Results: There is a difference between criticism and feedback. One is welcomed and the other isn't (most of the time anyway). This survey will try to explain the difference.
Published on 12/21/2023
Somewhere sometime in my checkered management career I did a study course on how to give effective feedback and how this is a means to improve productivity and morale. The TW forum is a place where this can be applied so I thought I would share some of the concepts I adopted under the category "Love and Relationships."
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1.
1.
We all make mistakes from time to time. We also do work that has room for improvement. We also have people around us who are very quick to point out our mistakes and sub par performance. What is your personal attitude to making mistakes or not giving a task 100%? When I make a mistake, I'm usually the first person to know it.
49%
1080 votes
When I do a task and it could be done better I know it right away
33%
719 votes
When I make a mistake I recognize it, I learn from it and rarely repeat it.
41%
905 votes
When I do a sub par job there is usually a good reason (lack of knowledge, skill, energy, motivation etc.) and I know this at the time.
24%
524 votes
I am perfect and I know it. I never make mistakes and have a natural talent that lets me do new things perfectly first time.
3%
68 votes
Other (please specify)
1%
16 votes
Not Applicable
14%
308 votes
- I keep on keeping on.
- no
- I am always trying new things. I ike to learn and improve.
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 0.33% | 11 | |
| Sometimes I know, sometimes I don't. | 0.03% | 1 |
| everyome makes mistakes and most fplks usually learn from their mistakes but what is mostly important is that not one person on this planet is perfect | 0.03% | 1 |
| I welcome feedback to learn | 0.03% | 1 |
| I am intolerant of my mistakes. | 0.03% | 1 |
| Ignorant but learns | 0.03% | 1 |
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2.
Now that we (hopefully) know that doing something perfectly first time or every time are unrealistic goals, it may make more sense to take the task and subdivide it into smaller ones and try to do each small step perfectly. Some steps may be new to us or need skills we have not yet developed. Baby steps in other words. Imagine if a baby tried to walk for the first time and failed and the parent yelled at the baby and criticized its efforts. Instead we applaud every move, our tone of voice and choice of words are encouraging as is our facial expression. Yet as adults we tend to criticize more than encourage. Which of the following would you rather receive? Criticism from someone who doesn't know what they are talking about.
8%
171 votes
Criticism from someone who is (supposedly) an expert
21%
460 votes
Performance feedback from someone who doesn't know what they are talking about.
7%
146 votes
Performance feedback from someone who can demonstrate they know what they are talking about.
57%
1252 votes
Other (please specify)
1%
17 votes
Not Applicable
21%
458 votes
- Feedback
- feedback
- feedback
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 0.59% | 12 | |
| You were being facetious with the the fist three options, yes? | 0.05% | 1 |
| Opinions from regular folk, not criticism. | 0.05% | 1 |
| I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY | 0.05% | 1 |
| Encouragement does not involve someone else's opinion but suggests that I might feel good, proud, satisfied with my performance. | 0.05% | 1 |
| gentle feedback from friends | 0.05% | 1 |
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3.
Criticism tends to focus on the individual whereas feedback tends to focus on the job performance. I have never baked a cake before so, if I did and it didn't turn out very well, which of the following comments would encourage me to make another one? You aren't a very good cook.
5%
99 votes
Something smells good. Did you bake a cake? How did it turn out?
36%
801 votes
Anything that has the word "but" in it. Example "It smells like a cake but ......"
8%
176 votes
Since this is the first time you baked a cake, what do you feel good about? What would you do differently next time? Is there anything I can help you with?
36%
797 votes
Other (please specify)
2%
35 votes
Not Applicable
26%
581 votes
- Offer feedback even if it may be rejected.
- it depends
- No
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 0.63% | 12 | |
| Practice makes perfect Cheers | 0.05% | 1 |
| Wow, you tried to bake a cake. I know my first time I tried, I did xx wrong. Maybe we can figure out how you can improve next time. | 0.05% | 1 |
| Offer to come over to my house or yours, if you prefer, and walk you through making a cake from scratch. | 0.05% | 1 |
| Don't make any more cakes, please. | 0.05% | 1 |
| not great but can cook | 0.05% | 1 |
| so sorry this happened, it will be better next time | 0.05% | 1 |
| I would say the best response would be to say here are a few things I would try to help make your cake taste absolutely delicious. Would you like to bake with me? We can even bake a cake that you’d like to try together | 0.05% | 1 |
| I am a trained chef. | 0.05% | 1 |
| That was a good try, lets bake another one together. :)) | 0.05% | 1 |
| We’ll try another recipe another day and you may like the experience | 0.05% | 1 |
| Probably shouldn't make another. | 0.05% | 1 |
| I would say you are so close to making a perfect cake. It may need an extra bit of... ? | 0.05% | 1 |
| I'd say if it tastes good then it's perfect. | 0.05% | 1 |
| oh my that smells so good lets try some it looks great to oh wow this is really good fir your first time baking whoohoo you go that is my reaction of me being me and honest | 0.05% | 1 |
| It's your first cake? That's a great first cake. I bet it tastes great. | 0.05% | 1 |
| Who farted? Oh, you made a cake? (as a joke :)) | 0.05% | 1 |
| Something smells good. Did you bake a cake? | 0.05% | 1 |
| I am a boed cake maker. I add things to make it special. | 0.05% | 1 |
| I do not know--each person is different. | 0.05% | 1 |
| I liker you, but I don't believe I know you well enough to know what verbiage would encourage you to make another good cake. | 0.05% | 1 |
| Did you read the recipe and follow directions? | 0.05% | 1 |
| here let's do it together | 0.05% | 1 |
| Would you like some help? (How do you feel about it is too touchy feely for a simple cake.) | 0.05% | 1 |
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4.
There are some TW members who never or rarely submit surveys or do so anonymously. What should the rest of the members do? Help create the kind of atmosphere that encourages people to submit surveys.
33%
715 votes
Provide positive feedback to TW members who submit surveys, especially when they are new to this or English is not their first language.
30%
669 votes
Criticize any perceived deficiency in a submitted survey (typos, grammar, too long, too short, too many surveys on this topic already).
6%
133 votes
Criticize the individual who submitted the survey because of any of the perceived deficiencies above or because their opinion differs from their own..
4%
97 votes
Reach out to new members and offer friendship and, if experienced at submitting surveys, offer to mentor the new person.
19%
416 votes
Other (please specify)
2%
39 votes
Not Applicable
33%
735 votes
- Lives are so busy so it is hard to focus on what to make a survey about sorry.
- I want to encourage others.
- Encourage others
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 0.68% | 14 | |
| Nothing | 0.10% | 2 |
| do nothing | 0.05% | 1 |
| not sure | 0.05% | 1 |
| Let others do what makes them comfortable. | 0.05% | 1 |
| Nothing. They'll do them if they want. | 0.05% | 1 |
| if we submit a survey for members, do we have points deducted from our accounts? | 0.05% | 1 |
| Reach out to old members, too | 0.05% | 1 |
| Stop nit picking over very small mistakes when they are few and far between. | 0.05% | 1 |
| Do nothing. Why do you even care? | 0.05% | 1 |
| Just answer it if it is interesting otherwise N/A it. | 0.05% | 1 |
| It would totally depend upon the survey. | 0.05% | 1 |
| Why doe it matter if some people don't want to submit surveys? | 0.05% | 1 |
| If they want to submit, they will. | 0.05% | 1 |
| Not too much criticism every survey | 0.05% | 1 |
| Be glad, might be worse than now? | 0.05% | 1 |
| Mind their own business | 0.05% | 1 |
| Nothing. | 0.05% | 1 |
| Making surveys is not something I have any interest in. | 0.05% | 1 |
| If part of that reaching out can involve telling newbies that more available polls =more points-earning opportunities, that, too, then. | 0.05% | 1 |
| All of the above! | 0.05% | 1 |
| Well, when a former teacher uses copied text in a survey, . while critiquing the grammar of those who compose surveys with unique, non-plagiarized information it astounds me. You don't have to be smart to create a survey! | 0.05% | 1 |
| Mind your own business. Some people are just not writers. | 0.05% | 1 |
| Ignore criticism "opportunities." Problems will usually sort themselves out...eventually. | 0.05% | 1 |
| Answer the questions | 0.05% | 1 |
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