Results: "To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death." words often included in wedding vows. Can they withstand being tested? Part 3.
Published on 10/29/2022
In part one we looked at "good times or bad times." In part 2 we looked at "for richer, for poorer." In part 3 we look at "in sickness and in health". Can the ill health of one partner or a family member cause marriage breakup? Can the ill health of one partner or a family member make a marriage stronger?
QUESTIONS
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Comments
1.
1.
Although not specifically referred to in most wedding vows, can the ill health of a child or other family member create a "bad times" level of tension in a relationship?
One of our children is/was very ill but both of us were able to cope with the situation and deal with it together.
10%
210 votes
One of our children is/was very ill. I was able to cope with (such as the stress) the situation but my partner was not and we split up.
5%
105 votes
One of our children is/was very ill. I was unable to cope with (such as the stress) the situation though my partner was and we split up.
3%
57 votes
One of our children is/was very ill. Neither of us was unable to cope with the situation and we split up.
1%
32 votes
Other (please specify)
1%
27 votes
Not Applicable
82%
1804 votes
- We have met all challenges thrown at us so far
- It didn't we made it work
- We parted ways.
2.
2.
Can the ill health of your partner create a "bad times" level of tension in a relationship?
My partner is/was very ill but both of us were able to cope with the situation and deal with it together.
16%
346 votes
My partner is/was very ill. I was able to cope with (the stress) the situation but my partner was not and we split up.
5%
110 votes
My partner is/was very ill. I was unable to cope with (the stress) the situation though my partner was and we split up.
3%
62 votes
My partner is/was very ill. Neither of us was unable to cope with the situation and we split up.
2%
41 votes
Other (please specify)
1%
27 votes
Not Applicable
75%
1644 votes
- They made me realize I had to "step up" - I promised to do so so I did.
- No impact.
- It didn't
3.
3.
Can your own ill health create a "bad times" level of tension in a relationship?
I am/was very ill but both of us were able to cope with the situation and deal with it together.
12%
270 votes
I am/was very ill. I was able to cope with (the stress) the situation but my partner was not and we split up.
4%
92 votes
I am/was very ill. I was unable to cope with (the stress) the situation though my partner was and we split up.
3%
76 votes
I am/was very ill. Neither of us was unable to cope with the situation and we split up.
2%
46 votes
Other (please specify)
1%
16 votes
Not Applicable
78%
1721 votes
- No
- he is my rock he is there for me
- Again, vows had nothing to do with it.
4.
4.
Did the reference to "in sickness and in health" in your wedding vows help see you both through a period of ill health and stiffen your resolve and commitment to each other.? Does this make this clause an important thing to include and swear to?
Yes our wedding vows increased our determination to see the crisis through..
11%
245 votes
No our wedding vows didn't make a difference.
11%
245 votes
"In sickness and in health" in wedding vows is a key commitment to include.
15%
329 votes
"In sickness and in health" in wedding vows is not a key commitment to include.
4%
77 votes
Other (please specify)
1%
15 votes
Not Applicable
62%
1355 votes
- Yes and I am glad we did.
- Yes
- yes
COMMENTS