Results: We at TW have good habits and manners right? But we know people who cause our blood pressure to rise almost every time we meet. Our only solution is to avoid them.
Published on 12/16/2023
The headline said "Person Starts Their Wedding On Time, It Offends Their ‘Always Late’ Parents Who Miss 3/4 Of It" I immediately thought of my own wedding day and my bride-to-be circling the block because my parents had not arrived at the church yet. 53 years of marriage have not erased the memory. They say "Births, Marriages and Funerals bring out the worst in us." This may be true.
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When I worked in Nova Scotia, where time apparently has no meaning, if management wanted to start a meeting at 9.30AM they scheduled it "9 for 9.30" to allow for those who always showed up 30 minutes late. This meant some of us showed up at 9AM and hung around for 30 minutes (which meant extra coffee and donuts required). What do you think of the wedding stories above and this Nova Scotia custom?
Knowing the parents were habitually late, a time buffer should be built into the ceremony to account for it.
22%
467 votes
It is these "ceremonial bloopers" that become part of family folklore and are looked back on fondly in future years.
17%
367 votes
Being late can cause friction and arguments, which are never good for relationships. People know that I start everything on time. If they are late I will treat it as disrespect. There is no excuse for tardiness.
40%
841 votes
Other (please specify)
1%
28 votes
Not Applicable
32%
666 votes
- Early (on time actually)
- Tardy
- Early bird
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 0.88% | 15 | |
| IF they can't show up on time for something like that it's their own problem. | 0.06% | 1 |
| The parents should have built in their own buffers to stop themselves from being late. It was an important event. I bet they are on time for things that matter to them. Such a shame. Good for the Bride and Groom. | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would not have waited either, but if I knew them to be late habitually I would have warned them that I wouldn't wait. | 0.06% | 1 |
| it's the one time they should have been on time..I would hav been furious with them | 0.06% | 1 |
| I've lived and worked in NS for many years and have never been to a meeting with this type of schedule. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Start on time, make those who show up late feel the consequences. | 0.06% | 1 |
| People can arrive when they like, but the food and drink will not be waiting for them. | 0.06% | 1 |
| We visited Nova Scotia and they had a lot of different customs that I found interesting. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Kate occasionally is acceptable but not for a wedding | 0.06% | 1 |
| There are excuses for tardiness, but they should not be overused, and people should try to warn of tardiness as much as possible | 0.06% | 1 |
| Nurses know and practice well in timing- its very important | 0.06% | 1 |
| All of the above! | 0.06% | 1 |
| unsure | 0.06% | 1 |
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When my daughter got married, I had arranged for the head table to be served their meal while the rest of the guests enjoyed a buffet meal. While the head table was being served, the father in law decided he wouldn't wait to be served and went to the front of the buffet line. His catered meal was wasted and his barging to the front of the line caused "a kerfuffle.' with some of the guests. My anger at him lasted right up until my daughter divorced his son (like father like son apparently). Does this ring any bells?
Parents (in North America at least) don't pick their children's wedding partners. They certainly don't pick their in-laws. if both get along they are lucky. Animosity is the norm.
23%
493 votes
At an event like a wedding the father in law should have been on his best behaviour. He not only disrespected the family of the bride but brought shame to his own family. He also diverted attention away from the bride and the groom.
39%
828 votes
Events like these are impossible to predict or plan for, so the extra cost per person at the buffet and a wasted meal at the head table, is just par for the course. Events like these will be looked back on fondly in the years ahead.
17%
355 votes
Other (please specify)
1%
14 votes
Not Applicable
37%
785 votes
- Daughter - No. Son - Yes
- Yes I do. I got lucky.
- n/a
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 0.53% | 9 | |
| Alcohol is usually the problem for these occurrences | 0.06% | 1 |
| other | 0.06% | 1 |
| Discussion about weddings should be with each of the families prior to wedding day | 0.06% | 1 |
| All of the above! | 0.06% | 1 |
| unsure | 0.06% | 1 |
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By the time we had our first child, we had moved from Scotland to Canada. We decided to have our son Christened in Scotland at Christmas time and, when we flew back, our respective parents and family were there to greet us at the airport. There was then a battle to see which mother would hold the baby the most. The rest of the two families barely exchanged a word. For the duration of our visit both families competed for our attention with my wife's parents even marking the dates on a calendar. Is this normal behaviour for in-laws?
Yes
12%
250 votes
No
33%
694 votes
Undecided
24%
496 votes
Not Applicable
31%
660 votes
- Neither, all are gone, but it would have been my parents because they were good people.
- Location is a very large factor
- n/a
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Due to the poor chemistry between our two families, the number of visits back to Scotland from Canada can be counted on one hand and they only reflect family obligations such as weddings and funerals. When we return to visit we do not stay with relatives because of our previous experience. This doubles the cost of our visit. We go to Mexico instead. Does the behaviour of your relatives make you disinclined to visit them?
Yes
30%
624 votes
No
20%
411 votes
Undecided
12%
261 votes
Not Applicable
38%
804 votes
- Nightmare
- A horrible nightmare!
- Depends on which relatives lol
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