Results: Donating to your child's piggy bank
Published on 09/17/2015
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My daughter, who has not spoke to me since 11.11.2014 has finally started college; studying computer science (can do calculus, like her dad, in her sleep). Having anything to do with me would make her miserable. So I stay away, not even a letter, text, nothing. However, she works hard and has managed to change her life completely around. I want to send her money for school, but it needs to be anonymous, otherwise she would probably resent any book that my money helped her buy. What do you think is the best way to donate to her for school?
Send her a check, knowing that's it me
16%
240 votes
Send it to the college and have them give it to her anonymously (some colleges do this)
24%
357 votes
Send it to her church, have them give it to her as an anonymous gift
10%
143 votes
Don't send anything to her
18%
263 votes
Not sure
24%
366 votes
N/A
15%
218 votes
Other (please specify)
3%
38 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 0.25% | 4 | |
| send it to me | 0.06% | 1 |
| put the money in a bank account and present it to her at graduation. | 0.06% | 1 |
| reach out to her and let her mend the bridges | 0.06% | 1 |
| charity ...a real good cause...seeing that she doesn't care ! | 0.06% | 1 |
| give cash to a trusted relative & they can pretend it's from them. | 0.06% | 1 |
| try to talk to her, if not safe your money | 0.06% | 1 |
| find a way to make up with her and offer to help | 0.06% | 1 |
| reach out to her asking if you could gift it to her. | 0.06% | 1 |
| is there a relative that can give it to her? | 0.06% | 1 |
| through her dad,maybe? | 0.06% | 1 |
| that is fuckin pathetic. | 0.06% | 1 |
| i know it would be heartbreaking for you not sending her money , but don't you should not be treated that way . | 0.06% | 1 |
| call and meet with her and reconcile, then give money | 0.06% | 1 |
| ask a close friend of hers give it to her or a family member. | 0.06% | 1 |
| add a letter telling her youre sorry for how your relationship ended up and that no matter what youre proud of her and wish her the best | 0.06% | 1 |
| give to her mother let her give it to her | 0.06% | 1 |
| give it to another relative to give it to her? | 0.06% | 1 |
| best thing is to maintain the status quo. under the circumstances she will not appreciate anything you try to do for her but get upset and may respond in a way that will make both of you unhappy. | 0.06% | 1 |
| need more info | 0.06% | 1 |
| patch it up with her then give her the money. | 0.06% | 1 |
| in notes below | 0.06% | 1 |
| send it anonymously to where she live or where she work | 0.06% | 1 |
| anonymous "grant" | 0.06% | 1 |
| send her a money order or gift card | 0.06% | 1 |
| when she wants to have contact she will | 0.06% | 1 |
| would need to know why she will not communicate with you | 0.06% | 1 |
| seek peace with your daughter. | 0.06% | 1 |
| what is the issue | 0.06% | 1 |
| tell her you is there for her if she want you help. try to make up | 0.06% | 1 |
| put all of you effort to restore the relationship with your daughter. begin planning, and don't give up. | 0.06% | 1 |
| send it after talking it through a relative but not anonymously | 0.06% | 1 |
| why ? | 0.06% | 1 |
| how about fixing that relationship first | 0.06% | 1 |
| text her and let her know you love her (wouldn't you want your mom to do that for you?) good luck | 0.06% | 1 |
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Whether you have kids or not, do you believe that once a parent always a parent?
Yes
69%
1042 votes
No
9%
140 votes
Undecided
10%
157 votes
Not Applicable
11%
162 votes
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3.
If you are estranged from at least parent, hating them more than Bid Laden himself, and you randomly received money from that parent (maybe this situation has already happened to you) what did you do or would you do?
Accept the money
23%
346 votes
Send it back
8%
123 votes
Rip it up (assuming it's a check, money order)
4%
62 votes
Look at it, do nothing
4%
56 votes
Not sure
19%
288 votes
N/A
43%
649 votes
Other (please specify)
2%
27 votes
| Other Answers | Percentage | Votes |
|---|---|---|
| 0.19% | 3 | |
| loved my parents and wish they were both still alive | 0.06% | 1 |
| guilt money is transparent. | 0.06% | 1 |
| you should be ashamed of yourself if you are not speaking to your parents. | 0.06% | 1 |
| donate to chruch | 0.06% | 1 |
| take it without gratitude to spite them | 0.06% | 1 |
| have a 30-yr-old cousin who was a nightmare for her parents. when they wanted her to do anything, she fought it. your daughter may do the same w/$$. let her do her own thing & when she matures like my cousin did, she'll turn around. don't force it. | 0.06% | 1 |
| forgive self, forgive them, love them anyway | 0.06% | 1 |
| look into it first brfoe making a decision | 0.06% | 1 |
| accept the money with a thank you note | 0.06% | 1 |
| send a note "thank you" | 0.06% | 1 |
| say, thank you | 0.06% | 1 |
| talk to my parent and see if we can can back to a peaceful relatinship | 0.06% | 1 |
| give it to charity | 0.06% | 1 |
| accept it and make reconciliation. | 0.06% | 1 |
| donate it to something i cared about | 0.06% | 1 |
| he doesnt give me money, hes too damn greedy | 0.06% | 1 |
| work on my resentment and practice forgiveness | 0.06% | 1 |
| parents have passed | 0.06% | 1 |
| never got anything from either of them | 0.06% | 1 |
| if i am not in real need of it, i would donate it to a good cause. | 0.06% | 1 |
| send it to charity | 0.06% | 1 |
| from experience i have learned that moms love you if it is convenient to them, i love my mom but she has nothing to do with me unless she needs me to do something to make my family happy. she could care less about my health or happiness | 0.06% | 1 |
| thank them for it and then put in the childrens account, and send em the receipt so he will not think i used it for myself | 0.06% | 1 |
| try to work it out. life is too short. we need to do more good then bad. | 0.06% | 1 |
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