Results: Toxic Parents
Published on 08/17/2016
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There are some parents out there who do more harm than good to their children and they have been called "toxic parents" by psychologists. Before reading about some signs of toxic parents, do you think your parents were toxic? Yes, definitely
16%
342 votes
Absolutely not
44%
939 votes
Maybe
14%
312 votes
I'm not sure
12%
252 votes
N/A
14%
296 votes
Other (please specify)
1%
17 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 0.09% | 2 | |
| Mom and grandma | 0.05% | 1 |
| One parent | 0.05% | 1 |
| One was, one wasn't | 0.05% | 1 |
| no | 0.05% | 1 |
| yes my mother always; my father only in the last ten years since he has Alzheimer's and mother is overbearing and controlling him. | 0.05% | 1 |
| mother was and contiues to be | 0.05% | 1 |
| My father is a toxic parent but my mother is a wonderful parent. | 0.05% | 1 |
| dad yes, mom no | 0.05% | 1 |
| Only one Parent (Father) | 0.05% | 1 |
| My narcissistic mother beat me regularly, and was verbally, emotionally & psychologically abusive to me, the 3rd of 5 daughters. My eldest sis explained when I was nearly 50 that's because she knew she did not want me from the time I was conceived. | 0.05% | 1 |
| Yes, one of them | 0.05% | 1 |
| One of them only | 0.05% | 1 |
| One but not the other | 0.05% | 1 |
| 1 of them | 0.05% | 1 |
| A tad....lol... | 0.05% | 1 |
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Sign #1: As an adult, it's hard to share things with your parents because they keep interrupting you. According to a few psychologists, "toxic parents" struggle to listen when you are sharing something because they cannot recognize your needs. Do your parents often interrupt when you are trying to share something? Yes, all the time
14%
296 votes
No, never
30%
652 votes
Sometimes but it's not a big deal
25%
536 votes
N/A
32%
683 votes
Other (please specify)
1%
14 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 0.09% | 2 | |
| they interrupted so much, i quit trying | 0.05% | 1 |
| Don't remember | 0.05% | 1 |
| mother all the time..it's her way or the highway. | 0.05% | 1 |
| only because she's almost deaf. | 0.05% | 1 |
| dad yes, mom no | 0.05% | 1 |
| Only if i dont understand what was said. | 0.05% | 1 |
| Only the Father but mostly Physical than Verbal | 0.05% | 1 |
| my father does this but he is 87 years old. I guess I can overlook it under those circumstances | 0.05% | 1 |
| All I heard was ME ME ME! If she was going off the rails about something, after hours i would sometimes plea, tomorrow we could all be dead. She would imediately perk up and say yes, tomorrow I could be dead! Self-centered narcissist! | 0.05% | 1 |
| Only my dad | 0.05% | 1 |
| My parents are not alive. | 0.05% | 1 |
| sometimes | 0.05% | 1 |
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Sign #2: Your parent is always pitting you against your significant other. Some psychologists believe that "toxic parents" tend to form alliances with their children and try to create trouble with your significant other. Do your parents do this? Yes they do
11%
240 votes
No they do not
41%
877 votes
I really haven't noticed
10%
206 votes
N/A
39%
847 votes
Other (please specify)
1%
12 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 0.23% | 5 | |
| sometimes | 0.09% | 2 |
| Did | 0.05% | 1 |
| Did, but they don't anymore | 0.05% | 1 |
| My mother always sided with my husband against me. She always claimed that her mother sided with dad against her, so history repeated itself, SIGH! | 0.05% | 1 |
| with siblings | 0.05% | 1 |
| A little, but she's right... I do too... | 0.05% | 1 |
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Sign #3: Your parents shared way too much information with you as a child. These parents use their children as confidants and share adult information about relationships, finances, their jobs, etc. Did your parents share too much information with you as a child? Yes, all the time
9%
200 votes
No, never
47%
1010 votes
Sometimes
15%
323 votes
I can't remember
8%
178 votes
N/A
21%
461 votes
Other (please specify)
0%
8 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 0.18% | 4 | |
| Did | 0.05% | 1 |
| My mistake | 0.05% | 1 |
| Financnes when I got older | 0.05% | 1 |
| I wish they'd shared more. Finances (and many other things) I had to figure out for myself once I flew the nest. | 0.05% | 1 |
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Last one! Sign #4: Your parents smashed your favourite toys. Some psychologists say that "toxic parents" use extreme or cruel punishment to teach their children a lesson. Did your parents ever smash your toys or do something else extreme? Yes, they smashed my toys
6%
128 votes
Yes, they did something else that was extreme
11%
227 votes
No, they never did anything like this
57%
1240 votes
I can't remember
7%
144 votes
N/A
21%
460 votes
Other (please specify)
0%
6 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 0.09% | 2 | |
| threw away some stuff I was saving, punished me by not allowing me to go to a national conference where I was the singer. grr | 0.05% | 1 |
| Again only the one parent | 0.05% | 1 |
| My mother preferred to smash me every chance she got, with her hands if she did not have my dad's leather belt or anything else to hit me with. | 0.05% | 1 |
| some play items seemed to disappear at times though | 0.05% | 1 |
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Do you agree that the four signs mentioned may describe a "toxic parent" or do you think this is silly? Yes, these are signs of a toxic parent
35%
763 votes
No, these are not signs of a toxic parent
9%
187 votes
I'm not sure
26%
560 votes
I don't really care
9%
204 votes
N/A
20%
431 votes
Other (please specify)
1%
13 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 0.14% | 3 | |
| I think the word toxic is overused. | 0.05% | 1 |
| There are other ways. Mine absolutely kept me under their thumbs, to the point that when I went away to college and they'd let me off I'd click my heels and run across campus with the feeling of freedom. | 0.05% | 1 |
| This sounds like one more excuse for not taking responsibility for ones own problems. | 0.05% | 1 |
| Maybe, but in my case just an old S.O.B. | 0.05% | 1 |
| Some are, some could be depending on the degree | 0.05% | 1 |
| i think some mentioned are and some aren't | 0.05% | 1 |
| I don't think this is all the signs | 0.05% | 1 |
| Some of these yes but others are not as bad. | 0.05% | 1 |
| I think it could be a too young mind to be parents. | 0.05% | 1 |
| sibling favoritism and taking sides | 0.05% | 1 |
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