Results: "ENABLER"
THIS SURVEY EXPLORES HOW WE RECOGNIZE ENABLING DYNAMICS IN PERSONAL, FAMILY, AND PROFESSIONAL RELATIONSHIPS AND HOW TO SET BOUNDARIES TO BREAK THE CYCLE.
(ENABLER - SOMEONE OR SOMETHING THAT MAKES IT EASIER FOR ANOTHER PERSON TO CONTINUE SELF-DESTRUCTIVE OR HARMFUL BEHAVIOR BY SHIELDING THEM FROM THE NATURAL CONSEQUENCES OF THEIR ACTIONS).
1.
1.
HAVE YOU EVER COVERED UP OR MADE EXCUSES FOR SOMEONE ELSE'S UNHEALTHY OR HARMFUL BEHAVIOR? YES, REGULARLY
8%
•
70 votes
YES, BUT ONLY A FEW TIMES
18%
•
166 votes
NO, NEVER
34%
•
307 votes
N/A - I'D RATHER NOT SAY
21%
•
193 votes
I USED TO, BUT NOT ANYMORE
18%
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166 votes
2.
2.
WHAT DO YOU THINK IS THE "MOST COMMON" REASON PEOPLE BECOME ENABLERS? TO HELP OR PROTECT A PERSON
24%
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220 votes
DENIAL OF HOW SEVERE THE PROBLEM REALLY IS
19%
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170 votes
GUILT, FEELING RESPONSIBLE FOR OTHERS
11%
•
98 votes
FEAR OF CONFLICT OR ANGER
13%
•
119 votes
OTHER - I WILL SHARE IN THE COMMENTS
3%
•
23 votes
N/A - I'D RATHER NOT SAY
30%
•
272 votes
3.
3.
IN WHICH TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP DO YOU THINK ENABLING BEHAVIOR IS HARDEST TO RECOGNIZE? FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS (PARENTS, SIBLINGS, CHILDREN)
41%
•
372 votes
ROMANTIC PARTNERSHIPS
18%
•
160 votes
WORKPLACE / PROFESSIONAL RELATIONSHIPS
8%
•
75 votes
OTHER - I WILL SHARE IN THE COMMENTS
3%
•
31 votes
N/A - I'D RATHER NOT SAY
29%
•
264 votes
4.
4.
WHAT MAY BE "THE MOST" EFFECTIVE FIRST STEP TO STOP ENABLING SOMEONE? ACCEPTANCE, RECOGNITION, REALIZING THAT ONE IS AN "ENABLER" IN THE FIRST PLACE AND ONE'S WILLINGNESS TO CHANGE
23%
•
205 votes
SETTING CLEAR, FIRM BOUNDARIES
20%
•
176 votes
STOP PROVIDING FINANCIAL OR MATERIAL SUPPORT
10%
•
93 votes
SEEK SUPPORT, COUNSELING AND/OR ADVICE
6%
•
53 votes
HAVING AN HONEST, DIRECT CONVERSATION ABOUT THE BEHAVIOR
10%
•
93 votes
OTHER - I WILL SHARE IN THE COMMENTS
2%
•
16 votes
N/A - I'D RATHER NOT SAY
29%
•
266 votes
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