Results: Narcissistic Abuse
Published on 12/10/2015
Hello fellow tellwut opinion seeker's. I aproach you with what I believe to be an important topic, because alot of people out there remain in toxic relationships, and do not know where to turn. Resulting in depression,anxiety,drug abuse, alcoholism etc. My goal is to reach out and make people more aware of this situation. And speak out. If you think someone you love is being treated in a way that robs them of their self esteem, talk with them, explain to them in your opinion what the right thing to do is. Sorry for the length of the survey. Was just necessary to get it all out there. Again, I appreciate your opinions. Thank You
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1.
1.
Have any of you been brought up by narcissitic parents, or have a friend or family member affected by this personality disorder? Yes
20%
344 votes
No
56%
955 votes
Undecided
11%
182 votes
Not Applicable
13%
215 votes
2.
2.
Are there any of you, that before reading this survey were unaware of this condition/personality disorder? Yes
20%
332 votes
No
55%
931 votes
Undecided
8%
133 votes
Not Applicable
18%
300 votes
3.
3.
Narcissists display extreme selfishness, have a grandiose view and admiration for themselves, and crave admiration. Do you have a friend or spouse that seem to fit this description? Yes
27%
458 votes
No
46%
776 votes
Undecided
10%
167 votes
Not Applicable
17%
295 votes
4.
4.
There are different degrees to this disorder, some can become very psychologically harmful to a person, and others even become violent. Do you think there is anyway to reason with these people, and help them to realise they have a problem and seek help? Yes
15%
253 votes
No
32%
539 votes
Undecided
32%
548 votes
Not Applicable
21%
356 votes
5.
5.
Another characteristics people affected with this condition display, is they are compulsive liars, can be very convincing and manipulative, and even quite charming. Do you think you could easily detect someone like this, or do you think you would find out the hard way? Please describe why in the comments.thanks. I could detect someone like this from a mile away!
32%
545 votes
I am generally a very trusting person, and tend to forgive easily and would probably end up finding out the hard way.
39%
658 votes
It would be too late, and I would feel/remain trapped in this type of toxic relationship.
22%
379 votes
Other (please specify)
7%
114 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| na | 1.71% | 29 |
| 1.71% | 29 | |
| n/a | 1.18% | 20 |
| not sure | 0.35% | 6 |
| don't know | 0.24% | 4 |
| none | 0.12% | 2 |
| I'm not sure. | 0.12% | 2 |
| I'd avoid any such person as soon as I identified their narcissism | 0.06% | 1 |
| nil | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would know. My mother was like that. | 0.06% | 1 |
| In person, I get a gut feeling about people, disernment and I can pick up on things like this. Have a brother with a girlfriend with this. | 0.06% | 1 |
| A person's actions usually speak for themselves. | 0.06% | 1 |
| I trust my higher power to guide me | 0.06% | 1 |
| I can detect them now, but not at one time;you learn from experiences...bad and good! | 0.06% | 1 |
| do not have friends | 0.06% | 1 |
| I can usually detect phonies, but if you're esp. good, you may slip by | 0.06% | 1 |
| dont know | 0.06% | 1 |
| delt with it with my SOON to be EX-wife.... :) | 0.06% | 1 |
| depends | 0.06% | 1 |
| undecided | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would notice once I got to know them a bit. | 0.06% | 1 |
| //////////// | 0.06% | 1 |
| I don't know | 0.06% | 1 |
| Formerly a victim of a relationship like this. Charmer by day abusive by night. I was trapped took me a while to find my way out. | 0.06% | 1 |
| no | 0.06% | 1 |
| is this for college? | 0.06% | 1 |
| in between one and two | 0.06% | 1 |
| Generally would recognize it pretty quickly | 0.06% | 1 |
| why is there no na | 0.06% | 1 |
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6.
People who suffer from Narcissism seem to feed of people which is called Narcissistic supply. The abuser has no empathy and in my view, a total lack of concience. They entangle people in there web of lies and deceit, and generally target caring,empathic people who will show sympathy even pity for them. Then once they gain your trust, will do everything possible to break you down and ruin your life. Do you still think these people deserve a second chance or to be forgiven? Yes
18%
303 votes
No
31%
524 votes
Undecided
33%
559 votes
Not Applicable
18%
310 votes
7.
7.
I have done much research on the subject, after getting to know someone who has this condition to a very great extent, and have learned the hard way. After much research I have decided that staying the farthest away possible from these people is the only solution. Even after several attempts at helping this person, to a point where it literally ruined my life morally and financially. I left before it had to become physical. I am a man, and this was just a friend, or so I thought. In your opinion did I do the right thing? Yes
53%
899 votes
No
8%
133 votes
Undecided
21%
350 votes
Not Applicable
19%
314 votes
8.
8.
Now as a last question. I would like to know how you would have reacted. It really drains you because you try everything to get these people to see the error of there ways, and you do not want to give up on another human being. Unfortunatley I had to try and move on, both physically and mentally, but as of now still have just moved on physically. Since 2 years ago when all trouble started. How would you feel? I would feel humiliated, abused, and have a hard time ever putting my complete trust in again.
27%
466 votes
I would easily move on and forget the past experience, and just take it as one of life's toughest lessons.
32%
550 votes
Hey, everything happens for a reason.
32%
547 votes
Other (please specify)
8%
133 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 1.65% | 28 | |
| na | 1.47% | 25 |
| n/a | 1.06% | 18 |
| not sure | 0.24% | 4 |
| narcissist never chage, stay FAR FAR AWAY. LIVE AND LEARN. | 0.06% | 1 |
| would not have allowed myself to get into this situation | 0.06% | 1 |
| I am getting away froma six year relationship with a woman that did everything your woman did to you and probably more! My sympathy is with you! She just came out of rehab and seems to finally be ready to change. The pain/hurt - never trust again!! | 0.06% | 1 |
| nil | 0.06% | 1 |
| Happening now after 18 yrs...we will see! Hopefully well! | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would go and get help | 0.06% | 1 |
| Unsure | 0.06% | 1 |
| Anyone can be taken in once but to have it happen more than once then you should feel somewhat naive. This make you wonder how many naive voters there are in the US since they reelected Obama. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Forgive your enemies, but remember their names | 0.06% | 1 |
| too difficult | 0.06% | 1 |
| God will always have the answers you need for healing and other problems that you may have. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Don't know how I would feel | 0.06% | 1 |
| In your case i think enough is enough | 0.06% | 1 |
| depends on the history | 0.06% | 1 |
| I stayed married to him for 22 years (If I just love him enough...). I then divorced him and moved on. He died. | 0.06% | 1 |
| have dealt with this from a long time friend of my boyfriend's and have seem the damage this type of person can do. It has cost him a marriage and many friendships and you can never retrieve anything you lost from such a person. | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would take this as a valuable lesson to stay as far away from that person | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would move on but not easily been there and its almost unbelievable bcouse you can't fathom that behavior, then when u realize it u r still shocked! what!! really!! but shake them and shake it off move ahead thankful there not abusing you anymor | 0.06% | 1 |
| idk | 0.06% | 1 |
| Take it one day at a time & get some counselling | 0.06% | 1 |
| Pray, get help for you and move on | 0.06% | 1 |
| combo of all of the above | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would feel sorry for the person if they could not help themselves. I think you did the right thing. You have to think of yourself and after 2 very long years I think you did more than yourpart trying to help this person. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Having not experienced this, I cannot guess how I would feel. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Disappointed that the person got through my radar, but I would know that I did my best to be a good person and it is on them, not me. Lesson learned. | 0.06% | 1 |
| been there with husband he has passed do not miss | 0.06% | 1 |
| Each needs to help self of life, others can not help him/her , unless that person help himself/herself. That's only solution to help that person. | 0.06% | 1 |
| try to keep the person out of your life and @ a far distance from you | 0.06% | 1 |
| Dont know | 0.06% | 1 |
| I avoid certain people because they are "poison". Removing bad relationships in your life is just another survivial technique.t is | 0.06% | 1 |
| why is there no na | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would've killed the person and done society a favor. | 0.06% | 1 |
| I wouldn't want to give up on this person because God doesn't. Since my eyes would have been opened wide, I would take a more cautious approach with this person and even pray for him/her. If a person has this condition we can only try to understand | 0.06% | 1 |
| I'd be badly disappointed. | 0.06% | 1 |
| My sister, she lived with me becaus eshe was homeless for 1 1/2 years. She moved out without a goodbye and I have not spoken to her since. Been over 3 years. Toxic, move on and don;t look back. | 0.06% | 1 |
| all of those | 0.06% | 1 |
| other | 0.06% | 1 |
| this is pathetic | 0.06% | 1 |
| You should never blame yourself for being trusting and caring for this person in trying to help them. Please be thankful that you've been able to extract yourself physically from this person and perhaps try speaking to a trusted person or even a pro | 0.06% | 1 |
| i would cut ties with the problem after trying everything then try to move on by doing new thing in your new life that will help with the emotional part of moving on | 0.06% | 1 |
| Somewhere between answer 1 and 2 | 0.06% | 1 |
| a long time ago I decided to get negative people out of my life. I just do not have them in it and I am a much happier person | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would've milched the fuck on out of there/be supportive and offer resources, but not at the expense of myself | 0.06% | 1 |
| Learn from it and move on. | 0.06% | 1 |
| gjk; | 0.06% | 1 |
| everything happens for a reason, GOD has greater plans for us, we NEED yo put our trust into GOD | 0.06% | 1 |
| It would be difficult, but eventually you will move on in every way. | 0.06% | 1 |
| I stay away from these people | 0.06% | 1 |
| undecided | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would not have stayed with the person to start with | 0.06% | 1 |
| seek professional mental heakth counseling for a good recovery | 0.06% | 1 |
| depends | 0.06% | 1 |
| this is not a simple case determind by your final question | 0.06% | 1 |
| none | 0.06% | 1 |
| I don't know since this hasn't happened | 0.06% | 1 |
| I do not understand the question. | 0.06% | 1 |
| ///////// | 0.06% | 1 |
| it happens so you can learn from it..... | 0.06% | 1 |
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