Results: How Parents Punish
Published on 03/23/2024
I was going to add "Their Progeny" to the above title, but, to not add any potentially unfamiliar words to any Tellwutters' vocabulary (too late?!), I'll add here that, in case atone couldn't figure it out already, yes, I'll be asking about parents punishing their children
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1.
If you're a parent who administers or administered discipline to your child(ren), do or did you enact the same punishments on your child(ren) by which you were disciplined in your childhood? Yes, at least one way in which I was punished
24%
507 votes
Uncertain
10%
220 votes
No
25%
517 votes
Not Applicable
41%
856 votes
2.
2.
If you are a parent who administers discipline, do believe yourself to be more lenient, less lenient, or about equally lenient as your own parents when it comes punishing offenses against rules you've set down for your kid(s)? More lenient
21%
439 votes
Equally lenient
19%
392 votes
Less lenient
10%
215 votes
Undecided
9%
185 votes
Not Applicable
41%
869 votes
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3.
Here's a question everyone here should be able to answer. Taking into consideration the age of a child at which any given punishment is meted out, which do you believe are appropriate...and, hopefully, effective in curbing disobedience? Spanking
24%
514 votes
Making a child sit in a chair for a specified length of time
25%
532 votes
Making a child stand in a corner for a specified length of time
15%
311 votes
Depriving a child of screen (extending to all electronic media?) time
44%
928 votes
Depriving a child of dessert
13%
281 votes
Confining a child to his/her bedroom for a specified length of time
27%
574 votes
Slapping a child over the knuckles with a ruler or other similar instrument (I may be recalling this from what I've read or heard about discipline administered by nuns at Roman Catholic grade schools)
3%
63 votes
Lecturing a kid as to why what s/he did was wrong and disrespectful to your authority (and disobedient to God, or sinful)
39%
829 votes
Other (please specify)
12%
260 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 2.54% | 109 | |
| N/A | 0.51% | 22 |
| na | 0.49% | 21 |
| None | 0.12% | 5 |
| NOT APPLICABLE | 0.09% | 4 |
| restriction | 0.05% | 2 |
| None of the above | 0.05% | 2 |
| no kids | 0.05% | 2 |
| no children | 0.05% | 2 |
| Not sure | 0.05% | 2 |
| Explaining rather than lecturing | 0.02% | 1 |
| Talking to my child | 0.02% | 1 |
| Taking away other privileges. | 0.02% | 1 |
| I don’t have children | 0.02% | 1 |
| Swift kick in the butt | 0.02% | 1 |
| uncommitted | 0.02% | 1 |
| just talk to them and explain why the behaviour is wrong | 0.02% | 1 |
| never had kids | 0.02% | 1 |
| Not a full spanking but a little swat on the bum... | 0.02% | 1 |
| Discipline, not punishment, should be your focus, with actions that reflect the way you need to redirect behavior | 0.02% | 1 |
| Give a "public service" task that reflects and corrects the wrong they did. | 0.02% | 1 |
| What? | 0.02% | 1 |
| Not a parent; no comment whether you think everyone should be able to answer or not. | 0.02% | 1 |
| Spanking was always a last resort and only had tp be used on one or two occasions. The children have to know that then the breaking point is reached , there will be consequences. once they realized that, there was no problems. | 0.02% | 1 |
| depends | 0.02% | 1 |
| using common sense | 0.02% | 1 |
| talk with child about the behavior | 0.02% | 1 |
| none of these are appropriate | 0.02% | 1 |
| Where's the N/A? | 0.02% | 1 |
| It entirely depends on the offense. For minor offenses, I'd make my kids curl up with a book to read, it always worked to calm them (or put them to sleep) | 0.02% | 1 |
| ? | 0.02% | 1 |
| It all depends on what the child did. Thankfully we just had to explain what and why whatever that did was wrong. We had really good kids who grew up to be really good adults a parent could be proud of. they | 0.02% | 1 |
| ... | 0.02% | 1 |
| All I had to do was give her The Look. I don't know what she thought I was going to do if she didn't stop whatever, but it must have been truly awful. she never tested me, or I don't know what I'd have done. | 0.02% | 1 |
| Discussing what was wrong or disrespectful. | 0.02% | 1 |
| communciating | 0.02% | 1 |
| . | 0.02% | 1 |
| Rewarding positive behavior. Trying to not reinforce negative behavior with attention, especially at a young age. | 0.02% | 1 |
| Talking to your child | 0.02% | 1 |
| Apologizing or making restitution | 0.02% | 1 |
| Communication and respect at any child’s age will be to form an understanding and be able to speak to one another- without too often physical confrontations | 0.02% | 1 |
| Ask them , "What were you thinking?" Did you like the outcome? How could you have done it better>? I found they would learn right from wrong when they decide what was so in the end. | 0.02% | 1 |
| None of the choices. | 0.02% | 1 |
| A single firm, no hard, swat on the butt can work wonders. | 0.02% | 1 |
| discussing and letting the child speak with lots of time to reflect what they did (and why it is wrong) | 0.02% | 1 |
| what | 0.02% | 1 |
| Talk to your children or children calmly,ask them if they know why they did what they did and why they should not,,is another option | 0.02% | 1 |
| nothing worked until i started taking away a visit from his cousins | 0.02% | 1 |
| teaching to correct | 0.02% | 1 |
| Time out | 0.02% | 1 |
| no experience with that here | 0.02% | 1 |
| Do not have a kid | 0.02% | 1 |
| no comment | 0.02% | 1 |
| None of the above!! | 0.02% | 1 |
| I don't know | 0.02% | 1 |
| NOT A PARENT | 0.02% | 1 |
| punishment is lazy parenting | 0.02% | 1 |
| None of the above are acceptable | 0.02% | 1 |
| Sniff her hair and pinch her nipple. In a creepy whisper, tell her not to get married and to keep this a secret. | 0.02% | 1 |
| Poor survey | 0.02% | 1 |
| n/a not a parent | 0.02% | 1 |
| Physical punishment is child abuse! | 0.02% | 1 |
| I'm no help---not a parent. | 0.02% | 1 |
| If you are a good and fair parent you won't need to mete out any punishment. | 0.02% | 1 |
| Do not have kids so my opinion would not be appreciated by those who do. | 0.02% | 1 |
| Depriving child of an event or activity. | 0.02% | 1 |
| number one you dont ever hit a child or furbay that makes me see red as i was severl beaten my drunken dad both my mom and suffered badly as for disapling a child that way how about you sit down a nicely talk about what they did wtong thats the be | 0.02% | 1 |
| Ffs | 0.02% | 1 |
| Birth control to avoid all of the above | 0.02% | 1 |
| It depends on the child. | 0.02% | 1 |
| No keds | 0.02% | 1 |
| I have cats instead of kids. | 0.02% | 1 |
| Did the child agree during some family meeting that these punishments would be appropriate in the event of certain types of inappropriate behaviour?? | 0.02% | 1 |
| whipping | 0.02% | 1 |
| Sitting them down or going for a walk with them to explain things in a way they will understand. | 0.02% | 1 |
| I don't punish my children. I discipline them. | 0.02% | 1 |
| talking, not lecturing | 0.02% | 1 |
| Move away from punishment toward appropriate consequences | 0.02% | 1 |
| none of this stuff....... | 0.02% | 1 |
| severe talking to | 0.02% | 1 |
| I don't lecture, we talk until they understand what was done wrong and why, and how they're going to make up for it. I certainly don't tell them some invisible friend is going to get them. | 0.02% | 1 |
| Taming.io | 0.02% | 1 |
| No children! | 0.02% | 1 |
| I have good reason | 0.02% | 1 |
| No kid | 0.02% | 1 |
| discussing the issue and then discussing how to make changes for next time | 0.02% | 1 |
| Talking with them to see if they understand what could happen when they behave that way. | 0.02% | 1 |
| explain what they did wrong and why it is | 0.02% | 1 |
| xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx | 0.02% | 1 |
| Reasoning | 0.02% | 1 |
| Taking away gadgets | 0.02% | 1 |
| n0 | 0.02% | 1 |
| explained what they did wrong | 0.02% | 1 |
| Do no have kid | 0.02% | 1 |
| none of the above, not discipline but cruelty | 0.02% | 1 |
| don't have children | 0.02% | 1 |
| I use reasoning and shows them the good and bad of what the problem is and nicely asked them which of the two answers they will apply to themselves if it were them. | 0.02% | 1 |
| n/a, no kids and don't want to speak for parents who do | 0.02% | 1 |
| No idea no experience | 0.02% | 1 |
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4.
Of what few memories I have any longer of the many Saturday morning cartoons I watched in my childhood, one line relevant to the topic of this survey has stuck with me for decade. Ernie Devlin, a motorcycle stunt rider likely based on Evel Knievel, told a male youth in his charge--a nephew?--that he was "too old to spank, but too young to hit" (I'm probably paraphrasing a bit?) for the wrong the boy had done. Have you ever ben in a quandary as to what punishment to give a child of yours because of the kid's age? Yes
18%
368 votes
Uncommitted
14%
295 votes
No
28%
582 votes
Not Applicable
41%
855 votes
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5.
If you're currently a parent or have been one (adopted and foster ones count), how about sharing in a comment what your greatest challenge in disciplining a child? Yes, I'll share below.
5%
109 votes
Not w, but maybe another time?
18%
377 votes
No, I'd rather not share any such challenge I've had in this forum.
22%
467 votes
Not Applicable
55%
1147 votes
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