Results: Have you ever had to drop everything in your life to take care of a relative with dementia because the hospital refused to find a proper facility for him or her?
Published on 06/09/2019
About a year ago, the hospital my in law was in asked me to look at some choices of facilities for discharge, but in the end, told me to come and get her. I dropped everything in my life and moved in with her for two months and looked for an assisted living myself. This was difficult because the patient weighs twice as much as I do and can be belligerent and tries to wander. I finally found a good facility, but she keeps trying to get herself kicked out. My husband has a very demanding job, but is as supportive as he can be. Other relatives are good at criticizing, but refuse to help.
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Have you ever had to become an emergency caregiver for someone with dementia at short notice? Yes
11%
236 votes
No
67%
1417 votes
N/A
22%
456 votes
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If so, did you have to leave your own home to do so? Yes
7%
140 votes
No
14%
301 votes
N/A
79%
1668 votes
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Were you a blood relative of the patient, or an in law or friend? A blood relative
10%
206 votes
An in law
4%
80 votes
a friend
2%
50 votes
N/A
84%
1773 votes
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Even if you felt you were not capable of dealing with the needs of the patient, did you feel pressure to become a caregiver anyway? Yes
11%
228 votes
No
8%
161 votes
N/A
82%
1720 votes
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Did you refuse to pick up the patient? If so, what did the facility do? If you have some advice, please list in the comments. Yes, I refused and the hospital found a facility.
4%
88 votes
No, I gave in and now me and my family are suffering because care giving for an argumentative person with dementia who wanders is just too much for us.
7%
145 votes
N/A
89%
1876 votes
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