Results for - The fine line between "doing for" and "chores"

1,992 voters participated in this survey

Think about kids from ages 10-18, thanks!

Growing up, I lived with my Grandparents, my Mom, my Mom and Stepdad, and my Stepdad. I only had chores with my Mom, my Stepdad and Grandma waited on me (and my 2 brothers) hand and foot. I feel the message I received was that it is a parent's duty not only to serve but to teach. So, when I had my kids I mostly waited on them, they had a bit of chores, and I taught them how to do everything around the house for when they would be on their own. (Drove my ex husband nuts.) Today, my brothers and I are hard workers, have a good work ethic, independent, etc; same goes for my kids. Do you believe that you can do about everything, as I did for my kids, and they'll be successful living on their own, when married, and a parent?

1. Growing up, I lived with my Grandparents, my Mom, my Mom and Stepdad, and my Stepdad. I only had chores with my Mom, my Stepdad and Grandma waited on me (and my 2 brothers) hand and foot. I feel the message I received was that it is a parent's duty not only to serve but to teach. So, when I had my kids I mostly waited on them, they had a bit of chores, and I taught them how to do everything around the house for when they would be on their own. (Drove my ex husband nuts.) Today, my brothers and I are hard workers, have a good work ethic, independent, etc; same goes for my kids. Do you believe that you can do about everything, as I did for my kids, and they'll be successful living on their own, when married, and a parent?

Yes, you can do more for them in proportion to what they do, and they'll be responsible
22%
433 votes
Not sure
12%
246 votes
I think it has to be balanced at some point in time
35%
703 votes
No, kids must do more chores in proportion to what the parents do for them
9%
180 votes
N/A
22%
430 votes

2. When my daughter was in choir there were times when she would be gone for a couple of days to a week for competition. I did all of what she needed to do for her, same for when my son was involved in drama or on vacay with his Dad. Would you do the same?

I would do everything that needed to be done for them, important or not
34%
676 votes
I would only take care of necessities (cat box, change fish water, laundry etc) but not things that could wait like vacuuming
27%
547 votes
Not sure
14%
278 votes
N/A
25%
491 votes

3. What were the rules in your house growing up in terms of the work load?

The adults mostly did everything
25%
500 votes
There was an equal mix
35%
699 votes
When I was older I did more than what the adults did for me
16%
325 votes
N/A
23%
468 votes

4. If you have children, are you raising them the same way that you were raised in terms of what you do for them and what they do?

The same for the most part
18%
359 votes
I do things a bit different
29%
580 votes
I do everything different
9%
188 votes
N/A
43%
865 votes

5. My ex and I had huge cultural issues, who knew it would be like that? Growing up he saw the women do everything while the men just tended to their careers. I ran an equal opportunity household (meaning if your hands and legs aren't broken, then you need to contribute). He felt that my kids should've been doing more for themselves because it's what he saw growing up. If you had a split was it due to cultural differences?

Yes
10%
203 votes
No
25%
504 votes
Not Applicable
65%
1,285 votes
Parenting 1992 28 By: ptajuggalette

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