(Please note: this information was taken from Reddit and is not my personal experience.) My son is 24. He has never had a job and barely lifts a finger at home. He has made it abundantly clear that he doesn't want to do anything with his life except sit on his ass all day playing stupid, pointless video games. He's a hermit and has a deathly, pale pallor because he spends so much time holed up in his room, not getting any sunlight. He has no mental or physical disablement, so he has no excuses for being the way he is. He also doesn't smoke, drink or take any drugs. He is just extremely lazy. Other family members stopped asking about him a long time ago, presumably because they are trying to protect my feelings. He has steadfastly refused to do anything to improve his life despite strenuous effort and encouragement on my part.