Results: Your child announces they're gay after lying about their preferences for several years, you:
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Your child announces they're gay after lying about their preferences for several years, you: Are angry about the lying but understanding of their choices
50%
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878 votes
In complete disagreement and cannot accept their choices
21%
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363 votes
Other (please specify)
29%
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510 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
| 3.83% | 67 | |
| n/a | 2.46% | 43 |
| na | 2.34% | 41 |
| Accept them | 0.40% | 7 |
| don't know | 0.29% | 5 |
| no kids | 0.29% | 5 |
| not angry | 0.23% | 4 |
| neither | 0.23% | 4 |
| I don't know | 0.17% | 3 |
| Not angry at all | 0.17% | 3 |
| understanding | 0.17% | 3 |
| accept | 0.17% | 3 |
| acceptance | 0.17% | 3 |
| not sure | 0.17% | 3 |
| undecided | 0.17% | 3 |
| Support them | 0.11% | 2 |
| Not Applicable | 0.11% | 2 |
| ok with it | 0.11% | 2 |
| no idea | 0.11% | 2 |
| supportive | 0.11% | 2 |
| their choice | 0.11% | 2 |
| don't care | 0.11% | 2 |
| do not care | 0.11% | 2 |
| idk | 0.11% | 2 |
| Accept what I can't change | 0.06% | 1 |
| I'd be saddened that they felt they had to lie and would accept their orientation. Gay is not a choice, you're born that way. | 0.06% | 1 |
| there choice | 0.06% | 1 |
| try to understand that they were scared and now try to accept their decision. | 0.06% | 1 |
| deal with it | 0.06% | 1 |
| i would understand why he/she did not tell me. | 0.06% | 1 |
| don't have kids | 0.06% | 1 |
| love them no matter what their choices are | 0.06% | 1 |
| Not angry. Grateful they let me into their life. | 0.06% | 1 |
| N/A both of my kids are normal heterosexuals, thank God | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would be happy that they finally felt comfortable enough to tell me | 0.06% | 1 |
| respect their choice and accept it | 0.06% | 1 |
| I don't even want to consider it | 0.06% | 1 |
| ........ | 0.06% | 1 |
| meh | 0.06% | 1 |
| complete acceptance & relief for them | 0.06% | 1 |
| accept both | 0.06% | 1 |
| o k | 0.06% | 1 |
| how about just understanding? | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would understand and not be angry. | 0.06% | 1 |
| love them and wait a bit so i could think clearer | 0.06% | 1 |
| are sad that they would feel uncomfortable about telling the truth to their prejudiced parents | 0.06% | 1 |
| I am understand of their choice, and also understanding that they felt the need to lie. | 0.06% | 1 |
| none of the above! | 0.06% | 1 |
| accept them, love them and help them with any difficulties that arise | 0.06% | 1 |
| Accept them and love them | 0.06% | 1 |
| NOT be mad, but LOVE my child regardless. | 0.06% | 1 |
| I wonder what kind of relationship you have with your child if they have to lie about being gay to their own parents. As a parent, how could you not have known all those years that your child was different? | 0.06% | 1 |
| Accept them for you they are, and consider that maybe it was my behaviour that caused them to feel that they had to lie to me in the first place. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Support my child and tell them to never be afraid to tell me anything! My love is unconditional | 0.06% | 1 |
| Wouldn't care | 0.06% | 1 |
| I'm not angry nor do I disagree, I hug them and tell them I love them and I'm proud of them for being brave enough to tell me. | 0.06% | 1 |
| total shock | 0.06% | 1 |
| accept what it is | 0.06% | 1 |
| It would shock me but I would still love my child. | 0.06% | 1 |
| i'd be understanding, loving and accepting | 0.06% | 1 |
| Upset that they lied but not angry and always understanding. | 0.06% | 1 |
| accept and move on | 0.06% | 1 |
| I mind my own business. | 0.06% | 1 |
| I probably knew and wold be glad they were comfortable talking to me. | 0.06% | 1 |
| there should be a no child option | 0.06% | 1 |
| figured it out long ago and really don't care | 0.06% | 1 |
| accepting | 0.06% | 1 |
| other | 0.06% | 1 |
| accepting and understanding | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would not be angry and would accept them. | 0.06% | 1 |
| so what | 0.06% | 1 |
| nonjudgmental | 0.06% | 1 |
| whatever turns them on | 0.06% | 1 |
| support and love the child | 0.06% | 1 |
| love them and understand how difficult it was for your child to tell you the truth because of shame or fear of hurting you. Be kind. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Love them no matter what | 0.06% | 1 |
| am not angry about the lying and understand their choice | 0.06% | 1 |
| Accept it and be happy they finally came out and told me about it. They have to be happy in life too. It is not like they r a criminal or anything!!!! They just have a different sexual preference. They r still the same person you loved before the | 0.06% | 1 |
| still love them | 0.06% | 1 |
| I accept her, no matter what. | 0.06% | 1 |
| are understanding | 0.06% | 1 |
| none of my children are gay | 0.06% | 1 |
| grow up | 0.06% | 1 |
| total acceptance | 0.06% | 1 |
| Stand by them | 0.06% | 1 |
| this is an awful survey. both answers are negative. ACCEPT THE CHILD FOR WHO THEY ARE | 0.06% | 1 |
| no thoughts | 0.06% | 1 |
| doesn't matter.... still my kid | 0.06% | 1 |
| Not angry and love them anyway. | 0.06% | 1 |
| I'd be disappointed they lied, but would support them | 0.06% | 1 |
| It's not a choice, born that way, lying is usually because of crappy parents | 0.06% | 1 |
| Love them | 0.06% | 1 |
| understanding that it takes time to accept a different sexual preference , so NA to both options | 0.06% | 1 |
| RIEN A DIRE C SON CHOIX | 0.06% | 1 |
| Are accepting and supportive | 0.06% | 1 |
| Acceptbit they can love who they want | 0.06% | 1 |
| support them for telling you. No anger, just love | 0.06% | 1 |
| Thankful they found their way to their truth | 0.06% | 1 |
| fuck you | 0.06% | 1 |
| Am accepting | 0.06% | 1 |
| not cut and dry answer | 0.06% | 1 |
| shock | 0.06% | 1 |
| Um, being gay isn't a choice, moron. | 0.06% | 1 |
| are not angry at all. Just accepting. | 0.06% | 1 |
| not angry about anything at all. it is my child who i am supposed to love unconditionally. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Fully accepting and sad they felt they had to lie. | 0.06% | 1 |
| no experience, don,t know | 0.06% | 1 |
| I WON'T BE HAPPY BUT I WILL ACCEPT THE CHILD | 0.06% | 1 |
| love them anyway | 0.06% | 1 |
| N>A> | 0.06% | 1 |
| GAY IS A SIN NUFF SAID | 0.06% | 1 |
| ACCEPTING WITHOUT JUDGEMENT | 0.06% | 1 |
| Accept it. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Neither-- I am completely supportive no matter what. I have no problem whatsoever with my child being gay. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Not angry, understanding of choices AND why they lied. | 0.06% | 1 |
| acept it | 0.06% | 1 |
| Provide unconditional love and acceptance, including of why they felt the need to lie. | 0.06% | 1 |
| be understanding | 0.06% | 1 |
| Don't have children | 0.06% | 1 |
| Give them a huge hug and love them! | 0.06% | 1 |
| I'd hug them and tell them that I've known all along. | 0.06% | 1 |
| understanding, even about lying | 0.06% | 1 |
| not angry but understanding of their choices | 0.06% | 1 |
| wtf | 0.06% | 1 |
| Disagree but try to understand & accept b/c don't want to lose child | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would not be in agreement with their choice but will love them the same regardless. | 0.06% | 1 |
| continue to love them and support them | 0.06% | 1 |
| I'd just hurt that they felt they needed to lie all of those years. | 0.06% | 1 |
| wait and see they may change their mind again, no need to be angry either way. | 0.06% | 1 |
| it is their business | 0.06% | 1 |
| Lame answer choices | 0.06% | 1 |
| see comment section | 0.06% | 1 |
| what ever they want | 0.06% | 1 |
| it's all good - not angry about either, i love my kids. | 0.06% | 1 |
| hopeful they are happy | 0.06% | 1 |
| what | 0.06% | 1 |
| "Ok. " | 0.06% | 1 |
| i would hold my head high knowing my child had the courage to tell me either way. totally accepted | 0.06% | 1 |
| show acceptance | 0.06% | 1 |
| Not angry, but wish they had confided in me sooner | 0.06% | 1 |
| understand that maybe they were unsure about how to come out about it, and support them 100% | 0.06% | 1 |
| would not be angry. I'd be proud of them for telling me, even if it took 40 years. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Accept and love them for god's sake. That's your child!!! | 0.06% | 1 |
| i would not be angry this is a hard thing for some people to do and i would support my child no matter what | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would not like to see it. but I love my child unconditionally | 0.06% | 1 |
| Accept their choices | 0.06% | 1 |
| Don't know how I'd react. | 0.06% | 1 |
| What? | 0.06% | 1 |
| Sad that they felt they couldn't come to me sooner | 0.06% | 1 |
| poorly phrased question | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would be shocked but would accept it. | 0.06% | 1 |
| It`s their life and I love my child as long as she is not a mass murderer | 0.06% | 1 |
| IT WILL BE ALRIGHT | 0.06% | 1 |
| I am just fine. I'm happy if their happy. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Accept them as they are and am glad they finally came out. | 0.06% | 1 |
| accept whatever they decided | 0.06% | 1 |
| Anger solves nothing, disappointed it took this long to tell us, but very important to accept it for what it is. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Talk it out | 0.06% | 1 |
| feel happy that they are comfortable now | 0.06% | 1 |
| disagree with their choices, stay in touch, but have a strained relatoinship | 0.06% | 1 |
| accept and understand it | 0.06% | 1 |
| I wouldn't like the lying; and definitely not in agreement of their choices | 0.06% | 1 |
| are very sad | 0.06% | 1 |
| accept who they are and understand why they kept it secret | 0.06% | 1 |
| understanding...not angry | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would be sad that they felt they had to lie to me about their sexual preference. I would hope that they would know that their sexual preference has no bearing on my love for them. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Accept their choice regardless of my beliefs | 0.06% | 1 |
| after 18 they can do what rver | 0.06% | 1 |
| Understanding of everything, accept their choices | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would be happy that they are now comfortable enough to be honest. | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would accept my child no matter what | 0.06% | 1 |
| i would never shun my child for the chouces they make, even if i didn't agree. they would still be my child and i would still love them. | 0.06% | 1 |
| accept their choice and would try to not show anger towards them | 0.06% | 1 |
| Angry, but I'm not sure whether I could accept it. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Accept them. Its your child. | 0.06% | 1 |
| happy they trust me at this point in time... | 0.06% | 1 |
| Accepting and not angry | 0.06% | 1 |
| Love them unconditionally | 0.06% | 1 |
| The child knows the right time to tell you or anyone else their preference. Would not matter to me when they announced their preference. I would still love them. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Wish they'd felt like they could tell me | 0.06% | 1 |
| unconditional love | 0.06% | 1 |
| dont care that they are gay or that they lied | 0.06% | 1 |
| Fully accept and love them as a parent should | 0.06% | 1 |
| don't accept their choice but love them anyway | 0.06% | 1 |
| Are not angry because maybe they were in denial or simply just were not ready to come out sooner, understand that who they love doesn't change how much I love them, and continue to hope they have a happy and fulfilling life | 0.06% | 1 |
| na, but if i had kids, i'd be understanding and supportive right from the beginning | 0.06% | 1 |
| accept your child no matter what, there was probably a reason they were hiding it from you... | 0.06% | 1 |
| probably already knew, and accept it | 0.06% | 1 |
| just hope the find happyness | 0.06% | 1 |
| Be understanding that it was hard for him/her to come out and be accepting | 0.06% | 1 |
| I wouldn't be mad for them lying. It's their choice when to come out. | 0.06% | 1 |
| fully supporting and as understanding as possible | 0.06% | 1 |
| i have no kids ,but wish any of them good luck | 0.06% | 1 |
| Keep loving them | 0.06% | 1 |
| not angry, understanding | 0.06% | 1 |
| surprised, but ok. | 0.06% | 1 |
| love my child and understand | 0.06% | 1 |
| n/a - no kids. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Disappointed and wanting the child to talk about it more with me. | 0.06% | 1 |
| . | 0.06% | 1 |
| Would love my child no matter what! Would not judge child for lying. | 0.06% | 1 |
| accepting and sad that they felt they have to lie..my bad!! | 0.06% | 1 |
| would not be in agreement but would accept them for who they are | 0.06% | 1 |
| No anger, fully supportative. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Accept they weren't ready to tell me and proud they are ready to be who they're meant to be. | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would accept them for who they are. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Understand the lying and hope they are happy. | 0.06% | 1 |
| understand why they lied and understand their choice is their own and not mine | 0.06% | 1 |
| Glad they now feel comfortable enough to tell the truth. | 0.06% | 1 |
| are sorry they felt they couldn't tell you the truth | 0.06% | 1 |
| love him/her no matter what. | 0.06% | 1 |
| I'm okay with it | 0.06% | 1 |
| If they have found love, I'm happy. | 0.06% | 1 |
| total acceptance - always - | 0.06% | 1 |
| Am understanding , no matter what, they are your child | 0.06% | 1 |
| Pray about it. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Understand my child was in a difficult position if they needed to lie to me to begin with. | 0.06% | 1 |
| It's their choice as to when they feel comfortable telling me. Support them no matter what. | 0.06% | 1 |
| love & support | 0.06% | 1 |
| I wouldn't be angry at all it's are to admit it to yourself and others. | 0.06% | 1 |
| It doesn't matter. | 0.06% | 1 |
| dont care | 0.06% | 1 |
| Understand it was hard for they to accept and admit and understand their choices; support them | 0.06% | 1 |
| want to support them | 0.06% | 1 |
| support them 100% | 0.06% | 1 |
| not angry but understanding | 0.06% | 1 |
| I would love them even though I would totally disagree | 0.06% | 1 |
| my child would never lie about that, why would they? | 0.06% | 1 |
| Accept their disclosure lovingly and tell them I'm so sorry they were unable to share their feelings sooner | 0.06% | 1 |
| are happy they decided to trust me. | 0.06% | 1 |
| We're all human | 0.06% | 1 |
| It is what it is | 0.06% | 1 |
| Church | 0.06% | 1 |
| na, no children | 0.06% | 1 |
| Totally sympathetic and supportive of their life style. | 0.06% | 1 |
| I am accepting and happy my child is OK with their choice and has chosen to share it with me. | 0.06% | 1 |
| accepting and proud they trust me to tell me | 0.06% | 1 |
| why anger??? get over it!!!! | 0.06% | 1 |
| be supportive | 0.06% | 1 |
| would love them but try to turn them bk to biblical teaching | 0.06% | 1 |
| Never had to worry about that. | 0.06% | 1 |
| how old is the kid? | 0.06% | 1 |
| It's hard to accept a child being gay even today. It's a kind of grief because you're possibly grieving the loss of potential grandchildren and all that entails, as well as grieving the kind of life they'll have that you've imaagined. | 0.06% | 1 |
| I'm not a parent | 0.06% | 1 |
| unsure, never experienced | 0.06% | 1 |
| not angry, understanding it may have been hard to be honest | 0.06% | 1 |
| Would be shocked but accepting | 0.06% | 1 |
| IDK What I would do till I am put to the test! | 0.06% | 1 |
| I might not like their choices but I will always love my kids. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Not angry and accept them | 0.06% | 1 |
| Not angry, sad child didn't trust me enough | 0.06% | 1 |
| fall on the floor in disbelief | 0.06% | 1 |
| Not sure how I would react. | 0.06% | 1 |
| understand everything, no judgement | 0.06% | 1 |
| Love , then just the s Aaron me | 0.06% | 1 |
| Accept it | 0.06% | 1 |
| WOULD NOT BE MAD EITHER WAY | 0.06% | 1 |
| Totally accept it | 0.06% | 1 |
| unconditional love!! | 0.06% | 1 |
| understand why they lied and accept their choices | 0.06% | 1 |
| Would sit and listen to their story, I would explain the Bible's views on living the lifestyle in the most loving way I could and tell the child that I love them unconditionally and I am always here. | 0.06% | 1 |
| I DON"T CARE! | 0.06% | 1 |
| i dont have any kids, but if i did i would feel bad that they had to hide their true feeling for so long, but would be happy for them and accept them for who they are!! | 0.06% | 1 |
| I don't have children. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Upset with them but would still love them even though you disagree with their choice | 0.06% | 1 |
| let it go, it's their life | 0.06% | 1 |
| Will accept them no matter what and support them and it's not a choice being gay | 0.06% | 1 |
| would hug him/her and have a long heart-to-heart conversation of acceptance | 0.06% | 1 |
| treat them with love | 0.06% | 1 |
| Accept him/her as is | 0.06% | 1 |
| no children | 0.06% | 1 |
| child does not know what it wants.............................. | 0.06% | 1 |
| It's their life. | 0.06% | 1 |
| ?ust supportive, not angry | 0.06% | 1 |
| be a little upset, but accept it fully, it's his/her life choice | 0.06% | 1 |
| Not sure. | 0.06% | 1 |
| it's their life support them. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Hate their choice hate the lies but love them | 0.06% | 1 |
| love my child no matter what but not love the choice | 0.06% | 1 |
| Not angry at all....why would anyone be angry | 0.06% | 1 |
| Love them because they are my child. | 0.06% | 1 |
| deal with it they are your kids | 0.06% | 1 |
| just love them | 0.06% | 1 |
| be disappointed but still love them | 0.06% | 1 |
| not sure how I would react | 0.06% | 1 |
| 1) I'd hardly call pretending to be straight when being gay is usually met with great hostility "lying". 2) It isn't a choice. Nobody would choose to be something that made people hate them, kill them, beat them up, and be disowned by their families. | 0.06% | 1 |
| accepting because obviously they felt they couldn't trust me and that's on me | 0.06% | 1 |
| n/a - not a parent. no idea how i'd feel | 0.06% | 1 |
| Not mad at all and love them no matter what | 0.06% | 1 |
| If my child feels the need to lie to me about this, I've probably done a poor job parenting. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Accept it & be happy for them | 0.06% | 1 |
| no kids, no interest, their choice | 0.06% | 1 |
| accept them without recriminations | 0.06% | 1 |
| glad the it is out in the open | 0.06% | 1 |
| I wouldn't be angry OR unaccepting. I would be happy they felt they could finally tell me and accept it. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Try to be understanding and supportive | 0.06% | 1 |
| PRAY PRAY PRAY PRAY THEN PRAY SOME MORE | 0.06% | 1 |
| Not sure, pray it dont happen | 0.06% | 1 |
| love and support them cause I don't care | 0.06% | 1 |
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| I would be sad but still love them and accept them | 0.06% | 1 |
| How about are NOT angry and understand their choices | 0.06% | 1 |
| Get a life ! it is what it is. | 0.06% | 1 |
| not angry at all. These options suck | 0.06% | 1 |
| astonishment | 0.06% | 1 |
| heartbroken for the tough life they have; work hard to accept and love | 0.06% | 1 |
| let it go. It isn't about you. | 0.06% | 1 |
| Disagree but love them unconditionally and pray for them | 0.06% | 1 |
| Do not know | 0.06% | 1 |
| sit down & find out the whole situation. dont get angry | 0.06% | 1 |
| accept all | 0.06% | 1 |
| Accept them completely because they were probably scared to death to tell you and may not have realized it themselves for a long time. | 0.06% | 1 |
| totally fine with their decision, not angry or in disagreement | 0.06% | 1 |
| Still love my child very much. | 0.06% | 1 |
| understand why they may have hid the truth, accept choices and be happy they were finally able to tell you | 0.06% | 1 |
| No children, but I wouldn't be angry and happy they told me. | 0.06% | 1 |
| I AM NOT AGREE | 0.06% | 1 |
| acept and love them | 0.06% | 1 |
| not angry, accept them for who they are. they probably lied because they were afraid of your response | 0.06% | 1 |
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