Results for - "Families Don't Have to Match"

2,614 voters participated in this survey

Many things are better when they match. Socks, 100 percent. Candlesticks and mittens, definitely. But families? Not so much!

Jessica Satterfield of Greenville, South Carolina understands this concept better than most. The mother of three doesn't look like any of her adopted children, but that doesn't make them any less hers. She recently went online to discuss what it's like to raise children who

1. Jessica Satterfield of Greenville, South Carolina understands this concept better than most. The mother of three doesn't look like any of her adopted children, but that doesn't make them any less hers. She recently went online to discuss what it's like to raise children who "don't match" their parents, and her observations are absolutely heartwarming! Do you know anyone whose family "doesn't match"?

Yes
47%
1,209 votes
No
41%
1,066 votes
Undecided
13%
325 votes

2. "I glanced in the mirror one night when I was putting my children to bed and suddenly remembered that I didn't grow them in my belly when I saw our reflection staring back at us. It might sound weird that I forget that my children are adopted, but I do. Because to me, they're just my children." Are your children adopted, or have you ever considered adopting a child?

Yes
15%
395 votes
No
52%
1,353 votes
Not Applicable
33%
852 votes
My family doesn't look like most. I am a white mama to three beautiful brown children. And although most of the time we don't notice, others around us do. We walk into stores or restaurants, and people stare or give us a double glance. I choose to believe it's because they think our family is beautiful and are curious of our story. Have you ever caught yourself staring at something - or someone when perhaps you shouldn't?

3. My family doesn't look like most. I am a white mama to three beautiful brown children. And although most of the time we don't notice, others around us do. We walk into stores or restaurants, and people stare or give us a double glance. I choose to believe it's because they think our family is beautiful and are curious of our story. Have you ever caught yourself staring at something - or someone when perhaps you shouldn't?

Yes
44%
1,132 votes
No
36%
943 votes
Undecided
20%
525 votes
We were on our way back from the beach last summer eating our hamburgers in a restaurant, and I noticed an older man staring at us. I started to become annoyed and wished for at least once, we could eat a meal like a 'normal' family. I suddenly noticed the man walking toward our direction, and my heart began to race. He shook my husband's hand and nodded his head in my direction. His eyes filled with tears as he looked at my children and said, 'I just wanted to tell you that you have such a beautiful family.' I watched him walk out the door as tears rolled down my cheeks. Have you ever stopped to say something kind and encourage a total stranger?

4. We were on our way back from the beach last summer eating our hamburgers in a restaurant, and I noticed an older man staring at us. I started to become annoyed and wished for at least once, we could eat a meal like a 'normal' family. I suddenly noticed the man walking toward our direction, and my heart began to race. He shook my husband's hand and nodded his head in my direction. His eyes filled with tears as he looked at my children and said, 'I just wanted to tell you that you have such a beautiful family.' I watched him walk out the door as tears rolled down my cheeks. Have you ever stopped to say something kind and encourage a total stranger?

Yes
51%
1,317 votes
No
30%
777 votes
Undecided
19%
506 votes
I hate the saying 'love is colorblind.' Because that is simply not true. Love is celebrating diversity, honoring our differences, and respecting our uniqueness. Oh, how others miss out on such greatness when they pretend we all match skin. Celebrating diversity in our family is simply a part of our family culture — it always has been, and it always will be. Does your family do anything to celebrate its (perhaps diverse) historical roots?

5. I hate the saying 'love is colorblind.' Because that is simply not true. Love is celebrating diversity, honoring our differences, and respecting our uniqueness. Oh, how others miss out on such greatness when they pretend we all match skin. Celebrating diversity in our family is simply a part of our family culture — it always has been, and it always will be. Does your family do anything to celebrate its (perhaps diverse) historical roots?

Yes
17%
448 votes
No
62%
1,613 votes
Undecided
21%
539 votes
Last summer, we went to the park. Our foster son had only been with us for a few weeks. He was climbing on a jungle gym with another little boy he had met at the park. I heard the little boy ask him, 'Why is your mom white and you're brown?' And without skipping a beat, he said, 'Families don't have to match to be a family. What makes a family is their love.' My eyes filled up with tears, and my heart almost exploded, so proud of our boy. Do you think children sometimes explain things better than adults?

6. Last summer, we went to the park. Our foster son had only been with us for a few weeks. He was climbing on a jungle gym with another little boy he had met at the park. I heard the little boy ask him, 'Why is your mom white and you're brown?' And without skipping a beat, he said, 'Families don't have to match to be a family. What makes a family is their love.' My eyes filled up with tears, and my heart almost exploded, so proud of our boy. Do you think children sometimes explain things better than adults?

Yes
72%
1,884 votes
No
7%
184 votes
Undecided
10%
265 votes
Not Applicable
10%
267 votes
11/27/2019 Love & Relationships 2614 72 By: bezdekbt

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