Results: Misuse of Drug
1.
1.
If your spouse/mate were using drugs (cocaine, crack, heroin) what would you do? leave them
21%
•
381 votes
threaten to leave them and say you will never come back
13%
•
225 votes
call the police
7%
•
127 votes
ignore it
3%
•
45 votes
seek help
51%
•
924 votes
tell them they are killing their self
24%
•
438 votes
call their parent(s)
8%
•
136 votes
try to work it out
21%
•
376 votes
have a deep conversation with them about it
36%
•
653 votes
blame yourself
4%
•
73 votes
Other (please specify)
5%
•
93 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
| 0.61% | 21 | |
| na | 0.58% | 20 |
| n/a | 0.55% | 19 |
| pray | 0.09% | 3 |
| get a full blood, urine, nutritional, hormonal workup and see what's lacking or imbalanced | 0.03% | 1 |
| . | 0.03% | 1 |
| get the family doctor involved with him in a discussion, or talk with him with the minister. | 0.03% | 1 |
| not married | 0.03% | 1 |
| talk about how important accountabiity and communication is. also only works if person wants to stop | 0.03% | 1 |
| n/a no spouse | 0.03% | 1 |
| give an ultimatum, i gave mine 6 months to clean up. after supporting him for 6 months he made no progress in quiting, then i kicked him out. | 0.03% | 1 |
| i don't have a mate/spouse | 0.03% | 1 |
| just wouldn't happen n/a | 0.03% | 1 |
| give him a choice me or the drugs | 0.03% | 1 |
| give them an optimatium , seek help or you'll leave | 0.03% | 1 |
| give them education re addiction/potential harm/harm reduction progams | 0.03% | 1 |
| report them | 0.03% | 1 |
| don't know | 0.03% | 1 |
| put her in rehab | 0.03% | 1 |
| share | 0.03% | 1 |
| ask them to share | 0.03% | 1 |
| i have never been in this situation! | 0.03% | 1 |
| they have to go to rehab or i am leaving for good. | 0.03% | 1 |
| depends on the drug, the relationship, etc | 0.03% | 1 |
| have an intervention | 0.03% | 1 |
| first try to get them to seek help if they will not the relationship is over. i have had a marriage ruined because of crack and heroin. almost lost my kids because he refused to get help. i have no sympathy for drug addicts they are simply stupid | 0.03% | 1 |
| way too many unanswered questions for simple answer | 0.03% | 1 |
| a happy does not get involved in something so dangerous so if you arethat unhappy then you should not be together | 0.03% | 1 |
| khkjh | 0.03% | 1 |
| never going to happen! | 0.03% | 1 |
| noyb | 0.03% | 1 |
| not applicable | 0.03% | 1 |
| other | 0.03% | 1 |
| how about help him/her get help???????? | 0.03% | 1 |
2.
2.
What if your spouse/mate been trying to stop this addiction for years with no success? I would help them quit
42%
•
752 votes
I would just give up on them because it been too long
12%
•
207 votes
I would pray about it and keep them in my life
18%
•
331 votes
Tell them the only choice they have is to go to rehab
47%
•
850 votes
I would chain them somewhere in the house until they don't have an addiction anymore
7%
•
132 votes
Other (please specify)
6%
•
102 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
| 1.01% | 24 | |
| n/a | 1.01% | 24 |
| na | 0.80% | 19 |
| leave | 0.08% | 2 |
| still seek professional help | 0.04% | 1 |
| . | 0.04% | 1 |
| still pray my mother was in a mental hosp. for 10 years for suicide i prayed the whole time and now she is out and no longer hurting herself and off all meds! god does hear our prayers! | 0.04% | 1 |
| let go and realize it is a disease | 0.04% | 1 |
| i would leave at that point | 0.04% | 1 |
| not married | 0.04% | 1 |
| i have no bloody idea | 0.04% | 1 |
| depends | 0.04% | 1 |
| then it would be time to leave | 0.04% | 1 |
| would depend on what part of my/our life was being effected and if kids involved | 0.04% | 1 |
| same answer as above | 0.04% | 1 |
| get help. | 0.04% | 1 |
| don't know | 0.04% | 1 |
| makemthem decide me,or the drug! only after trying to help of course | 0.04% | 1 |
| pray | 0.04% | 1 |
| invoke the holy spirit | 0.04% | 1 |
| not applicable | 0.04% | 1 |
| it would be time to let them go and pray for them. | 0.04% | 1 |
| suggest they get couseling | 0.04% | 1 |
| n\a | 0.04% | 1 |
| wouldn't be in this situation in the first place. | 0.04% | 1 |
| not a problem. i left them long ago | 0.04% | 1 |
| practice loving detachment and look after myself [& kids] first | 0.04% | 1 |
| pray and u will have to leave til they hit bottom and seek help. dont give up tho | 0.04% | 1 |
| leave them | 0.04% | 1 |
| n?a | 0.04% | 1 |
| noyb | 0.04% | 1 |
| leave. i have 3 kids that need my attention | 0.04% | 1 |
| kjhk | 0.04% | 1 |
| i do not believe it would matter because if that mate loved their mate it would not be a problem so they need to move on | 0.04% | 1 |
| blah | 0.04% | 1 |
| depends on how long. i have no patience for stupid people and drug abusers are some of the stupidest they all make excuses about their lives being so terrible well mine has been pretty much as bad as it can get and i didn't turn to drugs | 0.04% | 1 |
| send to a 12 step program | 0.04% | 1 |
3.
3.
Your spouse/mate refuse to get help or get into rehab, you see they are on their way to self destruct and you keep reasoning with them. Do you finally say enough is enough and run as fast as you can away from them, changing your number as well? yes
42%
•
764 votes
no
15%
•
262 votes
undecided
29%
•
517 votes
n/a
15%
•
264 votes
Other (please specify)
1%
•
26 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
| 0.65% | 12 | |
| i would say they were suicidal and have them committed may be the only way to help them | 0.05% | 1 |
| see | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would also get a restraining order if there are kids from personal experience it is the only way to make it safe | 0.05% | 1 |
| leave, yes, but leave no contact? no. we have a child together, that would be kidnapping. | 0.05% | 1 |
| kick him in the ass | 0.05% | 1 |
| i would leave them | 0.05% | 1 |
| let go and put the focus on myself | 0.05% | 1 |
| call the drug enforcement officers | 0.05% | 1 |
| call the police | 0.05% | 1 |
| no i will pray for them and continue to find help for them | 0.05% | 1 |
| by that point, get the police involved. sometimes that's the only way to save them. | 0.05% | 1 |
| would not let it get this far. | 0.05% | 1 |
| don't know | 0.05% | 1 |
| pray | 0.05% | 1 |
4.
4.
Your spouse/mate finally quit drugs, you're extremely happy but then you notice alcohol bottles hidden all over the house, replacing drugs with excessive drinking. Do you throw your spouse/mate out and change the locks? yes
30%
•
531 votes
no
22%
•
402 votes
undecided
33%
•
588 votes
n/a
16%
•
281 votes
Other (please specify)
2%
•
29 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
| 0.60% | 11 | |
| i would leave | 0.11% | 2 |
| i would probably leave, and seek help for him. | 0.05% | 1 |
| leave | 0.05% | 1 |
| pray | 0.05% | 1 |
| rehab again | 0.05% | 1 |
| don't know | 0.05% | 1 |
| seek help again, and send to rehab | 0.05% | 1 |
| call the priest , get proper medicine then tie him up | 0.05% | 1 |
| no start again with rehab counselling | 0.05% | 1 |
| confront about it | 0.05% | 1 |
| mind my own business | 0.05% | 1 |
| off to rehab again or i will leave. | 0.05% | 1 |
| ill throw all alcohol from the house why would you keep poision in your house? | 0.05% | 1 |
| discuss rehab for thi addiction | 0.05% | 1 |
| alcohol is just as bad as drugs and just as stupidly destructive i have always thought alcohol should either be heavily regulated or illegal just like everything else we live in a society that loves alcohol and its rediculous | 0.05% | 1 |
| pray & give them time. if they continue, leave | 0.05% | 1 |
| ft | 0.05% | 1 |
5.
5.
After having put your spouse/mate out they finally want to come back after months of help and being clean. Would you take them back this time around? yes
22%
•
387 votes
no
16%
•
292 votes
undecided
45%
•
810 votes
n/a
16%
•
292 votes
Other (please specify)
1%
•
19 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
| 0.44% | 8 | |
| it depends if they have really quit doing drugs | 0.06% | 1 |
| take care of self | 0.06% | 1 |
| marriage is for better or worse and sickness or health. | 0.06% | 1 |
| not until a year of cleaning living has passed. | 0.06% | 1 |
| only if we went to counseling or a 12 step program together | 0.06% | 1 |
| maybe | 0.06% | 1 |
| depends if this is the first time. | 0.06% | 1 |
| at least one year of being clean before considering taking them back | 0.06% | 1 |
| yes but they have to prove they are clean and work on the relationship. | 0.06% | 1 |
| don't know | 0.06% | 1 |
| pray | 0.06% | 1 |
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