Results: "I love you but I don't want to ..." was a recent headline in a respected newspaper. The headline was what some would call "click bait" so of course I clicked.
Published on 03/14/2023
The topic turned out to be about sleeping arrangements and how they may change over the duration of a relationship. The article implied that a couple who do not share the same bed may have a relationship problem. The reality may simply be the need to get a good night's sleep. This got me thinking. Why not explore this for the benefit of members who may think they have a relationship problem when they actually have a solution?
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First let's explore some of the reasons people in a relationship might choose to sleep together.
We sleep together to "get physical".
20%
446 votes
We sleep together but don't need to "get physical."
24%
523 votes
We sleep together to share warmth and/or comfort.
28%
617 votes
We sleep together because we feel a sense of obligation to do so.
8%
181 votes
We sleep together because we don't have anywhere else to sleep.
6%
132 votes
We sleep together simply because we get a better night's sleep that way.
13%
285 votes
Other (please specify)
1%
27 votes
Not Applicable
46%
1011 votes
- Better. Don't like to sleep alone.
- Better as we know we are there for one another
- Better, it's a comfort, knowing someone's there you love, know, and trust, and vice versa
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Now let's explore some of the reasons people in a relationship might choose to NOT sleep together.
We don't sleep together to avoid "getting physical."
4%
90 votes
We sleep apart except to "get physical" then we sleep apart again.
5%
111 votes
We sleep apart because one of us is too hot and the other is too cold.
12%
263 votes
We sleep apart because one of us snores or does something else that is sleep disturbing.
22%
489 votes
We sleep apart because we need 2 types of bed or don't have a big enough bed for 2.
4%
91 votes
We sleep apart simply because we get a better night's sleep that way.
16%
351 votes
Other (please specify)
1%
31 votes
Not Applicable
61%
1338 votes
- In the middle.
- n/a
- where ever they want as that is just how it is
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There are reasons the sleeping arrangements might change through choice or otherwise.
A change in our physical needs changed our sleeping arrangements.
11%
246 votes
A medical condition changed our sleeping arrangements.
16%
348 votes
A job situation (such as shift work) changed our sleeping arrangements.
9%
204 votes
One of us now goes to bed earlier/later so we changed our sleeping arrangements.
10%
223 votes
We changed because we get a better night's sleep that way. (explanation optional)
13%
296 votes
Other (please specify)
1%
30 votes
Not Applicable
61%
1351 votes
- Not much.
- Very
- Very important, because I can now sleep, but no longer rest
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