Results for - More and more couples are choosing to have children before they get married. Do you think couples should be married before they have children?

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  • More and more couples are choosing to have children before they get married. Do you think couples should be married before they have children?
    1. More and more couples are choosing to have children before they get married. Do you think couples should be married before they have children?
    • Yes, I think it is best for couples to be married before they start having children.
      47% 1,703 votes
    • No, times are changing and I think it is fine for couples to have children before marriage.
      35% 1,255 votes
    • I am undecided.
      18% 636 votes
    • Other (please specify)
      1% 38 votes

04/11/2013 Love & Relationships 27


  • wicked1 profile photo
    Point taken...but how about those who in "Gods" eyes, get married, have kids, and it ends in divorce??? What happened to the commitment there?
    over 3 years
  • DoctorWho profile photo
    KaraB12 - couldn't agree more
    over 3 years
  • jennafuh profile photo
    I would prefer to be married personally, but I see why some people don't. Marriage does not make one couple more capable of being parents than others. I think people should do what works for them.
    over 3 years
  • ditdit profile photo
    I believe in minding one's own business.
    over 3 years
  • jerdixie profile photo
    I very much believe in marriage first, children second, commitment through it all. Someone mentioned in another post previously, ""If it ain't broke..don't fix it, cause you might not like how it turns out". I believe marriage is from God. I believe he intended for children to be a blessed part of marriage. God's design was not broken and did not need to be changed or fixed. Unfortunately, people have tried to fix it according to their own rules, not God's. I believe more marriages could stay together if couples were more committed, less focused on self, and decided early on "we will stay together and work things out. We'll show our kids how things can be worked out." Counseling, prayer, being more longsuffering and patient. But people opt out instead. As for sex before marriage, yes, things happen. But things happen way to often these days. And there is also such a thing as self-control which everyone has to one extent or another. Olympians use it when training for the Olympics, dieters use it when tried to lose a lot of weight, people have to use it to control their temper, etc. Why not couples use it and wait till marriage? We can all learn to be more self-controlled. In all of this, I definitely believe the old fashioned ways are much better than the new liberal ways.
    over 3 years
  • greenskinned profile photo
    I don't believe in God, therefore I don't do marriage.
    over 3 years
  • hydearamae profile photo
    I don't get why people would want to have children together and not be married. Are they afraid of commitment. That doesn't make sense because children are a much bigger commitment than marriage.
    over 3 years
  • mariahshaddock profile photo
    As long as people refer to marriage as what "God" wants, I don't want to be married.
    over 3 years
  • wicked1 profile photo
    I have 2 kids with the same man and we've been together for almost 13 years...and we're not married. We've been through thick and thin..and we're still going strong. Our kids are well taken care of, want for nothing, and live in stable home. They get all the love, attention, and emotional support they could ever want. I see no problem with the fact that we're not married. Some people put to much emphasis on marriage..I've learned..."If it ain't broke..don't fix it, cause you might not like how it turns out".
    over 3 years
  • mommy10_13 profile photo
    Marriage is not just a piece of paper,.. anyone who says that has never been to a wedding, or been married. It is a VOW before man and and God, 2 become 1. If someone doesn't want to marry you after being with you for quite a while, then they are not willing to be fully committed to you.. Pre -marrital sex is the biggest problem in this world, and the biggest reason that innocent babies are murdered by abortion every day. Lets get it back to the way God meant it, why would someone lower themselves to having sex before marriage and a lot of times with more than 1 person. You should want to respect yourself and your body and are to keep the most personal and private act of sex for when you are married to your one and only..
    over 3 years
  • asti profile photo
    Marriage is just a piece of paper, which can get torn up (divorce) so its meaningless. That being said, insurances do like to see that paper to provide coverage or payouts to.
    over 3 years
  • ONEANDONLYONE profile photo
    I'd say it depends on if the person is able to give that support to the child.
    over 3 years
  • selkie305 profile photo
    All children should have loving families.
    over 3 years
  • Sophia1957 profile photo
    As long as they love each other ,treat everyone well ,and are all around good people ,marriage should not matter!
    over 3 years
  • Betty_Ann profile photo
    Having children is the only reason to get married. They need to be legally protected (in the US, that means married parents)
    over 3 years
  • avemaria profile photo
    it doesn't matter what I think.. what matters is that God wants people married before committing to having a child.. which is the fruit of the two being one in marriage.. which isn't supposed to happen until they 'become one.. in marriage'.
    over 3 years
  • Kerriboo profile photo
    As long as the child is taken care of, it doesn't matter. Not. At. All.
    over 3 years
  • Jaller profile photo
    Marriage before kids is a good plan
    over 3 years
  • KaraB12 profile photo
    Sometimes unplanned pregnancy's happen. So I guess those of you who believe you should be married before having kids never had sex outside of marriage. It's good you have that self control. I was 27 when I got pregnant and not married. Is that so wrong? Lots of people get married and have kids and then get divorced. I don't think that being married matters. Being a good, loving parent/parents is all that matters.
    over 3 years
  • mopp01 profile photo
    It's so sad to read the birth announcements in the local papers. Maybe one in ten of the "parents" have the same last name. Or the news stories about the mother who is 27 and has 12 kids, none of which has the same father.
    over 3 years
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