Results: Dolly & Carl - 60 Years of Adapting
Published on 03/07/2025
The death of Carl Dean at 82 on March 3rd marked the end of his almost 60-year marriage to iconic singer, actor, and philanthropist Dolly Parton. This survey addresses the adapting that made their marriage successful.

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Dolly Parton has said, "There's a great comfort in knowing that someone loves you exactly for who you are - because he fell in love with me before I became a star". I think this is why Dolly's marriage to Carl worked, despite her transformations over the years. Carl truly loved her spirit and soul. In 1964, when Dolly met Carl the first day she arrived in Nashville at 18, she already had her love for bouffant hairstyles, but her make-up was subtle. Would you be able to adapt if your spouse/partner began to wear heavy make-up and underwent surgical procedures that changed their appearance?

Sure, no problem
12%
281 votes
I think I could adjust.
22%
499 votes
It would depend on how big the change was.
28%
643 votes
I'd resist.
5%
104 votes
I might leave the relationship.
3%
63 votes
I don't have a spouse/partner.
13%
289 votes
N/A
18%
421 votes
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When Dolly and Carl eloped in 1966, with only Dolly's mother attending, Dolly wore an understated wedding gown. As her career blossomed, she became known for her love of self-described tacky, glamorous clothes featuring rhinestones, sequins, and fringes. Do you ever try to influence what your spouse/partner wears?

Yes
7%
168 votes
Sometimes
23%
530 votes
No
30%
682 votes
I don't have a spouse/partner.
22%
510 votes
N/A
18%
410 votes
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Dolly has said, "We both do different things, and it's exciting when we are together". They spent a lot of time apart because Dolly's career required a great amount of travel. Carl accompanied Dolly when she was honored at a BMI Awards banquet in 1966, but he didn't attend other events partly because of his aversion to the spotlight. Hypothetically, could you enjoy a relationship that required spending a lot of time apart?

Yes
17%
400 votes
Maybe
38%
865 votes
No
23%
524 votes
N/A
22%
511 votes
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Income disparity in a relationship can have a terrible impact. When one person earns significantly more than the other there can be a power imbalance, conflict, and resentment. Dolly and Carl successfully worked through the changes in their income over the years. Carl had owned an asphalt-paving business. But Dolly's net worth is estimated at between 400-600 million dollars. Have you ever had to deal with income disparity in a relationship?

I have never been in a relationship.
5%
109 votes
No
35%
812 votes
Yes, but we worked through it.
9%
210 votes
Yes, and it was very destructive.
5%
110 votes
Yes, and it caused our break-up.
2%
35 votes
N/A
25%
575 votes
Yes, but it wasn't a problem for us.
20%
449 votes
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