore it if it was not going to cause me any injury or have a strong emoitional outcome, or i would try to have a sit down convorsation with this superior. | 0.05% | 1 |
| no job | 0.05% | 1 |
| i'm retired | 0.05% | 1 |
| not sure | 0.05% | 1 |
| n/a do not work outside home. | 0.05% | 1 |
| pray about it everyday | 0.05% | 1 |
| mid west health care in kansas is all about coverups and medicaid fraud. | 0.05% | 1 |
| answer below | 0.05% | 1 |
| i dont work | 0.05% | 1 |
| go back yo work | 0.05% | 1 |
| don't have that problem | 0.05% | 1 |
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