Results: Your child announces they're gay after lying about their preferences for several years, you:
Published on 12/14/2015
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Your child announces they're gay after lying about their preferences for several years, you: Are angry about the lying but understanding of their choices
50%
878 votes
In complete disagreement and cannot accept their choices
21%
363 votes
Other (please specify)
29%
510 votes
Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
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3.83% | 67 | |
n/a | 2.46% | 43 |
na | 2.34% | 41 |
Accept them | 0.40% | 7 |
don't know | 0.29% | 5 |
no kids | 0.29% | 5 |
not angry | 0.23% | 4 |
neither | 0.23% | 4 |
I don't know | 0.17% | 3 |
Not angry at all | 0.17% | 3 |
understanding | 0.17% | 3 |
accept | 0.17% | 3 |
acceptance | 0.17% | 3 |
not sure | 0.17% | 3 |
undecided | 0.17% | 3 |
Support them | 0.11% | 2 |
Not Applicable | 0.11% | 2 |
ok with it | 0.11% | 2 |
no idea | 0.11% | 2 |
supportive | 0.11% | 2 |
their choice | 0.11% | 2 |
don't care | 0.11% | 2 |
do not care | 0.11% | 2 |
idk | 0.11% | 2 |
Accept what I can't change | 0.06% | 1 |
I'd be saddened that they felt they had to lie and would accept their orientation. Gay is not a choice, you're born that way. | 0.06% | 1 |
there choice | 0.06% | 1 |
try to understand that they were scared and now try to accept their decision. | 0.06% | 1 |
deal with it | 0.06% | 1 |
i would understand why he/she did not tell me. | 0.06% | 1 |
don't have kids | 0.06% | 1 |
love them no matter what their choices are | 0.06% | 1 |
Not angry. Grateful they let me into their life. | 0.06% | 1 |
N/A both of my kids are normal heterosexuals, thank God | 0.06% | 1 |
I would be happy that they finally felt comfortable enough to tell me | 0.06% | 1 |
respect their choice and accept it | 0.06% | 1 |
I don't even want to consider it | 0.06% | 1 |
........ | 0.06% | 1 |
meh | 0.06% | 1 |
complete acceptance & relief for them | 0.06% | 1 |
accept both | 0.06% | 1 |
o k | 0.06% | 1 |
how about just understanding? | 0.06% | 1 |
I would understand and not be angry. | 0.06% | 1 |
love them and wait a bit so i could think clearer | 0.06% | 1 |
are sad that they would feel uncomfortable about telling the truth to their prejudiced parents | 0.06% | 1 |
I am understand of their choice, and also understanding that they felt the need to lie. | 0.06% | 1 |
none of the above! | 0.06% | 1 |
accept them, love them and help them with any difficulties that arise | 0.06% | 1 |
Accept them and love them | 0.06% | 1 |
NOT be mad, but LOVE my child regardless. | 0.06% | 1 |
I wonder what kind of relationship you have with your child if they have to lie about being gay to their own parents. As a parent, how could you not have known all those years that your child was different? | 0.06% | 1 |
Accept them for you they are, and consider that maybe it was my behaviour that caused them to feel that they had to lie to me in the first place. | 0.06% | 1 |
Support my child and tell them to never be afraid to tell me anything! My love is unconditional | 0.06% | 1 |
Wouldn't care | 0.06% | 1 |
I'm not angry nor do I disagree, I hug them and tell them I love them and I'm proud of them for being brave enough to tell me. | 0.06% | 1 |
total shock | 0.06% | 1 |
accept what it is | 0.06% | 1 |
It would shock me but I would still love my child. | 0.06% | 1 |
i'd be understanding, loving and accepting | 0.06% | 1 |
Upset that they lied but not angry and always understanding. | 0.06% | 1 |
accept and move on | 0.06% | 1 |
I mind my own business. | 0.06% | 1 |
I probably knew and wold be glad they were comfortable talking to me. | 0.06% | 1 |
there should be a no child option | 0.06% | 1 |
figured it out long ago and really don't care | 0.06% | 1 |
accepting | 0.06% | 1 |
other | 0.06% | 1 |
accepting and understanding | 0.06% | 1 |
I would not be angry and would accept them. | 0.06% | 1 |
so what | 0.06% | 1 |
nonjudgmental | 0.06% | 1 |
whatever turns them on | 0.06% | 1 |
support and love the child | 0.06% | 1 |
love them and understand how difficult it was for your child to tell you the truth because of shame or fear of hurting you. Be kind. | 0.06% | 1 |
Love them no matter what | 0.06% | 1 |
am not angry about the lying and understand their choice | 0.06% | 1 |
Accept it and be happy they finally came out and told me about it. They have to be happy in life too. It is not like they r a criminal or anything!!!! They just have a different sexual preference. They r still the same person you loved before the | 0.06% | 1 |
still love them | 0.06% | 1 |
I accept her, no matter what. | 0.06% | 1 |
are understanding | 0.06% | 1 |
none of my children are gay | 0.06% | 1 |
grow up | 0.06% | 1 |
total acceptance | 0.06% | 1 |
Stand by them | 0.06% | 1 |
this is an awful survey. both answers are negative. ACCEPT THE CHILD FOR WHO THEY ARE | 0.06% | 1 |
no thoughts | 0.06% | 1 |
doesn't matter.... still my kid | 0.06% | 1 |
Not angry and love them anyway. | 0.06% | 1 |
I'd be disappointed they lied, but would support them | 0.06% | 1 |
It's not a choice, born that way, lying is usually because of crappy parents | 0.06% | 1 |
Love them | 0.06% | 1 |
understanding that it takes time to accept a different sexual preference , so NA to both options | 0.06% | 1 |
RIEN A DIRE C SON CHOIX | 0.06% | 1 |
Are accepting and supportive | 0.06% | 1 |
Acceptbit they can love who they want | 0.06% | 1 |
support them for telling you. No anger, just love | 0.06% | 1 |
Thankful they found their way to their truth | 0.06% | 1 |
fuck you | 0.06% | 1 |
Am accepting | 0.06% | 1 |
not cut and dry answer | 0.06% | 1 |
shock | 0.06% | 1 |
Um, being gay isn't a choice, moron. | 0.06% | 1 |
are not angry at all. Just accepting. | 0.06% | 1 |
not angry about anything at all. it is my child who i am supposed to love unconditionally. | 0.06% | 1 |
Fully accepting and sad they felt they had to lie. | 0.06% | 1 |
no experience, don,t know | 0.06% | 1 |
I WON'T BE HAPPY BUT I WILL ACCEPT THE CHILD | 0.06% | 1 |
love them anyway | 0.06% | 1 |
N>A> | 0.06% | 1 |
GAY IS A SIN NUFF SAID | 0.06% | 1 |
ACCEPTING WITHOUT JUDGEMENT | 0.06% | 1 |
Accept it. | 0.06% | 1 |
Neither-- I am completely supportive no matter what. I have no problem whatsoever with my child being gay. | 0.06% | 1 |
Not angry, understanding of choices AND why they lied. | 0.06% | 1 |
acept it | 0.06% | 1 |
Provide unconditional love and acceptance, including of why they felt the need to lie. | 0.06% | 1 |
be understanding | 0.06% | 1 |
Don't have children | 0.06% | 1 |
Give them a huge hug and love them! | 0.06% | 1 |
I'd hug them and tell them that I've known all along. | 0.06% | 1 |
understanding, even about lying | 0.06% | 1 |
not angry but understanding of their choices | 0.06% | 1 |
wtf | 0.06% | 1 |
Disagree but try to understand & accept b/c don't want to lose child | 0.06% | 1 |
I would not be in agreement with their choice but will love them the same regardless. | 0.06% | 1 |
continue to love them and support them | 0.06% | 1 |
I'd just hurt that they felt they needed to lie all of those years. | 0.06% | 1 |
wait and see they may change their mind again, no need to be angry either way. | 0.06% | 1 |
it is their business | 0.06% | 1 |
Lame answer choices | 0.06% | 1 |
see comment section | 0.06% | 1 |
what ever they want | 0.06% | 1 |
it's all good - not angry about either, i love my kids. | 0.06% | 1 |
hopeful they are happy | 0.06% | 1 |
what | 0.06% | 1 |
"Ok. " | 0.06% | 1 |
i would hold my head high knowing my child had the courage to tell me either way. totally accepted | 0.06% | 1 |
show acceptance | 0.06% | 1 |
Not angry, but wish they had confided in me sooner | 0.06% | 1 |
understand that maybe they were unsure about how to come out about it, and support them 100% | 0.06% | 1 |
would not be angry. I'd be proud of them for telling me, even if it took 40 years. | 0.06% | 1 |
Accept and love them for god's sake. That's your child!!! | 0.06% | 1 |
i would not be angry this is a hard thing for some people to do and i would support my child no matter what | 0.06% | 1 |
I would not like to see it. but I love my child unconditionally | 0.06% | 1 |
Accept their choices | 0.06% | 1 |
Don't know how I'd react. | 0.06% | 1 |
What? | 0.06% | 1 |
Sad that they felt they couldn't come to me sooner | 0.06% | 1 |
poorly phrased question | 0.06% | 1 |
I would be shocked but would accept it. | 0.06% | 1 |
It`s their life and I love my child as long as she is not a mass murderer | 0.06% | 1 |
IT WILL BE ALRIGHT | 0.06% | 1 |
I am just fine. I'm happy if their happy. | 0.06% | 1 |
Accept them as they are and am glad they finally came out. | 0.06% | 1 |
accept whatever they decided | 0.06% | 1 |
Anger solves nothing, disappointed it took this long to tell us, but very important to accept it for what it is. | 0.06% | 1 |
Talk it out | 0.06% | 1 |
feel happy that they are comfortable now | 0.06% | 1 |
disagree with their choices, stay in touch, but have a strained relatoinship | 0.06% | 1 |
accept and understand it | 0.06% | 1 |
I wouldn't like the lying; and definitely not in agreement of their choices | 0.06% | 1 |
are very sad | 0.06% | 1 |
accept who they are and understand why they kept it secret | 0.06% | 1 |
understanding...not angry | 0.06% | 1 |
I would be sad that they felt they had to lie to me about their sexual preference. I would hope that they would know that their sexual preference has no bearing on my love for them. | 0.06% | 1 |
Accept their choice regardless of my beliefs | 0.06% | 1 |
after 18 they can do what rver | 0.06% | 1 |
Understanding of everything, accept their choices | 0.06% | 1 |
I would be happy that they are now comfortable enough to be honest. | 0.06% | 1 |
I would accept my child no matter what | 0.06% | 1 |
i would never shun my child for the chouces they make, even if i didn't agree. they would still be my child and i would still love them. | 0.06% | 1 |
accept their choice and would try to not show anger towards them | 0.06% | 1 |
Angry, but I'm not sure whether I could accept it. | 0.06% | 1 |
Accept them. Its your child. | 0.06% | 1 |
happy they trust me at this point in time... | 0.06% | 1 |
Accepting and not angry | 0.06% | 1 |
Love them unconditionally | 0.06% | 1 |
The child knows the right time to tell you or anyone else their preference. Would not matter to me when they announced their preference. I would still love them. | 0.06% | 1 |
Wish they'd felt like they could tell me | 0.06% | 1 |
unconditional love | 0.06% | 1 |
dont care that they are gay or that they lied | 0.06% | 1 |
Fully accept and love them as a parent should | 0.06% | 1 |
don't accept their choice but love them anyway | 0.06% | 1 |
Are not angry because maybe they were in denial or simply just were not ready to come out sooner, understand that who they love doesn't change how much I love them, and continue to hope they have a happy and fulfilling life | 0.06% | 1 |
na, but if i had kids, i'd be understanding and supportive right from the beginning | 0.06% | 1 |
accept your child no matter what, there was probably a reason they were hiding it from you... | 0.06% | 1 |
probably already knew, and accept it | 0.06% | 1 |
just hope the find happyness | 0.06% | 1 |
Be understanding that it was hard for him/her to come out and be accepting | 0.06% | 1 |
I wouldn't be mad for them lying. It's their choice when to come out. | 0.06% | 1 |
fully supporting and as understanding as possible | 0.06% | 1 |
i have no kids ,but wish any of them good luck | 0.06% | 1 |
Keep loving them | 0.06% | 1 |
not angry, understanding | 0.06% | 1 |
surprised, but ok. | 0.06% | 1 |
love my child and understand | 0.06% | 1 |
n/a - no kids. | 0.06% | 1 |
Disappointed and wanting the child to talk about it more with me. | 0.06% | 1 |
. | 0.06% | 1 |
Would love my child no matter what! Would not judge child for lying. | 0.06% | 1 |
accepting and sad that they felt they have to lie..my bad!! | 0.06% | 1 |
would not be in agreement but would accept them for who they are | 0.06% | 1 |
No anger, fully supportative. | 0.06% | 1 |
Accept they weren't ready to tell me and proud they are ready to be who they're meant to be. | 0.06% | 1 |
I would accept them for who they are. | 0.06% | 1 |
Understand the lying and hope they are happy. | 0.06% | 1 |
understand why they lied and understand their choice is their own and not mine | 0.06% | 1 |
Glad they now feel comfortable enough to tell the truth. | 0.06% | 1 |
are sorry they felt they couldn't tell you the truth | 0.06% | 1 |
love him/her no matter what. | 0.06% | 1 |
I'm okay with it | 0.06% | 1 |
If they have found love, I'm happy. | 0.06% | 1 |
total acceptance - always - | 0.06% | 1 |
Am understanding , no matter what, they are your child | 0.06% | 1 |
Pray about it. | 0.06% | 1 |
Understand my child was in a difficult position if they needed to lie to me to begin with. | 0.06% | 1 |
It's their choice as to when they feel comfortable telling me. Support them no matter what. | 0.06% | 1 |
love & support | 0.06% | 1 |
I wouldn't be angry at all it's are to admit it to yourself and others. | 0.06% | 1 |
It doesn't matter. | 0.06% | 1 |
dont care | 0.06% | 1 |
Understand it was hard for they to accept and admit and understand their choices; support them | 0.06% | 1 |
want to support them | 0.06% | 1 |
support them 100% | 0.06% | 1 |
not angry but understanding | 0.06% | 1 |
I would love them even though I would totally disagree | 0.06% | 1 |
my child would never lie about that, why would they? | 0.06% | 1 |
Accept their disclosure lovingly and tell them I'm so sorry they were unable to share their feelings sooner | 0.06% | 1 |
are happy they decided to trust me. | 0.06% | 1 |
We're all human | 0.06% | 1 |
It is what it is | 0.06% | 1 |
Church | 0.06% | 1 |
na, no children | 0.06% | 1 |
Totally sympathetic and supportive of their life style. | 0.06% | 1 |
I am accepting and happy my child is OK with their choice and has chosen to share it with me. | 0.06% | 1 |
accepting and proud they trust me to tell me | 0.06% | 1 |
why anger??? get over it!!!! | 0.06% | 1 |
be supportive | 0.06% | 1 |
would love them but try to turn them bk to biblical teaching | 0.06% | 1 |
Never had to worry about that. | 0.06% | 1 |
how old is the kid? | 0.06% | 1 |
It's hard to accept a child being gay even today. It's a kind of grief because you're possibly grieving the loss of potential grandchildren and all that entails, as well as grieving the kind of life they'll have that you've imaagined. | 0.06% | 1 |
I'm not a parent | 0.06% | 1 |
unsure, never experienced | 0.06% | 1 |
not angry, understanding it may have been hard to be honest | 0.06% | 1 |
Would be shocked but accepting | 0.06% | 1 |
IDK What I would do till I am put to the test! | 0.06% | 1 |
I might not like their choices but I will always love my kids. | 0.06% | 1 |
Not angry and accept them | 0.06% | 1 |
Not angry, sad child didn't trust me enough | 0.06% | 1 |
fall on the floor in disbelief | 0.06% | 1 |
Not sure how I would react. | 0.06% | 1 |
understand everything, no judgement | 0.06% | 1 |
Love , then just the s Aaron me | 0.06% | 1 |
Accept it | 0.06% | 1 |
WOULD NOT BE MAD EITHER WAY | 0.06% | 1 |
Totally accept it | 0.06% | 1 |
unconditional love!! | 0.06% | 1 |
understand why they lied and accept their choices | 0.06% | 1 |
Would sit and listen to their story, I would explain the Bible's views on living the lifestyle in the most loving way I could and tell the child that I love them unconditionally and I am always here. | 0.06% | 1 |
I DON"T CARE! | 0.06% | 1 |
i dont have any kids, but if i did i would feel bad that they had to hide their true feeling for so long, but would be happy for them and accept them for who they are!! | 0.06% | 1 |
I don't have children. | 0.06% | 1 |
Upset with them but would still love them even though you disagree with their choice | 0.06% | 1 |
let it go, it's their life | 0.06% | 1 |
Will accept them no matter what and support them and it's not a choice being gay | 0.06% | 1 |
would hug him/her and have a long heart-to-heart conversation of acceptance | 0.06% | 1 |
treat them with love | 0.06% | 1 |
Accept him/her as is | 0.06% | 1 |
no children | 0.06% | 1 |
child does not know what it wants.............................. | 0.06% | 1 |
It's their life. | 0.06% | 1 |
?ust supportive, not angry | 0.06% | 1 |
be a little upset, but accept it fully, it's his/her life choice | 0.06% | 1 |
Not sure. | 0.06% | 1 |
it's their life support them. | 0.06% | 1 |
Hate their choice hate the lies but love them | 0.06% | 1 |
love my child no matter what but not love the choice | 0.06% | 1 |
Not angry at all....why would anyone be angry | 0.06% | 1 |
Love them because they are my child. | 0.06% | 1 |
deal with it they are your kids | 0.06% | 1 |
just love them | 0.06% | 1 |
be disappointed but still love them | 0.06% | 1 |
not sure how I would react | 0.06% | 1 |
1) I'd hardly call pretending to be straight when being gay is usually met with great hostility "lying". 2) It isn't a choice. Nobody would choose to be something that made people hate them, kill them, beat them up, and be disowned by their families. | 0.06% | 1 |
accepting because obviously they felt they couldn't trust me and that's on me | 0.06% | 1 |
n/a - not a parent. no idea how i'd feel | 0.06% | 1 |
Not mad at all and love them no matter what | 0.06% | 1 |
If my child feels the need to lie to me about this, I've probably done a poor job parenting. | 0.06% | 1 |
Accept it & be happy for them | 0.06% | 1 |
no kids, no interest, their choice | 0.06% | 1 |
accept them without recriminations | 0.06% | 1 |
glad the it is out in the open | 0.06% | 1 |
I wouldn't be angry OR unaccepting. I would be happy they felt they could finally tell me and accept it. | 0.06% | 1 |
Try to be understanding and supportive | 0.06% | 1 |
PRAY PRAY PRAY PRAY THEN PRAY SOME MORE | 0.06% | 1 |
Not sure, pray it dont happen | 0.06% | 1 |
love and support them cause I don't care | 0.06% | 1 |
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I would be sad but still love them and accept them | 0.06% | 1 |
How about are NOT angry and understand their choices | 0.06% | 1 |
Get a life ! it is what it is. | 0.06% | 1 |
not angry at all. These options suck | 0.06% | 1 |
astonishment | 0.06% | 1 |
heartbroken for the tough life they have; work hard to accept and love | 0.06% | 1 |
let it go. It isn't about you. | 0.06% | 1 |
Disagree but love them unconditionally and pray for them | 0.06% | 1 |
Do not know | 0.06% | 1 |
sit down & find out the whole situation. dont get angry | 0.06% | 1 |
accept all | 0.06% | 1 |
Accept them completely because they were probably scared to death to tell you and may not have realized it themselves for a long time. | 0.06% | 1 |
totally fine with their decision, not angry or in disagreement | 0.06% | 1 |
Still love my child very much. | 0.06% | 1 |
understand why they may have hid the truth, accept choices and be happy they were finally able to tell you | 0.06% | 1 |
No children, but I wouldn't be angry and happy they told me. | 0.06% | 1 |
I AM NOT AGREE | 0.06% | 1 |
acept and love them | 0.06% | 1 |
not angry, accept them for who they are. they probably lied because they were afraid of your response | 0.06% | 1 |
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